I'm incredibly bad at dealing with rejection

Canadian-Seductioner · 2021-09-01T17:16:01+00:00

You gotta change your mindset from "I'm not good enough" to "she's missing out". Then, and only then, will you be able to handle rejection because it will no longer be framed as being rejected, but rather as the girl making a mistake. Don't put any girl on a pedestal and whenever it doesn't work out with one, it won't matter to you because it's whatever and you know there are others out there who won't make that same mistake.

Pain_Tough · 2021-09-01T17:35:22+00:00

I accepted that that 95% of women would reject me and after that it was a low stakes game. I don’t even need 5%. I just need one good one.

Gaydame · 2021-09-01T22:47:29+00:00

The feelings of self loathing you experience has nothing to do with rejection, that's just the trigger for childhood abandonment issues. It always is.

Having gone through this myself, the only way I resolved it in the end was by getting rejected 100s of times until I didn't give a shit.

After this, if you don't get rejected for a while (because you're not trying), then you do again, it hurts as bad as the first time but you get used to it more quickly.

Long story short, you can't escape your inbuilt trauma responses, but you can sure as hell learn to act despite them.

atomant88 · 2021-09-02T07:38:02+00:00

Bro some people dont even like icecream. You really expect everyone to like you when they dont even like icecream ? You think you're better than icecream ? Icecream is delicious bro

Alive-Doughnut2345 · 2021-09-01T18:15:05+00:00

“The most probable answer to will you give me your number is: are you kidding?”

-Jordan B. Peterson. Accept that the odds are simply not in your favour and take pride in that fact that you are trying anyway. Detach from the outcome

2021-09-01T21:39:13+00:00

Level up first

Therocksays2020 · 2021-09-01T16:45:34+00:00

You should do some thinking into why it hurts you so much. Do you have a low self image. It may be a good idea to invest in therapy so you can get in a better place mentally.

2021-09-01T23:07:26+00:00

Maybe stop practicing so much.

Stujitsu2 · 2021-09-02T06:03:04+00:00

I am somehow reminded of the scene from Yellowstone. Old cowboy and rookie. Rookie says I don't think I am cut out for this kind of work. Old one says nobody is, its gotta be cut into you.

Seems fitting somehow

I'm incredibly bad at dealing with rejection

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Title	I'm incredibly bad at dealing with rejection
Author	Blackmetalpenguin90
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Comments	29
Date	September 1, 2021 4:34 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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