Worry less about 'rejection' on cold approach

zenboy_69 · 2022-08-16T09:39:26+00:00

There's a problem with this outlook.

This can lead men to "stupidly" play the numbers game, where you're just going through girl after girl waiting for a yes girl to turn up. This makes you less of an attractive person because your heart's not really in these interactions.

If you're working on your charisma and flirting skills, you'll eventually widen the pool of women that will be interested in you, regardless of how many women along the way aren't interested.

Game and seduction skills exist and can be trained. Of course not every girl will be interested in you, but it's not only a numbers game and not only a matter of waiting for yes girls to turn up.

Ultimately the goal should be to cultivate outcome independence while still putting in right action. Wanting to cycle through girls to eventually land on a yes girl is still outcome dependent.

putcoolusernamehere · 2022-08-16T15:34:34+00:00

I’ve kinda grown to actually love rejection. It shows me that I’m taking action and I made my intent clear.

Though I must admit that occasionally super blunt rejections get to me. I asked this one girl if she wanted to get coffee with me sometime and she just immediately said “no” in an emotionless voice. I was thinking “damn I respect you so much more than those women who give their number, text back once, then ghost, but that’s a brutal way to do it lol.”

UUnknownFriedChicken · 2022-08-16T11:42:29+00:00

To me, what you're saying is so obvious. I'm amazed that people actually get fooled by these "coaches". No you don't have a 1-in-5 chance of getting laid, and no there's not a nigerian prince wanting to split his wealth with you.

badass_2407 · 2022-08-16T11:07:21+00:00

Trying & getting rejected is better than not trying & ending up in friendzone.

Amikatey · 2022-08-16T08:46:04+00:00

It's not looks, game just give you your girls, you can't vibe with somegirls no matter how hard you T.

Liberaler · 2022-08-16T09:44:06+00:00

An 'expert' in your body would have ALMOST identical results

His eloquence, his vibe, his situational/social intelligence, his routine, his understanding of logistics and his ability to not sabotage himself would change ALMOST nothing? Are you serious?

andr386 · 2022-08-16T14:59:00+00:00

Yep, and being rejected after an approach is not rejection.

You might think that you are making a seducing approach. But you are only doing the most normal thing. It's only normal in social situation to approach people. The seduction comes later.

I don't suffer from the rejections when doing networking at social events or when building my social circle. It's only approaching and despite sometimes having further intent, when you learn to talk to anybody, you know that many people don't want to talk to you for many reasons. As a proof I cannot count the amount of people who rejected even talking to me, who later apologized for being rude the first time we met.

My whole self-esteem is not put into question every time I approach a girl. I usually do it very lightly and the very same way I'd approach a Granny at a bakeoff. And yes, even the flirting is second nature as I would do it with the Granny or anybody when I've established it's a dynamic that works with them. Only when the approach and the flirting is on the way do I consider it right to start to 'seduce'.

Usually all of this is pretty normal and expected from a social person. I've never been seen as a creep. On the other hand I never used pre-made lines except the most transparent and known one as a joke (but not a joke, this is a fine line). I never start to do magic tricks or ridiculize myself. I don't practice peacocking and other stupid things like that. Simply approach, flirt (or not), and listen. No reasons to be crushed for a rejection there.

funny_acolyte · 2022-08-16T16:21:33+00:00

Instead of taking to girls. First know how to socialize people. That way your conversation skills will be in point. Then get into flirting

FaithInStrangers94 · 2022-08-16T17:31:47+00:00

Any man who approaches 21 women in a day is not someone to be admired because at this point any courage is outweighed by horniness ego and desperation in my view

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-08-16T11:02:22+00:00

It has never been a numbers game. That's a total fallacy. You and those guys you refer to just have no idea what you are doing and what is actually making you so unattractive to women. You'd have better chances of success if you just say at a bar all night and did nothing.

devHaitham · 2022-08-16T13:57:39+00:00

Whats IOI?

James_Cruse · 2022-10-17T08:32:29+00:00

None of this post is true.

You’re just essentially saying: It doesn’t matter what you do, just approach and if the girl thinks you’re physically good looking, you’re in and if not don’t bother.

You know how I know this isn’t true? I actually cold approach confidently during the day and I can tell you, I’ve NEVER been rejected 21 times in a row by hot women lol. And doing that at a club, I’ve never had to approach more than 10 women in a club to get results.

I’ve seen the infields of both of those guys and they don’t have confident and masculine non-verbals. Why does that matter? Because women can tell how you think abour yourself. If you’re not truly confident in yourself - why would she be?

Women want confident, strong masculine men that are great leaders and have a very strong internal reference for themselves and their own happiness and ultimately feel a great sense of freedom. Why? Because women completely lack this on a biological level so they seek it in men.

Saying: well RsdMax couldn’t do it so how the hell could I? Lol, because Max is clueless.

This is all just excuses for your own failure and laziness. The fact you’re saying this tells me you don’t regularly approach because you’re scared of failure.

Title	Worry less about 'rejection' on cold approach
Author	sidbunch6
Upvotes	62
Comments	56
Date	August 16, 2022 8:00 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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