21 years old coming too fast.

captaintrippay · 2018-07-31T14:09:10+00:00

Used to have this problem in my late teens and all this advice is bs. Tried everything, nothing worked. But ya know what did?

Not giving a fuck. I’d bust that nut as soon as it was ready. 2 minutes? Sweet. 30 seconds? Fuck it. I’d recover and go for round 2 like a fucking thoroughbred.

Eventually this dgaf mentality made me stop focusing so much on the nut and it took away all the anxiety surrounding it.

priapula · 2018-07-31T14:17:51+00:00

Round 2

DadOnDabs · 2018-07-31T14:53:18+00:00

Same age as you and went through a similar problem. I started off lasting maybe 1 to 3 minutes. My personal best after implementing the techniques im going to tell you is 3 hours. Here is how you fix your problem.

1) stop watching porn. Seriously the biggest game changer. It changes your brain to force you to get off as quick as possible. Porn is literally brain washing you to see an image and produce a result when that image is seen.

2) have more sex. This will make the biggest impact on your sex game is simply having more sex. Your dick isn't used to the feeling of a vagina and is super sensitive. Fuck more. Your brain is also not used to it and that combined with the porn is making a heavy impact on your stamina.

3) edging. This is something you can do in your free time to help. When you beat your dick (no porn) focus on lasting as long as possible. The moment you get a feeling of (I might cum soon) stop. Give your dick a moment to rest then start back up again. Time yourself if you have to but the end goal should be 20 minutes without cumming.

4) the biggest issue is actually not physical but mental. You (like most guys) are probably thinking right before you slide your dick in "God I hope I don't cum quick, I want her to enjoy the sex this time." Or something along those lines. This is an awful mindset to have. The mindset you should have and need to work on switching to is "I'm going to leave this girl in a wheel chair".

While sex should and does pleasure both parties, if you focus on what feels good for you it's gonna feel good for her. When you're more experienced you can do extra things to get her off and know whay angles work best but for now keep it simple and focus on you.

5) foreplay. So many people skip foreplay entirely. Don't get me wrong there are times when I'll wake up next to a plate, lube my dick, and slide it right in and fuck half asleep but for most situations foreplay is needed (especially if you can't last long). Let me explain.

If you are already practicing edging on your own then foreplay is your edging before sex. It's like a warm-up to a workout. You start by fingering her, then she starts jacking you off while you are still fingering her, you go down on her for a little break on your dick, then she goes down on you, go down on her again to make sure it's wet (combined with some finger action), then slide that dog in. Most important part is to stop what you're doing when you feel you might cum.

6) most important part is to stop when you are getting close to cuming. You can switch positions (you learn which ones don't make you cum as quick as you fuck more), go down on her, go back to kissing, finger her then make her taste herself, or whatever you want (it's all about you).

Just the other day I had a new girl I've been seeing do some really sexy shit. I was about to cum in her mouth before even fucking. I'm talking 5 minutes in. The moment I realized it I pulled her head away got real close to her ear and said "if you're not careful you're going to make me cum" in a sexy deep slow voice. This turned her on like crazy. This brings me to my final point.

7) OWN IT. This not only goes along with this advice but everything you do in life. Owning it (whatever it is) makes women more attracted to you. With the example of the girl I just gave you I pulled her away and confidently said "you're going to make me cum if you're not careful". By me saying it this way I'm really saying "what you're doing is hot and turns me on enough to reward you with my cum but I'm not near done with you yet. Hope you brought your wheelchair."

Another example is when one of my plates came to town for my birthday. I had to pick her up because she lived a few hours away and was staying for a couple days. Started fingering her on the drive back, pulled over on a secluded back road and fucked in my car. It had been a while since we fucked so I came in like 2 or 3 minutes. I did the same thing and whispered in her ear "I guess I've missed that sweet pussy of yours more than I thought." We got home, fucked for 2 hours and went to sleep. She forgot how quickly I came the first time.

