Want to ask out this barista. How often should I stop by?

letsgetrandy · 2022-08-01T17:36:31+00:00

Do what’s natural. Don’t hover. And don’t waste time… if you want to ask her out do it the next time you talk to her.

Ok_Eye6886 · 2022-08-01T20:15:44+00:00

Seems like you're good to go for getting her number only things that might happen is awkward coffee purchases after but that'll only be awkward if you act like it is. And it'll die out anyway. So go for it.

atomant88 · 2022-08-01T19:42:16+00:00

dont approach people at work

2022-08-02T00:37:48+00:00

You should have asked her out since the beginning . You don’t need to become a regular to ask her out, worse case she says no. I went out with my friends once and I asked a waitress out, we hooked up for two years and I just did it knowing she may blow me off, she didn’t. You miss 100 percents of the shots you don’t take

Nullroute127 · 2022-08-02T02:42:18+00:00

A few pointers here.

you will likely need to call out that there is a faux pas with asking out girls at work. If you say it first she's not allowed to think it. "It's against the rules and promise this won't affect your profession in any way..." Want to stick a label on her probable emotions, without over explaining yourself or making apologies. You want to say just enough that you come off as socially calibrated, and assured you will not affect her reputation at work.
you do not want to visit repeatedly before you make a romantic advance. Otherwise you will always be a friendly customer in her mind. You may even be well served to call out the fact that you've seen her twice without asking her out as a joke, "I need to not become an caffeine addict so there's something I need to tell you, but I don't want you to get in trouble" if she asks you what you have to say it subconsciously frames it that she has to accept whatever comes out. Essentially, she asked for it.
you want to try to minimize any other customers or coworkers in the area if possible.
you can write your number on a piece of paper and give her the option to call you, that way the ball is in her court. I would do this if you don't get the most enthusiastic response, it gives her a little bit of power, but also makes it clear that you're not going to pursue her unless she's interested. Alternatively, if you get a lot of enthusiasm we can go directly for asking for her number, but even then you'll want to say that you'll shoot her one text to see what's up and you're not going to blow her up.

2022-08-01T23:09:51+00:00

Tell her directly you find her attractive and wanted to take her out sometime the next time you see her.

earthwalker7 · 2022-08-01T23:23:48+00:00

Don’t. You should not hit on people at work.

2022-08-01T17:41:20+00:00

Ask her out the next time you go to get coffee or don’t go at all…

Awkward_Fish_8011 · 2022-08-01T19:35:12+00:00

Personally I’d wait a day. Going back the next day isn’t going to hurt because you have built some type of rapport and you’ll just seem like a regular customer.

SnooHesitations4922 · 2022-08-02T00:12:13+00:00

Exactly once every 3 days. Talk like normal and know some stuff about her before asking her out so u see if she can meet ur standards. Find out if she got kids, a husband overseas, or if she's already going out with chad: the personal trainer.

MywarUK · 2022-08-02T00:24:44+00:00

Get to know her more, nothing wrong going everyday, I go to my local coffee shop everyday, was an attractive woman who works there, got to know her pretty well and after a few weeks in a conversation, she mentioned she is having a week off from work to go away with her partner 👌

Khxjista · 2022-08-02T01:12:00+00:00

I think you shouldn’t go for one or two days and then go. If you guys have talked a couple times and she is in to you then she will probably think of you more in your absence. It also wouldn’t make you look too clingy. But also don’t take longer than one or two days cuz then it’ll seem like you don’t care. I’m just stating as how I would prefer to be approached but I can’t say that would work for any other girl. If she’s really into you it doesn’t matter she would give you her number.

Leo7S · 2022-08-02T01:13:30+00:00

Every second of every day! Storm troop down to that coffee shop Impound on that lady! There is no such thing as 'cringe or creepy'!

Twosidesofthesame · 2022-08-02T01:18:51+00:00

Ok slide her a note to hit you up and she’s not interested don’t then say it’s fine whatever she picks and that you hope it won’t be awkward with whatever ever decision she picks

2022-08-02T05:42:40+00:00

I married my wife two months ago and I met her at her work and asked her out for boba and she said yeah. My buddy also met his wife at where she works. So it’s really if you’re social skills are in order

ThePullAccount · 2022-08-02T06:33:15+00:00

Knowing what it's like working in that kind of environment, ask her out the next time you see her but go there at a time when it's likely to be quiet. You've already built some rapport which is great, so be sincere and get in your own way. Good luck!

megainculu · 2022-08-02T07:16:00+00:00

Ask her out the next time you go. If she says no just say, "no worries take this as a compliment" and act normal as if nothing happened bcoz really nothing happened. Happy hunting 😉

2022-08-02T07:32:59+00:00

Don't waste time. You don't need to ask her out immediately, but you need to make some progress.

Title	Want to ask out this barista. How often should I stop by?
Author	coir551
Upvotes	4
Comments	33
Date	August 1, 2022 5:35 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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