How to overcome shyness of talking to girls ?

damiancontrol · 2021-11-05T21:18:37+00:00

Everyone's gonna cram the proverbial "just do it" and "don't be shy" advice to you but the truth is... if it's that easy you wouldn't be posting in the first place.

It is true that you just got to be a little more confident and there's a way to do that naturally without forcing yourself. Give yourself a REASON to be confident.

The fuck do I mean?

If you ask Jesus to walk on water he would with zero fucks given because he knows he has the Lord Almighty to back him up.

Now to you, how can you convince yourself that you are confident? Well, here's a hint you said you're "not the fittest." that's an insecurity... that's a reason why you're NOT confident. If we turn that shit around what would happen? If you have a big ass chest, lean muscular arms and a six pack then that would make ANY man be more confident even for just a little.

A lot of guys wants something without putting in the work, please don't be that guy.

Another thing is you have to understand why you're scared. You are scared because your brain doesn't know what "talking to girls" look like. It has literally ZERO data on it. Our brain is a problem solving machine... you feed it data and it will eventually solve the problem for you.

Go look at videos on how you can do this. And visualize it yourself that you're doing it and make it as vivid as possible.

Yes, you have to visualize it cause you have to experience it yourself.

The brain cannot tell the difference between what's real and what's not that's why this shit work (same reason why people are scared when watching a horror movie when we clearly know it's not real)

By doing this, you are literally feeding your brain data on "how to talk to girls" and eventually you'll find charming your way to their pants.

Although this is super hard to do if you're insecurities are dominating your mind (which I think it is) so working on your insecurities (ie getting fit) is essential.

brandonmadeit · 2021-11-05T16:24:44+00:00

Nike just do it. The more you try (and fail) the closer you get to succeeding. The more you put yourself out there the more comfortable you get. What helped me was watching James Tusk talk to women and seeing how is it was. Most of the fear is in your head

soccer-boy01 · 2021-11-05T16:44:00+00:00

It's all a mental thing, maybe it's in your approach. Think "this person seems interesting, I want to get to know them" more so than "she's hot, i hope i can get her number" manage your expectations with encounters and honestly just say fuck it. She's in the same shoes as you, both don't know each other and neither really think they're hot shit or the best person out there. Just try it and worst case is you get a no. Which is good because it means you still went up to her. Overcoming shyness is trial and error and can only be "overcome" by putting yourself in these situations until you realize it's not that bad

HappinesSource · 2021-11-05T19:24:06+00:00

Get rid of the halo effect that makes you believe a physical attractive girl is as valid in other sides of her life and personality. What the hell, it doesn't even mean you would enjoy having sex with her. The most attractive women are often times too self-centered to establish any kind of connection based on providing pleasure to another person

AelfredRex · 2021-11-06T13:50:26+00:00

You're a man in a setting where you are surrounded by pretty young women still in the throws of the raging hormones of late puberty. Some of them are bound to be eyeing you up. All you got to do is look for those women.

Title	How to overcome shyness of talking to girls ?
Author	loofyd
Upvotes	1
Comments	5
Date	November 5, 2021 2:04 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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