Domestic Violence Isn't Just A Female Issue

imextremelymoderate · 2024-01-14T03:03:32+00:00

Crazy story. When I was 11 my mom called the cops and told them I hit her and she had bruises to prove it. Of course I denied the false allegations and the cops asked me to provide a statement. Not sure if she was trying to scare me into submission or get me sent to juvenile hall. That was decades ago, and I don't speak to her anymore

Gold_Supermarket1956 · 2024-01-14T01:30:54+00:00

DV for men is pretty much she can beat on ya and you can't do anything... You call the cops and she will hurt herself to make it look like you put hands on her

FinancialAbuseMelbou · 2024-01-14T07:06:03+00:00

My baby daughter has recently become terrified of shoes because the day I got a protection order against her mother, I was beaten with them.

She is constantly checking the fridge for food because we were deprived of it and it’s now got a few basics in it so she wants to make sure it’s still there.

She is carrying around her empty happy meal box because she had her first happy meal after her mother was banned from the home and it was the happiest day of her life.

She is finally comfortable enough to know she’s not going to get smacked for being a child and has started laughing out loud and singing in her toddler way of “dooo dooo dooo” while playing with her baby doll.

Domestic violence is FAR from being a female only issue and I just wish we were allowed to recognise that without fear.

Aqua-man1987 · 2024-01-14T08:01:33+00:00

The thing most WOMEN have been told is that unless they're not being physical, the abuse is accepted because its subtle, and we are men and should just deal with it.

I was told by and Ex that I'm not a man for not showing her enough patience, I helped with childcare when she studied - child wasn't mines, I helped tidied and look after the house and her dog, I didn't live there at the time. Helped her with mediation for the Father of her child that would be berating/verbally abusive to her continously over 9years until I came into the picture, overall I thought her how to love herself and she's worth more than just a pretty face and three holes as she has an unhealthy relationship with sex, at 15 she had a boyfriend 25year old, who her parents would let into the house and was well aware of his age.

Guess who was deemed the abusive and controlling one?

63daddy · 2024-01-14T00:26:05+00:00

That’s one of the better articles describing the situation I’ve ever read. Thanks for sharing.

Many good points but one I think especially relevant:

“Of the half that did not, [speaking to reciprocal violence] women were actually more likely than men to be the instigators of the violence.

This doesn't mean that the outcomes of domestic violence are always equal; men tend to be bigger and stronger than women, and therefore are more likely to cause serious harm, even in situations where violence is reciprocal.”

I think a common and flawed argument is that because women often come out worse when things escalate, it must be men’s fault, but as the article states numerous studies show women initiate more DV than men and this misconception in turn impacts whom police arrest, which sex victim services focus on, etc.

Of course some of this misconception is a result of disinformation such as the feminist Duluth Model.

Nurse-Cat-356 · 2024-01-14T09:07:02+00:00

It seems pretty universal over all four relationships. Mf. Mm. Ff. Other/other.

However there's always the issue of upper body strength and musculature.

If my wife and both her sisters attacked me. I'd win . In a land slide.

Minimum_Guarantee · 2024-01-14T07:55:51+00:00

In which cases do you ever believe females?

IllustriousPie2271 · 2024-01-19T10:04:10+00:00

As someone who just got out of a relationship that was starting to be domestic violence, because no matter how many times I thought told her to stop hitting me or that hurts or I don’t like that she kept on doing it and if she ended up staying with me for longer I probably definitely would’ve starting to get abused on a daily basis. I’m happy that I left her.

Title	Domestic Violence Isn't Just A Female Issue
Author	warmy1818
Upvotes	175
Comments	85
Date	January 13, 2024 11:02 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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