When everything seems to be falling apart, even though it is only temporary, how can you continue to be that happy, interesting, approachable person? You have been working on becoming more approachable and actually doing some approaching, but then things go horribly wrong in other parts of your life: you terribly screw up an exam that you thought you would otherwise ace, you don't get a job offer after that job interview you thought went so well, etc.

This doesn't apply specifically to picking up women, but rather to the big picture behind seddit: improving yourself and becoming an interesting person. Of course, it is also in the back of your mind that you want to talk to that beautiful person standing near you, but you're so anxious because of the things that went wrong.

This question doesn't really pertain to the "long run" in that you know your anxiety, frustration, stress, etc. will eventually pass. You are involved in other activities and have things to do that will take your mind off the cause of your frustrations -- and you will eventually regain that resolve to fight back harder and make sure next time you try even harder to get it done right (exam, job interview, etc.).

But what about right now? The happy, interesting, "seductive" people are well-known, if you will, for being able to put aside all their distractions and focus on the moment, whether that moment involves talking to women/men, completing their work, exercising, helping out around the house, and so on. They can forget about past failures, current regrets, and future anxieties and act as interesting people who can lift up those around them -- in other words, they continue to add value.

How do you not give in to that voice that tells you that it's okay to just sulk about the rest of the day, be dull and inattentive in public, and continuously think about your failure? Of course, thinking about your failure is good, but leave the introspection for when you are alone or for later when you can use logic rather than pure emotion to assess the situation -- don't resort to becoming a zombie and miss any and all opportunities while you're out among people. (Remember, failure here can mean failure with women, but the big idea behind seddit is that your value isn't determined by chasing women [solely at least], so the failures mentioned here pertain to "more significant" things).