What is the justification for wishy washy girls

beautifultomatillo2 · 2022-08-13T00:41:08+00:00

I've always heard that girls will bend over backwards for dudes they really like and find attractive. Maybe those muscles just aint big enough yet.

Vangelis76 · 2022-08-13T01:59:35+00:00

I'd line up more than 1 girl at a time and go out with whoever is more eager and follows through. Women like the feeling of being the one chasing and chasing the guy who they see him as the prize. The guy who's too busy to bullshit around because he's on his purpose and his time is precious and kind of scarse for those who don't deserve it. So if she flakes and backs away, just let her go. If she TRULY wanted to be with you, she'd frickin move mountains to make it happen. Been there, done that.

w00ters · 2022-08-13T01:25:05+00:00

Been there my man, wasted far too many months on it. It'd be best to be upfront and mention your concerns, either that or just cut your loss before getting to invested.

vicvicious420 · 2022-08-13T04:52:09+00:00

Dating is crazy now. Girls are constantly getting hit up. If someone strikes a women's interest more she will likely pursue them and quick to ghost. I'm not saying this to be a bitch. Its just the truth.

AngeloMacon · 2022-08-13T02:57:35+00:00

If you're getting the first part happening, girls asking to hang out and being aggressive with you. You're doing something right, don't change what you're doing. The girl being flaky is independent of you unless you texted some batshit stuff or sent her wall of texts.

hotchocalatesauce · 2022-08-13T08:40:47+00:00

In my experience, just put them on the back burner and look else where maybe she'll come back maybe she won't and you'll forget about her how it usually goes.

Calamity__Bane · 2022-08-13T04:56:31+00:00

People reflect your internal state back at you. If women are being wishy-washy and flaky, it’s because somewhere in your process, you are being indecisive. The solution is to get very clear about what it is you want, and pursue it.

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-08-13T04:25:47+00:00

If you have a high tolerance for BS you should try as hard as possible to get them on a date. I for example, have an extremely low tolerance for BS which is why a woman gets only one chance with me. I like being pursued rather than pursuing.

Disastrous_Schedule8 · 2022-08-13T02:36:45+00:00

So there was a 4 year sprint when the Colts (I think don't kill me the story was from tipping point the book) kept making it to the Superbowl and losing horribly. When the players were asked why they were losing so badly even though they had phenomenal seasons. There was a common thread. The players would say. "Since we were in the Superbowl I decided to lean on what I knew best"

The problem is what they knew best was the habits from thier failing seasons. They would play the season as a team but then decide to lean on their own experience for the Superbowl and there personal experience wasn't them playing as a team.

So it's sounds like she doesn't know how to actually initiate or take charge beyond saying hi like most women. So she is defaulting to what she knows best. How to be chased. A woman approaching doesn't change the dynamics of game because all she knows is the chased part of the game. She will move all the way up to the point she is comfortable with then she will regress to what she knows best.

Not all but a general rule of thumb.

peduxe · 2022-08-13T11:49:25+00:00

I don’t know this person but my cold read is that she doesn’t want to go on dates, she just wanna have fun.

You need to be able to decipher early on what kind of girl she is. Most girls I mess with aren’t looking for long term partners and just want to fuck guys they keep around.

Invite her to some event you were going anyways with your mates and ask if she wants to attend.

Once you’re there give her little to medium attention and focus on guaranteeing you’re having a blast be it with her or with other girls in the event.

Make her see what’s she’s missing and she’ll 100% approach you naturally.

2022-08-13T01:29:24+00:00

Nope. Not doing anything wrong they’re just gamers

celestinehehe · 2022-08-13T15:46:45+00:00

Honestly if you were my brother I’d just tell you to cut people like that off. I don’t understand why people aren’t quick and sharp to refine their prospects. If she’s being wishy washy then any bad outcome she gets (ie she loses a date with you) is on her, and if that upsets her she should have the integrity to speak up. If she doesn’t, you haven’t lost much.

I’m saying this under the assumption that you aren’t a sleazy guy or someone just looking for hook ups.

Don’t try to justify bad behaviour, move away from it and you’ll find someone who aligns with you.

cangero0 · 2022-08-13T03:51:26+00:00

They're just not very good people, ditch them

iswearthisisntafake · 2022-08-13T01:04:20+00:00

Look at it from this perspective: You occupy an incredibly tiny portion of her brain space and spends little time thinking of you (relative to everything else in her life). Occams Razor says the simplest explanation is likely the correct one, which in this case whatever excuse she gave was likely her being honest. You may feel like it happens specifically to you, but that's only because you're stuck to your limited perspective.

Butter-85 · 2022-08-13T01:07:15+00:00

I’ve had the same problem with guys. Not sure it’s a gender thing.

Ugly_Pedalya · 2022-08-13T01:49:28+00:00

No sir you’re not doing anything wrong, continue on and focus on the grind 💪🏻🙏🏻

P7o7s7t7a7l · 2022-08-13T01:52:37+00:00

They don't want you to fall in love with them.

2022-08-13T16:01:56+00:00

They werent that interested. You probably could tweak a few things you did but I doubt 9/10 it wouldve changed things. Any moderately attractive girl in dating scenes get like multiple date propositions weekly. They say yes to all of them then weed out ones theyre not super hot on as time comes closer since there isnt that much time to date everyone lol.

Dont dwell on this or care too much. You could have even fucked and done dirty shit and get flaked on asap. Thats the game these days, get used to it.

Title	What is the justification for wishy washy girls
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Date	August 13, 2022 12:36 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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