Does the concept of Friends With Benefits exist anymore?

Mriconicdev · 2021-12-04T20:20:11+00:00

Yes it exist. You both need to have mutual interest in wanting to be sexually actively with each other and fulfill a need you both want.

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-12-04T20:52:09+00:00

You need to filter these women out very fast. Make it clear that you are not the relationship/boyfriend/hubby material.

RPslimjim · 2021-12-04T23:56:29+00:00

I’ve been spinning plates for years. FwB doesn’t really exist, it never did in my opinion, however casually dating does.

pehanger · 2021-12-04T20:26:55+00:00

"Be in a relationship with me and help support my kids, or no sex for you."

videogames_ · 2021-12-04T20:39:42+00:00

Whoa what do you mean pay? They’re down if you pay them something? Yikes. Times haven’t been bad due to douches but online dating apps have made it all about looks.

Dramatic-Land-5998 · 2021-12-04T21:34:37+00:00

If she asks you for money at all she doesn't respect you & yes fwbs definitely still exist

Chad_Thundermember · 2021-12-04T22:20:21+00:00

It exists. I consider it to be somewhat rare. Either way, I would hate to be in one simply because the girl will end up sleeping with another guy, and to me that just does not feel right.

I think the reason it's rare is because of slut-shaming in our culture, which is absolute bullshit. And even then, when it does happen, both parties if they're smart will tend to keep it a secret.

Infamous_Winter_3209 · 2021-12-04T21:23:51+00:00

Yes definitely still a thing. Plenty of chicks these days into poly things which are pretty much just fwb situations rebranded a lot of the time. You say your a hippy male but doesn’t sound like your talking to many hippy type chicks if they’re all asking for money

Aeon199 · 2021-12-05T03:04:23+00:00

FWBs exist. I, an average looking mid thirties dude, have been in a few recently. Women like sex too, believing in that will help you find them. Somebody mentioned needing money, but my experience is we go dutch more than women who only want monogamy.

There are also a lot of women that list that they want a hookup on dating apps that are making money somehow. Just keep on moving if that's not what you want.

ZealousidealFile1 · 2021-12-04T21:15:32+00:00

It has nothing to do with it. It's the power imlabalance and easy access to earning money that has to this. ONLYFANS, Paid Services etc. Seggs is easily available to women in abundance, man have stopped having standards so women decided i might as well charge to simps to get the best of both worlds

GuyWhoNeedsHelp12 · 2021-12-04T21:22:47+00:00

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Radio_Unique · 2021-12-04T22:40:14+00:00

coz it’s pandemic, they might need help these days

I think girls who are wealthy give sex for fun, they don’t need ur money. Find happy wealthy girls

kittybrehbreh · 2021-12-04T21:37:51+00:00

Take them out and escalate.

Phoshow1111 · 2021-12-04T20:58:45+00:00

Just don’t tell them....problem solved.

RockStarAngel · 2021-12-04T21:23:32+00:00

Yes, they exist. But they can be as complicated as relationships. Most benefit situations I'm in evolved that way naturally, it didn't start. And anyone too eager I know is only in it for the benefits, not the friends.

You must have an established friendship first. And it just has to be natural. Tbh, I think I initiated all benefits situations. That way the only person I had to blame was me if it goes wrong. Because believe me, they can go wrong quite a bit.

Again, many of them are more complicated than any relationship I've been in. But, stop asking your friends just randomly. If the sexual tension isn't there you just become "creepy" and "sex crazed". If you have multiple women in the same group, then they all know you're asking everyone and you're just labeled sex crazed and no one will take you up on the offer.

And, if you're friends are saying they will do it for pay then they are either joking with you, or not your friends. Avoid those ones that will actually do it for pay, they will break your heart. Take the money and run. And they are expensive, as well, my friend.

blankohh · 2021-12-04T20:19:07+00:00

Not to someone with morals…

2021-12-04T21:44:04+00:00

I have a fwb situation rn so I'd say ya, I told her what I wanted and she said she's fine with that

Alextryingforgrate · 2021-12-05T06:51:53+00:00

Sounds like some people are intentionally confusing FWB for sugar daddy.

2021-12-05T07:16:48+00:00

I have never heard of anyone asking for money. You must be doing something incredibly wrong, man.

being_jayce · 2021-12-05T12:59:22+00:00

Different age gap here (19m) but my two friends are basically friends with benefits. She stayed round his one night and nothing relationship wise has come from it since, they just shag and never talk about anything more

2021-12-05T14:13:17+00:00

It exists in the same exact way sex on the first date exists.

They both just kind of happen.

You can't suggest a girl has sex with you on the first date and get a yes. You can't suggest a girl be friends with benefits with you and get a yes.

But if you make friends with a girl and occasionally have sex a bunch of times... Well then...

Icy-Flight-7560 · 2021-12-05T15:39:16+00:00

It does exist! I met my SO as a FWB! We knew we wanted to be exclusive meet up # 2. Before that, I had a FWB for several months.

WheelIntelligent1354 · 2021-12-05T18:24:44+00:00

It does. If you can't find women to casually fuck, then that's on your lack of attractiveness/a few other things. Society didn't change, you're just unappealing.

2021-12-05T19:40:59+00:00

Don't talk about it

Does the concept of Friends With Benefits exist anymore?

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Title	Does the concept of Friends With Benefits exist anymore?
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Date	December 4, 2021 8:16 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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