8) AND FINAL TIP. What to do if you cum qucker than you'd like. Just remember one thing, dicks always get hard again. Relax, don't get in a negative mind spin, just play some fortnite, get a solo dub, and dive back in that shit. Basically just do something for 10 or 15 minutes to get your mind off it then dive back in. It kills the brains internal screaming saying "GET HARD AGAIN SO I CAN PLEASE THIS GIRL". That's toxic and doesn't work. What does work is giving the brain a short break to forget what happened, then presenting it with that stimuli (some legs wrapped around your head) again.

Hope these tips help. I'll probably make a full post on this in the near future.

chachaChad · 2018-07-31T15:31:52+00:00

Talk to her about but don't be beta about it. Baby, you feel so good you just make me cum so fast.
Own it. Slam her hard. Nut. Play with her.
Recover. Baby you're making me hard again. Slam. You'll last longer.

Pussy is awesome and it's job is to make you nut as fast as you can. It works.

TonytheNetworker · 2018-07-31T13:58:47+00:00

Do Kegel exercises! Improves your endurance significantly.

assholeofthesky · 2018-07-31T14:41:55+00:00

the more you fuck your girlfriend, the longer the sex goes on. you start to get bored of her pretty quickly.

coolidge effect mate. you're 21, this is exepcted

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coolidge_effect

fashfront · 2018-07-31T14:12:56+00:00

Trojan sells condoms that have a numbing agent, you should be able to find them pretty easily at walmart

MrBowlfish · 2018-07-31T16:28:59+00:00

I thought this was an existential angst post when I first read the title. Oh, how time slips between our fingers like grains of sand.

ElijahBurningWoods · 2018-07-31T15:47:39+00:00

Read No more mr. Nice guy if you're not getting enough sex and you cum to fast.

IPunishIron · 2018-07-31T17:53:20+00:00

NO PORN, then try No fap for a few weeks and fap once a week. try horney goat weed too and maybe some cialis or viagra..

chazthundergut · 2018-07-31T18:25:11+00:00

Just go for round 2

Peter_B_Long · 2018-07-31T19:27:30+00:00

Unlike most of the guys here, I have a long recovery period. I used to be able to get hard again within minutes but now it’s a one hit wonder. Although, I do ejaculate an impressive amount.

So because I only have one shot, I have to make it count. First, you should be having sex with your gf a lot more than once in a while. Second, you should read sex god method. That book will help you out a ton.

If you are using condoms, get thicker condoms. Look for “her pleasure”. It will reduce stimulation and help you last longer.

Next, if you are ok with it, smoke weed before. Weed helps me be more present and way more intimate. I’m able to control my body much better, perform better, and last longer.

For sure read sex god method. You’ll thank me later.

MisterRoid · 2018-07-31T20:07:07+00:00

So long as your refractory period isn't long going for round 2 is the obvious option. But there are ways to delay ejaculation. Personally I try to last for as long as I possibly can during round 1 for my enjoyment, because every stroke feels so much better. Basically I take brief pauses whenever I'm getting close. My girl likes a faster pace, so round 1 is all about me and my pleasure. I fuck her harder during round 2 and let her finish before I cum again.

pointster_VSK · 2018-07-31T20:57:23+00:00

Whats with the same questions being asked over & over.

Sometimes i think the same person is asking the same question from diff user accounts.

Or new users are too lazy to use the search function

flapjacksrbetter · 2018-08-01T03:01:35+00:00

Stop jacking off and watching porn. Nofap

BeeBopJoe · 2018-08-01T05:50:17+00:00

You cant last more than one minute every single time? Jerk off either the day before or the morning of having sex.

Throwawaywbcrbc · 2018-08-02T08:09:46+00:00

Do kegel exercises, it will strengthen your PC or BC or whatever it is called muscle and allow you to hold back ejaculation a lot longer, I did it for six months and now I can even hold back wetting my pants when seeing a sexy dream, previously this was impossible.

abudun79 · 2018-07-31T14:02:37+00:00

Stop fapping.

wiffofass · 2018-07-31T19:33:21+00:00

Drugs...obviously. GHB and cialis. You will come in 20 minutes if you try hard enough and the cialis will make you stay hard for round 2.

Title	21 years old coming too fast.
Author	Despacit0
Upvotes	9
Comments	34
Date	July 31, 2018 1:45 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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