Girls want you to take action!!

shitt_throwaway · 2022-04-06T04:38:45+00:00

Women are mostly passive. You will need to lead and they (if they are willing) should follow. This goes from everything from the initial approach, to logistically getting her back to your place (or hers), and you getting her clothes off.

Now there are some rare situations where the girl is just ready to go and openly active in getting both of you to the bedroom. It can happen if she is in the right sexual state of mind (which hopefully you created), or it's just that time of month and she's thrown the laundry list of "perfect man" traits away temporarily, as she's just looking to get some. These women are fun!

However, this is generally not the case. You will need to propose that she do some legwork in getting to your place, and once she's there, you make a move on her - and see what happens next.

Women are usually good to go if they're coming over alone to your place. They don't put themselves in these sorts of situations if they're not looking to get some.

0h4m_SLF_MPRVMNT · 2022-04-06T00:47:15+00:00

wish I’d read this a week ago haha 🥲

macroxela · 2022-04-06T06:44:11+00:00

This is true as long as she doesn't give any negative body language. Unfortunately, that negative body language can be quite subtle which most men will miss. As long as you take it in stride and not personally, you'll be fine.

NichRigga- · 2022-04-06T12:36:40+00:00

Facts. Ive seen girls go with the first dude that approached them, even if they’re not objectively attractive 😂 saw this at a rave last Friday.

Canadian-Seductioner · 2022-04-06T12:33:25+00:00

I have noticed girls are desperetaly waiting for you to make moves. Even if they say nothing. As long as she stays around, it’s because she is at least curious if not interested.

Like she could be talking to anyone or be getting drunk anywhere in the club but no, she's here with you, she is here.

So as long as you she doesn’t turn around or tries to go away, she’s waiting for you to do stuff. Even if she is impressive and has a bitchy resting face.

Even if she doesn’t show she is interested, she’s waiting for you to talk to her or escalate.

100 fucking percent. Every guy here needs to get this into their heads. If the girl is still hanging around you (and not because she has to) and isn't making excuses to get away from you, she's interested and is waiting for you to do something.

HamsterSashimi · 2022-04-06T08:45:09+00:00

True but goddamn, I wish I just had to stand around and look pretty to get some action

_oct0ber_ · 2022-04-06T22:26:34+00:00

For the most part, that's been my experience recently. I used to think all this stuff was super complicated and technical, but in the past short while I've been leading a lot more and finding that 90% of the time everything is better when I just do what I actually want to do instead of waiting around for something to happen. When I started getting dates just from talking to people or making out with people just because I felt like going for it I remember thinking, "Wait... it was this easy the whole time?!"

95% of the problems you have are in your head. If you act without neediness, have fun, and be a little assertive, it really does make a world of difference. The hardest part is actually walking forward.

tristian_lay · 2022-04-06T13:07:02+00:00

My issue is..when they’re mostly passive like that..what’s the point?

A girl could be DTF but would never utter a word- yeah society tells her “if you’re showing interest, guys think you’re a hoe” and if a guy shows interest he’s conditioned to think “this guy is a creep get away from me”

hotshot117 · 2022-04-06T22:42:12+00:00

They mostly do

Alot of them drop hints in hopes you notice them like dancing near you and dropping these sneaky eye contact moves. Key is recognising it and taking action.

willgo-waggins · 2022-04-06T04:22:08+00:00

You are spot on here.

This is one of the points I have forgotten tonnage when I talk in this sub about no longer approaching women. This sort of situation is a dead giveaway that they are quietly interested but either don’t know how to approach you, don’t have the confidence or are afraid they will be giving their desire away to easily and too early. Understanding that there are societal restraints that keep women from being forward.

As an example this past weekend. I was at three different venues. Two on Friday and one on Sunday. I was out with friends at all.

Now a caveat for me. I am moving to a relationship level here with my FWB so I am not actually looking for or approaching ANY women right now. No interest.

Anyway the second spot on Friday I notice this woman. She is with the pack ‘o girlfriends and a couple of dudes who were obviously with two of the girls. She is (she thinks) looking at me. Pretty obviously checking me out. This goes in through the night including moving strategically around to be closest to where I am standing with my friends (mixed group and one of my best friends who is a cute pixie petite blind with huge tits). She makes it PAINFULLY obvious that she is interested gong as far as intentionally leaning over and rubbing her tits against me at the bar. Even though the band sucked for dancing (it was a grand te opening event and they were really a listening band - really shitty choice by the new owners), I could have scooped her up, separated her from her friends and taken her home without a lot of effort. I just wasn’t hunting because I’m happy where I’m at.

Anyway on Sunday sure enough she and the friend that seemed to be bestie show il at a totally different venue on the opposite end of the city. Again I’m there hosting friends. Mixed group. She has other peeps there but after I go out to dance to the band with my friends she drags her friend over right by me. They keep hanging around and keep going by our table. More brushing up. All the time both places lots of big smiles and lowered eye looks and stuff. She and her girl are hanging with others that are with some older slick types (boat guys this is a riverside venue with docks) one of whom is pushing hard trying to get at her. She isn’t giving him time of day and keeps looking back at me. On the way out she FINALLY gets her courage up and says “bye” with a smile obviously hoping for some convo. I smile and say “see you next time” and walk on out.

Again if I had really wanted ti scoop her up it would have been a minimal effort because she was making herself obviously open to me for the second time and second venue of the weekend. So it pays to pay close attention to exactly what you say that they are there and wanting you yo simply act and take the initiative.

H8beingmale · 2022-04-07T02:33:28+00:00

well duh, thats an understatement, women have always played a passive role in seduction or human mating, forming relationships

blackopsplayer5 · 2022-04-06T09:10:57+00:00

True

DeJuanBallard · 2022-04-06T18:21:09+00:00

Too bad, ......... just fyi, only certain types of dudes are still cold approaching women.

Title	Girls want you to take action!!
Author	insa_max
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Date	April 6, 2022 12:36 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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