Problems with Eye Contact? any help programs to improve? ( Mini FR)

philosarapter · 2011-02-24T15:34:40+00:00

Consider the following frame:

There is a cute girl looking at you, how do you feel?

You are an attractive man, how do you think a girl feels when you look at her?

Making eye contact makes you both feel great. Why not do her the favor of making her feel attractive and happy?

inquirer · 2011-02-24T21:58:27+00:00

Start noticing eye color of everyone you meet and you'll find it easy to start looking into people's eyes.

FLPUA · 2011-02-24T15:20:20+00:00

I've heard different accounts on eye contact, so it seems to depend on the type of game you are playing. From what I'm reading, you need to work on your confidence. Fit the part by having strong eye contact. If things get awkward, just smile. When she supplicates and breaks eye contact, approach! It's that easy. Also, don't worry so much about looks, you're in control of your weight and that's all that matters!

gottosed · 2011-02-24T15:22:56+00:00

took me around 5 weeks, first i was saying hello to all bus driver then try to look them in the eye when saying it, it's easy cause they are dude that see a huge lot of stupid crazy weird... thing. after 2 week you can make full eye contact with girl n boy friend you have. take it step by step and you can do it. don't try on extremely good looking girl or girl you like first it's the toughest to do. you should be able to do it with stranger first.

make it a fun challenge, you really don't need to get it right w/ bus driver, they don't give a shit to who enter the bus. laugh about when you didn't succeed. glhf

much_ado · 2011-02-24T20:04:55+00:00

I call it the eye game. If you're like me, you lock eyes with a couple of people during the course of your day. If they look away first, they lose.

Just start playing the eye game wherever you go. Over time, you'll barely even feel eye contact social pressure.

I don't use it as an indicator of who I approach, though, because I don't need permission to approach.

rotund · 2011-02-25T01:19:31+00:00

I used to have the same problem. As weird as it sounds, it almost seemed like making eye contact with someone (especially a stranger) was too ... Intimate. I've come to realise that people who can't look you in the eye come off as insincere and awkward. Breaking out if it is honestly just something that comes with practice.

I never used to realise, but I used to walk with some pretty bad posture. Chin down, shoulders slouched, basically trying to make myself small. When you walk around with your chin up though, eye contact is much more of a common thing. I've gotten a lot better just by trying to look anybody in the eye who I walk past.

Practising maintaining eye contact with people you know is a good way to get over the "too intimate" aspect of it, talking to friends or co-workers, just try your hardest to maintain eye contact when they are speaking. Then, next time you're at a bar/restauraunt make sure you keep eye contact with the waitress when you're giving your order. Practice is just about the only way you can get over it.

It's actually made a big difference I think, when I try to pinpoint why exactly awkward people are awkward, eye contact is usually a huge part of it.

RedErin · 2011-02-24T18:31:10+00:00

You just need more practice. You have to walk before you can run.

rotund · 2011-02-25T05:28:38+00:00

Stare between the girl's eyebrows- it looks the same, but you don't need to actually stare them in the eye.

limpboy · 2011-02-25T20:42:12+00:00

One more Question; How Do I get a girl to notice that I am looking at her? without stairing and looking creepy?

Title	Problems with Eye Contact? any help programs to improve? ( Mini FR)
Author	limpboy
Upvotes	4
Comments	25
Date	February 24, 2011 3:05 PM UTC (15 years ago)
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