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Help me diagnose this interaction I just had

mrpmyself

February 16, 2024

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End of a long fucking day, and a long fucking week. Things are all good between us though. I’m getting into bed ready to read and go to sleep.

Wife: “I’ve got to do some work this weekend”
Me: “why?”
Wife, sarcastically: “because I’ve got to do some work this weekend”
Me: confused. Start getting ready to respond defensively then catch myself and STFU
Wife: “it was a stupid question though, asking me why”
I just say “ok” and start reading. End of interaction.

As the sarcastic cunt rolls over and goes to sleep, I’m pissed off and wondering what the point of that was. I can come up with two explanations:

A) shit test, which although I STFU I still failed cos she got me to react defensively
B) me responding rationally / overtly to her communicating feelings / covertly (that she’s stressed about work or annoyed it’s going to interfere with the weekend)

What say you, MRP?

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Title	Help me diagnose this interaction I just had
Author	mrpmyself
Upvotes	0
Comments	21
Date	February 16, 2024 10:46 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askMRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/1asm0m5/help_me_diagnose_this_interaction_i_just_had/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askMRP/help-me-diagnose-this-interaction-i-just-had.1245587 https://theredarchive.com/post/1245587

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Let's take just the information that you've provided so far. The two of you are laying in bed about to go to sleep. She already hates her job and is feeling some uncertainty about her future in her career, and now her weekend is being cut short because she has to go in on Saturday as well. But at least for now she doesn't have to think about all that because she's comfortable in bed. She mentions to you that she has to work because it's a break in the routine (i.e. logistics), and now she can go to sleep knowing that everything is set for tomorrow.

Except that you start asking questions which, by your own admission, will start a conversation that centers on how unfulfilling her job is, with a side of anxiety over potential job loss. To address the question head on means that every unpleasant thought she's trying to avoid would come rushing back. If she has to spell out why she doesn't want to talk about all that, she'll end up laying in bed frustrated that her husband doesn't understand her. So she dismissed the question because NOTHING good could possibly come out of asking that question at that time (i.e. it was a stupid question).

There are few absolute truisms when it comes to women, but one rule that ALWAYS applies is that you cannot save her, and that she doesn't want to be saved anyway. Most of the time you'll see this mentioned with regard to young women in their party/hoe phase, but it's broader than that. It applies right now to your wife when it comes to her job. Stop trying to save her. If the job starts to affect you then you deal with that head on, but if she wants to be miserable at work then let her.

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