I won. Now What?

modernsavage · 2010-05-28T17:34:44+00:00

Actually, she won, not you. You were the prize because of your alpha like personality. She wins because she chased you and caught you.

Of course, now that you're reverting away from your prize mentality, it's no wonder that it's going downhill, she doesn't feel the challenge to keep you.

The trick is to become the challenging prize again. The fact that you are worrying about losing her is probably why she's becoming disinterested. Make her worry about losing you. And you of course, shouldn't even give a shit, because you're the prize!

m0nk3yb0y · 2010-05-28T17:08:07+00:00

(until intjpua shows up and blows away my advice :) )

You didn't win - she temporarily won an interesting boyfriend but now he's getting lazy. I could see getting bored with being alpha, but I don't get why you would lose the desire to be funny, smart and daring. These are qualities that are good to have even outside of a romantic relationship.

And she sounds like the alpha one in the relationship -- she took the risk of asking you out and going for the first kiss. That's perfectly fine, just saying that from the outside it sounds more like she won you. Maybe that will help change your mindset?

I'd say to keep trying to 'be the best you':

stay committed to your gf but see how many IOIs you can generate from other girls you encounter
keep a running tally of strangers you have talked to. Try to increase it weekly
Reread intjpua's first submission and see if you can push yourself to touch everyone you meet. (i.e. be that fun/interesting guy that people like to be around)

c_andballs · 2010-05-28T16:09:09+00:00

Your low self esteem is trying to sabotage the relationship by telling you she liked "a different you", not who you are now. Truth is, who you are now is who she liked. Not all relationships last forever.

autophage · 2010-05-28T23:25:55+00:00

I keep my girls in rotation, Door rotating. You looking for a good time, I'm always on vacation. You could stop by baby, If you want to try your luck. But don't waste my time, Unless you're down to fuck. Unless you're coming back for more, Well then you know what's up. You know the routine Girl, you're not the one. You're just a one night fling. Some ass to hold this casanova over. Till the right girl pass, I'll drop this lifestyle fast. Cuz what I'm really looking for Is the one will last And make my present past. My adolescence surpassed.

Or alternately:

In short, nothing can surpass the pleasure of triumphing over the resistance of a beautiful maiden; and I have in this the ambition of conquerors, who go from victory to victory, and cannot bring themselves to put limits to their longings. There is nothing that can restrain my impetuous yearnings. I have a heart big enough to be in love with the whole world; and, like Alexander, I could wish for other spheres to which I could extend my conquests.

lordweiner27 · 2010-05-28T19:44:46+00:00

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What is this?

2010-05-28T23:20:20+00:00

My take?

Dear reddit,

I like a girl who likes me and we are dating. I'm losing interest, but if I let her go and she moves on I'll be upset. How do I get to stop dating her, but have her not fuck people that aren't me?

TIA.

Box-Monkey · 2010-05-28T20:19:51+00:00

You faked who you are to get her. You can only keep up an act for so long. Don't look for girlfriends like that, simple. That kind of tactic is for funzies.

2010-05-29T02:33:44+00:00

Fuck the shit out of her and let her know you value her. Warp her mind so that she digs you bigtime.

2010-05-28T20:49:36+00:00

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2010-05-28T18:28:38+00:00

I really have lost the desire to be the way that I was

Could it be because that's not who you really are?

SkyMarshal · 2010-05-28T18:50:39+00:00

Sounds like she's not the one then. One point of PUA is to get good at it so that one day you get a girl and are surprised to find the magic doesn't end and you don't want to leave her, and have the skills, experience, and social circle and experiences to keep her.

But it doesn't sound like it's this one.

thefugue · 2010-05-28T19:06:09+00:00

Maybe you need to build a solid friendship. Getting together is very different than being together- relationships are practical, not exciting.

Title	I won. Now What?
Author	jake_the_snake
Upvotes	7
Comments	22
Date	May 28, 2010 4:04 PM UTC (16 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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