My "friend" cucked me twice. How to handle this?

MR-island · 2018-04-02T01:51:43+00:00

Listen this guy is one of those asshole guys who just try to fuck with you. Best thing to do is try your best to not act jealous with any girl and change your perspective.

Don’t talk to him anymore. Just ignore him. And have the perspective that: you are not in competition with him. He just wants attention and is jealous of you.

Guys like this are really dangerous. I don’t mean dangerous like they will hurt you physically but they take advantage of people and are like leeches. You should have gotten girl1 number while you were kissing her. And when he approached girl2 you should have ignored him and if he starts talking to girl2 you then talk to girl1 and girl2 but not in a competitive way just normal conversation and ignore him.

If he starts getting defensive and stuff you should just get girl2 number and leave. It is always better to leave an interaction at the high note and not a low note. Also that guy might start to target you and he might have a grudge. Just watch out for him. Don’t make eye contact but be sure to know where he is at all times.

Hope it helps. Good Luck

efadrine · 2018-04-02T01:52:39+00:00

Just ignore him. Some sort of weird prick. What value does he add to your life?

wongoli · 2018-04-02T05:02:03+00:00

That guy is just being an asshole if he knowingly knows it makes you upset. “Teaching a lesson” or not that’s just stupid, why the fuck should he care? You’re there to have fun like everyone else.

You have guys that do stupid shit like that and you men that actually add shit to your life. If he really gave a fuck he would add you along too since you already had girls to begin with. He seems like those guys that put other dudes down to make themselves feel better, insecured af.

Kenic_In_MD · 2018-04-02T02:13:13+00:00

Just ignore cockblocks, the more attention you give them/irritation you show the more it makes you seem weak and needy in front of the girl. Don't get oneitis in the bars and clubs talk to other girls. Cut contact with this guy, if he comes up to you and says hi in these environments treat him like a complete stranger. Keep the "who are you?" front up, really what you are doing is cutting this guy off from you. If he is a leach, then find a new scene where he isn't at.

Pay them no mind.

Sergnb · 2018-04-02T09:28:15+00:00

You sound like an abused housewife man. "I mean when he is not in [insert context where he abuses you], he is actually a pretty sweet man". "I stay with him because of [insert small pockets of time where he isn't abusing you]". He adds nothing to your life and actively fucks with your shit right in your face. Not only that, he boasts about it and doesn't even try to apologize, instead saying it's to "teach you a lesson".

"Teach you a lesson" are the words of either your best friend, or a grade A++ cunt. He is not your best friend, so where does that leave us?

Yeah, forget this guy exists. Getting some second hand sex out of his pity ain't worth the psychological bullshit he WILL AND IS putting you through.

SinicalDreams · 2018-04-02T14:41:46+00:00

This guy is using his pulling powers on you. He is showing you he is the alpha.

Eventually, he will say something like, "That girl you were into is a real kink. She really wants a threesome with us."

While not specifically a lie, he has been pulling your women and finding which ones he can manipulate. He will eventually find one that will go along with a threeway and who also finds you attractive.

Later, if you agree he will suggest drinks for social lubrication and settle the rules. Ie no crossing the stream.

Except it's all bullshit. Once shit faced and in the bedroom he is going to make you his man servant while she watches.

Now the lesson is learned: who is the alpha.

You want to avoid getting your ass smashed then you better handle this. I say, flip the tables and teach him the lesson.

No_sympathy4syrians · 2018-04-02T08:57:37+00:00

He tells me he is trying to teach me a lesson to not get too attached with girls.

What the fuck does this even mean lmao. That line alone should’ve made it obvious that you want nothing to do with guy. What is he your dad? Who wants some guy they don’t even know “teaching them lessons” lmao

BestOfPUA · 2018-04-02T02:42:49+00:00

One of two things:

1- You suck at game. He knows he is going to fuck girl 2 too. He feels bad about stealing 2 girls from you and having pity.

2- You suck at game. He thinks you fucking suck at game. Now is fucking with you because he is a prick.

He tells me he is trying to teach me a lesson to not get too attached with girls

This is a fucking bullshit. He is just a dude who stole your girl, now he is playing with you to keep you on the hook.

I don't think you can learn anything from this guy. Because it is very clear he is not trying to teach you anything. Has this guy ever added any value to your life so far? What makes you think he will in the future? You will only find frustration at the end of the path you are walking.

Zormut · 2018-04-02T07:58:30+00:00

He's right, you are getting too attached to the girls. Remember the main rule: if it's a bitch you meet at the club/bar - she will fuck anyone if she feels it. I'd say hang out more with him and meet more girls, use him as much as possible and don't care about his opinion/feelings.

zfgee · 2018-04-02T08:33:45+00:00

Smoking kills.

ImJustSo · 2018-04-02T12:59:37+00:00

That man is good social proof. If you can completely disregard any feelings of competition, then he can become a valuable asset and possibly a very good friend. It's possible that he's flaunting his capabilities, but so what? If you don't become jealous, then it doesn't matter.

Friends use each other for mutual gain and provide value to one another. The friendship may have its shortcomings, but if there's a net gain, then it doesn't matter. Just let your ego go, befriend the guy, and carry on with women. He should be a nonissue in your mind, but he's offered you value. Accept it and offer some in return.

alpha-persona · 2018-04-02T13:07:48+00:00

So I have two questions:

1) When you see him, why do you even acknowledge him? I wouldn't have any more interaction with him.

2) When he started macking on your second girl you.. left? You went outside to slowly kill yourself while he was left alone to chat up your girl?

What the fuck, though?

tab13092 · 2018-04-02T18:42:06+00:00

Some great lessons to be learnt here;

For starters, never assume exclusivity unless it has been established/agreed upon by both people (In this case, you got jealous when he started "chatting up" Girl 1) Easy to say, hard to get over sometimes. It's human nature. My advice; as said unless you both have agreed upon seeing one another exclusively always assume they're seeing/talking to other people. It's a great mindset to adopt imo, because then you don't get overly attached/invested and it keeps you grounded.

A cuck is someone who enjoys watching their S/O get railed by someone else, not someone cockblocking you/swooping in taking your female interests away.

Don't kick it with dick heads like this guy, as others have said he's just going to manipulate you and those around you. There's a reason why this guy is always flying solo, clearly he's a douche. You don't need any advice from him, the "don't get too attached bit" was well enough.

plowzedong · 2018-04-02T02:25:54+00:00

He's trying to show you an example of what an attractive guy who gets laid looks like.

He's basically doing charity work, but you seem too dense to appreciate it.

If you would quit browsing seddit and hang out with him for 6 months, you'd learn a lot faster.

Quit being a little bitch and put your ego aside - ask him to help you instead of confiding in internet strangers like a woman.

Title	My "friend" cucked me twice. How to handle this?
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Date	April 2, 2018 1:42 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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