Ive been using dating apps for 2 years now, almost 3 with no success. The guys i meet dont seem interested in a commitment, at least not with me. And ive only met two of these guys through friends, although the experiences wasnt much better. My experiences in dating have not been good and are honestly making me feel bad in general. I live a pretty stress free life, i dont have drama at work, school, with friends or family. The only thing I am worried about is school but it doesn’t drain me as much as dating has. It’s making me question if i am just not good enough for commitment at all, also considering on just giving up on dating and finding love in general. Although i dont want to do that.

I’m trying my best when it comes to this. Im attractive and fit, i try my best to give them compliments on their looks and their interests/work, i try to communicate although ive given up on that now cause they don’t seem to care or like when i do this lol but when i did , i would try to ask questions and understand why they did what they did or thought the way they did, i would reassure them it was okay for them to be honest (cause sometimes i thought they were unsure if they could be), i try my best to use “I” statements if you have heard of that or know about that. I wouldn’t complain to them about things going on in my life, i mean again theres not too much to complain about but even if i did have something, i didn’t talk about it in detail. So i don’t believe I was adding stress to their life. None of them took me on real dates, they either said they would and didnt, or just invited me over to their place, or took me on one or two and that was all. Ive been here before so i know cook and cleaning for a man is important to getting him to commit but ive also heard that i should be doing this for a man whose not taking me on dates or showing effort. Yet doing that seems to be only way I can think about to get them to show effort. But i also dont want to do it myself, i feel its more for when things are getting serious or are serious and I probably wouldnt do it on a regular basis until there was a commitment and we lived together. Ive also tried lowering my standards on looks several times and recently resorted to just swiping on every guy, cause I couldn’t tell if i was just going beyond my league. Can’t tell if that will help yet.

Basically I’ve tried hard. But none of it seems to work and im not meeting guys who just naturally want to take me on real dates or commit. And i dont have issue with getting a second, third, fourth “date” and so on. Just real dates. And cant tell if thats because they want sex or not. So i cant discern if its just that i am meet the wrong guys or if i am just not doing enough or if im just not enough in general. Ive also asked two guys (the only ones i felt comfortable asking) that ive talked to for feedback, one said he wanted someone more solid and he wasn’t sure about my drive but he was also very mean and so i didnt know if i should take what he said as genuine advice, the other guy was seemingly infatuated with me or love bombing so he said nothing was wrong with me.

So should I get off the apps? Or Should I be doing more? If anyone wants to hear more about the situation, and give me advice that would be very, very, very much appreciated. Although i would only like to do it privately if thats alright. If not then that is fine and any advice would be helpful. Thank you.