I found out that my spouse of 8 years was in a serious relationship with another man for a whole three years. They were taking international trips together and scamming me in the process. It was the most painful thing I have ever experienced. I was suicidal for a long time.

After feeling like death for a whole two weeks since finding out, I woke up from the house I had bought for us. Took one suit case and drove off. My friends thought I was crazy for living everything behind - I didn’t have the energy to fight. I was confused.

But it turns out it was the best decision for me. I moved to a new city. Got an apartment and my journey towards healing has been awesome.

Today, almost a year after, I am the happiest I have ever been. I have spent all the time I can get to know myself. Forgive myself. And love myself.

I have travelled. Readjusted my perspective about life. Had the best sex of my life almost on a weekly basis. And my future is looking more promising than it did when I was married.

Being betrayed by someone I loved was the absolute worst experience of my life. But I am so glad it happened because I have never loved myself more because of it. And I have realized you can only find sustainable happiness when you put yourself first.

To the gentlemen going through it now - trust me, it gets so much better.