TLDR: Don't look at game as the secret to get laid. Look at it as a skill, as something you can grow at, and the only way to do that is to first build confidence in yourself. Be confident in everything you do and how you carry yourself and all you will see is success. Go to the fucking gym.

May be long but if I can help anyone with a similar perspective than I hope you enjoy. I am currently 10 months in. Maybe I shouldn't be giving advice, please correct me.

Background

I never really understood women. I was always the nice guy, everybody's friend, the guy who girls trusted because I was never a threat. I lacked confidence and I used supplication to talk to women. This was wrong. I had a girlfriend of two years who had me in the palm of her hand because I was always afraid to hurt her feelings or make her upset. She changed me into the person she wanted, not who I was. I was weak and emasculated.

That change was game. At first, I wanted to learn because I had my friends and family telling me that I was a different person with my ex and I didn't want to break up with her just to end up alone. Poor mindset. But I took the jump anyways (got to start somewhere) and I broke up with her.

Inner Game - Better Yourself

Learning game in the beginning was a 9-5 of full on mental masturbation. I dreamed of the day I could gain the confidence and lose the fear of walking up to a girl, talking to her, and leave with her number. This wasn't realistic for me at the time but I was dedicated to learning.

I genuinely improved my life in all aspects because I needed to justify to myself that I would actually be an improvement in women's lives. I needed to know that I wasn't just spewing bullshit. This is what helped me gain confidence. Go to the fucking gym (rant at the bottom), eat healthy, be passionate in your career and your hobbies. Imagine for a second that you are depressed, 20 pounds overweight, in baggy clothes and you had no dreams or ambitions. What do you offer? Are you going to walk up to a woman then? You need to be confident that you are actually a good pick for whomever you are about to talk to.

Many people want to display value and confidence. What changed me is when I actually had value to offer, and I didn't have to fake value as a man, but in my mind I knew that I had value. This was the key for me. It isn't hard to change this mindset but it does take work. Many women don't actually care about looks but they do care about how you carry yourself. Upgrade your wardrobe, get a haircut, enhance your vocabulary, and again, go to the fucking gym. Looking in the mirror and being proud of what you see (hopefully muscles) is one one of the hardest parts of gaining the confidence to game.

Drop fears. You can do it. Don't apologize for your desires as a man. You want that girl because she's attractive but now you have value. Don't let her looks distract you. You need to find out if she is worth your time. Be confident that you are not the one who is chasing her, rather, she doesn't know how great you are and you're giving her the chance to meet you. If you are faking this, how can you truly display it? You have value. You can't hide that if it is true.

Okay so you have value, you're working to be your best self, you're happy with the muscle that you've put on (go to the fucking gym) and you see direction in your life... what now? Practice. Remember that tidbit about dropping your fears? Yeah, now it's time for action.

I gained confidence in outer game through interesting means. I fucking studied. Hard. Every waking moment that I could I was reading books, listening to podcasts/YouTube videos while driving, and actually attempting to talk to women.

At first, it was hard. My first approach took me 4 hours in NYC to do it. Fucking NYC? I've never seen the same person twice there. Oh well. The more I learned the more confident I became.

See I'm a firm believer that Inner Game is much more important that outer game. Outer game takes practice. Inner Game is your mindset while you are practicing. One does not work without the other.

Outer Game - Have Fun

Well this is the part where I tell you what insane openers to use and how to hook a set every time. Haha, good fucking luck with that. Listen up. FUCKING PRACTICE AND HAVE FUN. Say crazy shit that might work, might not. Be polarizing, be brave, and don't you ever fucking supplicate. If you have an opinion about something, share it. Women respect you much more when you're honest, rather than bowing down to their words and requests.

I started off direct. Jumped into the fire letting these girls know what the fuck was up. Since I had the confidence built up it worked, for the most part. It wasn't good game by any means. I knew the basics - Push pull, disqualification, emotion, escalation, repeat. Yeah I felt like a stud when it did work. Yeah it got me some lays. But am I the GOAT female manipulator I set out to be, fuck no.

I'm still not. But, I am still willing to learn. Take notes, do Field Reports, understand what worked and what didn't. To do this you need to take risks. Risk is the key in game. See how far you can push that button. A girl just told you that she thought you were cute? Tell her that she would be cute too if she got braces to fix that fucking gap in her teeth (don't do this.) But in all seriousness, you need to play with emotions, your own and your set's. Don't worry about losing her. The moment you do, you lose your power.

I'll briefly explain my understanding of hooking a set, other formats are probably better.

Opening doesn't matter. Go indirect or direct, whatever tickles your bellybutton. Observation/cold-read is one of my favorites because you can really say anything and get away with it, also including a push-pull to be slightly polarizing. This can either start you off with a good set if she responds with a shit test, or she's flattered (IDK why she would be but it happens) "You look adorable, but something is telling me that you're trouble." Okay so that's a challenging statement, she's going to say something back to you. That's the whole point. Get her attention with the open.

Okay so she responds, you respond, now what? Well you need to show her that you're the fucking man BUT you also need to let her know that you want to get to know her (QUALIFY). Best way to do that? Say something ABOUT her and see if you like her answers?. You already did with the open (maybe.) If you ask her where she's from after you say some shit like that then go for it, but understand her response and then see where the set goes. LEARN FROM IT. Women have been asked the same questions a million times. Instead you can say, "You look like you're from the Midwest." Wherever she's from she'll be asking you or thinking to herself, why did he just say that? Be challenging. Challenge her answers and her character. Don't be easy on her, be selective.

I could keep going on and on about what to do but just general conversation is where I have been focusing on. All the other escalations can be found everywhere on this subreddit and other sources. This post is getting way too long for no one to read it so that's it for outer game for now.

Final Takes

Game has improved my life, not even solely because of women. It has improved my ability to see value in myself and do things to give myself value. It has taught me to be a little more confrontational within all of my relationships, not settling because something is easy. Don't look at game as the secret to get laid. Look at it as a skill, as something you can grow at, and the only way to do that is to first build confidence in yourself. Confidence is the key here. Be confident in everything you do and how you carry yourself and all you will see is success. Become disciplined to learn, and become disciplined to create value for yourself as a man. This was mostly a rant of my love for game and how it has transformed my mindset. I am not longer the pussy whipped bitch I was when I was with my ex. I am selective and masculine. And I go to the fucking gym.

Extra - Gym Rant

Yo, listen the fuck up motherfuckers. You better be going to the glorious house of gains and pumping some stiff fucking iron. You have no excuse. I don't care if you can't afford italian seasoning on your grilled chicken. Go to planet fitness, YMCA, local moms group, find a fucking place. I don't care if you're "too busy" boo fucking hoo. You have time to jerk-off and sit on the toilet and watch youtube videos for an hour. You're done shitting. Go to the gym.

There is only benefits from going to the gym. Yeah its hard, yeah it takes a while to see results, but WHAT IN LIFE DOESN'T????? WHAT ARE YOU DOING IF YOU DON'T TAKE RISKS AND DON'T WORK TOWARDS YOUR GOALS? You want to look in the mirror and bounce your pecs like the rock right? Maybe just me. But whatever your goals are, you should always try to make yourself healther and improve your lifestyle.

CHICKS LOVE IT. You want a girl to grab your arms and say wow your arms are fucking hot? You need to go to the gym. You want that V taper right where your bellybutton meets your waist? You need to go to the gym. You want to lift a bitch up above your head and eat her ass like Johnny Sins? You need to go to the fucking gym.

Thats it. Go to the gym. Thanks for coming to my TED talk.