Guys,

Ex dumped me two months ago, right after she had a miscarriage. Not sure if the second detail is relevant but thought I would throw it in to demonstrate that this was not a "normal" break up.

Initially, I did all of the things that you are not supposed to do after a break up. I tried to change her mind, I argued with her, I apologized repeatedly. She ended up blocking my phone number and blocked me on social media.

Then, about a month ago she contacted me out of the blue and we have been texting almost every day since. I finally got smart and started flirting with her. She was very receptive to this. Gradually, I escalate to the point where I was sending her to bed every night with a 3-page X-rated text message telling her exactly what I wanted to do to her in bed. She was surprisingly receptive to these messages as well and even admitted that they made her horny.

So, I decided to go for it and suggest meeting up for dinner and then spending the night (at my place). She puts up a great deal of resistance to this when I bring it up. Various excuses from "I am not ready for sex or a relationship right now" to "Sex with you would be nice, but I think it is a bad idea because you are going to want more from me and sex will make it harder for you to move on."

I shut down the conversation after that, and stopped sending the by then daily X-rated short stories. Today, I got a text saying "Hey, have you forgotten about me? I miss your dirty texts."

What am I doing wrong here? How do I escalate to actually f****** her?

TL;DR: Ex dumped me two months ago. Initially made beta mistakes trying to get her back. She blocked me for a month. Unblocked me recently and reached out. Have been sexting her with good results but she refuses to actually hook up.