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Nullroute127 · 2022-07-27T07:30:01+00:00

You can be flirty/sexual in low(er) risk ways.

For good examples of this Craig Ferguson and Russel Brand.

She could be explaining what she likes about pottery classes, "I love making a mess with my hands, dirt flinging everywhere, and creating something beautiful with other people"

(raise an eye brow, dramatic pause)

"We're still talking about vases right?" Or "Are you describing a hand made flower pot or an orgy?"

This is powerful because it triggers her emotionally. There's the tension built by your pause, then you release it with a joke. It puts the 'blame' for sexualizing the conversation on her.

One of my favorite canned lines is, "I don't kink shame." Can be used with anything you don't have a better response for.

Once had a girl tell me, "My dog was being misbehaving so I wanted to spank her."

"Note to self, misbehaving is rewarded"

Cookies993 · 2022-07-27T07:23:26+00:00

At what stage of sexual escalation do you struggle? It’s not like one single step from meeting to fucking

Do you keep eye contact? It’s the most simple way to escalate

Do you touch them physically? Still pretty simple, just don’t linger unless they touch/flirt back

Do you take risks after that, like making sexual innuendos, jokes, or even touching sexual areas like their neck, thigh or ass?

Or is it after making out you struggle?

Chicagoj1563 · 2022-07-27T14:48:25+00:00

What you are referring to is showing sexual intent. You can show this in many ways, but eye contact, vocal tonality, your vibe and overall body language will convey alot of this. You can talk about anything and sexualize it. Not that you need to do that, but just know your body language and your inner thoughts create most of this.

Take some risks. Tell a girl she's hot. Tell her you would have sex with her 10 times a day if she was your girl. Do it playfully, not serious. Can you think of any other verbal ways to sexualize conversations? Experiment. Try to be in the moment and not care if something doesn't work. You need to practice to learn how to calibrate properly.

Just know, to learn new social skills you have to challenge your ego. You can't just do what feels comfortable. You will have to start taking some risks by sexualizing conversations.

You can also experiment with compliance tests. Try anything that seems to sexualize the conversation, see what feedback you get. If positive, then keep going. If negative, then pull back a bit, try again after she's more receptive.

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-07-27T10:46:36+00:00

You need to start being more honest. Gave your fears.

Therocksays2020 · 2022-07-27T07:03:26+00:00

Your question is super vague What are you struggling with? Like what part of it?

2022-07-27T17:22:05+00:00

You're just afraid of rejection which will happen whether you're honest and blunt about your interest or not. Letting a girl know you like her without hiding behind vague statements will save you lots of time to do other constructive things.

Rejection is inevitable mate.

JustWilhelm · 2022-07-27T11:27:00+00:00

Look her straight into the eyes, be close to her, get touchy, play with some flirting, keep the tension. Friends don't do that.

2022-07-27T16:26:38+00:00

That sucks bro. Just be flirty and charming

Acceptable_Stop_7063 · 2022-07-27T16:29:45+00:00

You're just aftaid of rejection. You got to realise getting rejected is better than wondering where you stand with that particular person so you can move on to another person.

FranciscotheBull · 2022-07-27T15:11:34+00:00

Don't feel any sexual shame. Lots of guys go through this and you aren't the only one.

I would say try and flirt sexually, but VERY LIGHT. If the woman vibes with it and likes it, you can escalate a little bit and/or keep it around the vibe. It depends on the woman and each situation is different so keep that in mind as well. Don't do it too much because it may look like you just want sex (if it is a one night stand, then it that is different).

It depends on the date and how many you have been on, where you and her met, how she takes everything, how the vibe is so take it with a grain of salt as well. If she touches you on the date, you are in the right direction and she likes you.

justahumanf · 2022-07-27T07:52:09+00:00

You need to flirt with them and with more practice make flirts sexual it's all about doing more practice. there is lots of guides on flirting in internet.

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