Hey! Long time lurker here. I'm UK 27f in a 2 year relationship with 30m.

We moved in together in the summer, and I've been working on becoming a well rounded RPW for the last year. My man and I have had a really difficult time finding the ability to lead and be led, but we are there now!

I felt it was going incredibly well, my man was more loving and affectionate than ever, he seemed happy, he began to open up more and ask for more time together, suggest dates and even asked me to show him how I like to cook!

Part of this, I believe, is because I stopped refusing to give him head or experiment sexually. I've approached him enthusiastically, fulfiled every request he's asked (even when I'm tired or don't feel like it!), even woke him with head one night after he mentioned he'd find it super hot! I'm fulfilling his sexual needs 3 or 4 times a week, and he says he loves it.

I used to refuse quite often before, because he had an active porn addiction and generally got quite rough and degrading during sex when he was watching regularly. I'd say I was tired, or some other excuse. When we did have sex during this time period it was often initiated by him, and focused on his pleasure, not mine. He went to therapy for this, and our sex life got better for a long while! Then, he relapsed, and I refused again up until a few months ago, when I decided to be more forgiving and compassionate. I don't believe that witholding sex was the right thing to do.

So, I am giving, he is happy with our sex life again, but I am not recieving any sexual attention other than the occasional grab, or touch, or he'll jokingly pull my panties down and give me head for half a second, then redress me and run away. It's all great fun for him, but I am SO unsatisfied. He would happily just receive head from me forever as far as I can see.

He knows this, we've talked about it once or twice but in the spirit of not being pushy or reducing my sexual value in his eyes, I stopped asking and hoped he would lead.

He tells me he hasn't watched porn for months and I believe him. He's been very open about his usage before and I believe he would be honest if he had.

Is there something I'm missing? Am I being too giving? How can I approach this with him whilst maintaining values, being compassionate towards him and holding integrity?

tl;dr - I stopped refusing sex, but now my OH has stopped fulfiling my sexual needs.