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[–]These-Calligrapher 11 points12 points13 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Why didn’t you go through with it the first time?
[–]Hook_me_up 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I was nervous even if i didn't look like it. I never kissed a girl before so i had no idea what to do. I just got closed and then pulled out while smirking. Told her she had to work for it
[–]These-Calligrapher 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Fair. You’ll learn more as you experience more. She may have said no because you didn’t go through with it the first time. There’s a time to tease and a time for action. I blew a couple chances when I 1st started gaming. Never recovered with them lol I just moved on
[–]TryDiscombobulated36 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Play it off like you’re pranking/tempting her if you chicken out of a kiss
[–]TheWhiteWalkerSpeaks 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I went on a date with this girl about 3 weeks ago. At one point I leaned in and went for the kiss. She responded positively and leaned in as well. But i cannot put into words but she was very fast, her lips were moving across my face like flash attempting flashpoint. I pulled back and she did admit she's awkward at kissing. I asked if it was her first time she said no. But we tried kissing a few more times after that, standing and sitting but it just never happened smoothly. We both wanted a casual relationship. But the kiss was such a turn off and awkward, I lost any motivation to see her again.
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[–]TheWhiteWalkerSpeaks 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Trust me that was my immediate reaction to calm her down, hold her face lead her into kissing at my pace. She still couldn't. Gave an excuse that my lips are big and her lips are small. So she's having problem
[–]boxmail2800 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is the way… 100%works… also the grabbing (for lack of a better term) brings focus and eye contact… it’s a very intimate move.
[–]Suspicious-Bid-9583 10 points11 points12 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
No. But if you're feeling bad about kissing .get with more girls and kiss more/watch a guide on kissing
[–]revente 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Also don't overstress over 'kissing experience' or 'kissing techniques'.
Different people have just different preferences, and often it's just a matter of your innate chemistry with a girl.
Some girls like something more 'romantic', some are reserved, and some try to tongue rape your mouth.
Pay attention to what she does and adjust.
Personally i think that many of the girls i made out with were bad kissers. They probably thought the same of me.
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[–]revente 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah! If you still like each other a bad first kiss is a non-issue.
[–]Fidde2305 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Better that it ends that fast. Next will be better
[–]Kadabrium 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
and people say this isnt a meme sub
[–]Hook_me_up 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Can you elaborate
[–]Hook_me_up 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I appreciate you immensely for writing this comment.
The reason because i am into fitness is because it got me out of a very bad state of mind. It started with the gym and it slowly became a hobby of mine to be active. I've gone bouldering, rock climbing, running and swimming. Women are the least of my concern while I am doing the activities i enjoy.
I won't hide the fact that i also work out to keep an aesthetic look, but i wouldn't really say that i do what i do just to attract the other sex.
I started as social outcast who spent 10-12 hours playing games during teenage years, my confidence was nonexistent and i really hated my life. Going to the gym and losing weight made me realize i am capable of achieving my goals, not only that, but knowing I've achieved objectives that the majority of the population has not, gives me a great sense of being proud in myself.
Every new rock i climb or every extra pool i swim is a new trophy in my head. I've also had many much more social interactions both with men and women. I've become very well respected at some of the places i frequent and it has gotten me many possibilities to train my conversation skills.
I agree the post was essentially a low effort rant-vent rather than a properly though out conversation post. Anywho, shes a trainee working at our workplace for 2 weeks. When we first meet, i actually got introduced to her by another woman coworker of mine. I introduced my self, complimented the other girl on her outfit and went on with my day. The next day she was working near my desk, so i had the possibility to flirt a bit and see what kinda person she was. She matched instantly the energy, flirting back and reacting positively. And soon as i broke the touch barrier and escalated kino, everytime we'd talk we kept touching each others. Sometimes I'd see if and where she was ticklish, or shed scratch my back to "annoy" me.
Anyway, there was no actual date, since those were just walks from work to the station. Shes get off work, wait for me and then we'd go togheter to take our trains. The walks felt natural, conversation was flowing nice and flirty and we held hands the whole time.
As for the"won't have sex" part, i made a wording mistake. As we were sitting outside after work, while i was caressing her thighs i looked at her in the eyes and told her that we wouldn't have sex that night, since i had stuff to do. I now realize how totally different this is compared to what i originally wrote.
I think your 5th point is very eye-opening. Why am i interested? Thats such a simple question and yet I'm here tapping on my keys trying to write something, just to delete it.
I know for a fact that shes not into fitness and she occasionally smokes, two things which go totally opposite of my values.
Besides that, shes a fun person to be around, she has a goofy and positive energy which exactly matches mine and we enjoy spending time togheter.
After the kiss, the next day at work she felt cold and distant. After Work i told her that while enjoy those walks after work, i would be glad to meet her outside in a park for of cup of tee or coffee. That's when she told me no.
I'll take my L because, even though the first kiss was pretty mediocre, i would like to continue kissing this girl. Or maybe it is only desperation for intimacy that's making me say these stuff. I also have other women in my life with whom i also flirt and mess around, but never have i kissed a girl before.
Since this lost, I've somewhat ignoring this girl. Shes not giving me any attention so i won't either, i keep doing my thing, keep my hobbies snd my social circle and my positive outlook for life. I'm sad that it ended so abruptly with a bitter aftertaste
[–]willgo-waggins 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Have you considered the fact that maybe she just has stuff to do the whole week? Like did you ask her about the following one for clarity? If she says no to that too then I’d call it a done deal.
But people do have lives.
[–]Hook_me_up 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
She did not try to schedule for another time so i assume she doesn't plan on seeing me again
[–]willgo-waggins 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
But did you ask her about the following week? Just because she didn’t offer it she may not have been thinking about that since you were doing the asking.
Honestly, if the answer isn't either a hell yes! Or dhe doesn't reschedule for another time instantly, she is not enough interested in my opinion. I cant be bothered to waste my time with people who dont look forward to spending time with me
[–]willgo-waggins 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That’s fully understandable and I would feel the same and have acted the same when there isn’t any definite connection. But you had already been out with her twice? That seems to me worth the effort to at least ask to see if she just had plans already that couldn’t be broken.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not sure why you blew that opportunity. Better luck next time
[–]krispykreme01 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just listen to new Kendrick album man.
[–]Goudhaan 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If you don’t fail, you don’t learn. Heads up and focus on someone else. You see the signs to look for and are not afraid to escalate, you’re doing great putting yourself out there. Keep it going champ
[–]alexandhisworld 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Maybe it’s your personality
[–]theweird_blonde 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Also never “tell” someone you’ll be going on a date, or when. It’s always a question. Never assume they want to
[–]vardarac 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
kissless virgin
this fucking phrase needs to die
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