Like the title says, I made it a point to visit places that were meaningful to me during my marriage to just let myself feel whatever emotions came up.
I did this both when I was separated and after I was divorced. Not some type of "emotions tour" where I drove around all day visiting those places, simply when I was in an area that had a meaningful location and I felt like mentally and emotionally I was in a place to truly experience the loss, sadness, anger, etc. I would drive to that spot, park, and just let down my emotional and mental guards. Some locations were more painful than others, surprisingly other locations I just felt the joy of whatever transpired there. Either way, I feel like it helped me move forward and honor my memories, both good and bad.
There's probably some term therapists use when doing this (e.g., location submersion therapy or something), I just let it naturally happen once and realized how helpful it was.
I haven't been to every location that was meaningful, we lived in three different states so that may take a long time (if ever), but within the main city we spent our marriage in I visited all the places we've lived and I can tell when driving around within those locations that I'm much better off.
Just want to share a little success story with some of you that may struggle driving past/visiting locations with lots of memories.
Keep your heads up brothers
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