Should I tell her I'm a virgin or not?

2011-04-14T01:03:35+00:00

Some women like very much the idea of being the first for a guy (and teaching him as well). Depends very much on the personality, how secure the woman is with herself, etc. And being with such a woman when she knows that she is your first is just extremely fun (for both parties, but especially for you).

If you decide that this woman is mature enough to handle the news (some can't), make sure to tell her as if you do not care much about it (ie do not seem insecure about yourself, approach it as a "fun fact about me").

07SS · 2011-04-14T01:44:12+00:00

If your goal is only to lose your virginity, don't tell her. Why risk her being immature and reacting in an unfavorable manner?

Fuck it, tell her afterwards, lol.

acartoontiger · 2011-04-13T23:14:55+00:00

No you shouldn't tell her. You don't have a scarlet V tattooed on your chest, at the worst she will just think you are inexperienced. Don't be nervous man, sex isn't that difficult. Its the getting her to want to have sex with you that is the challenge... so why did you reject her? And yes, if she tried to get you back to her place for sex and you said no then you rejected her. Also, if being nervous keeps you from trying... you have larger problems than being inexperienced in the bedroom.

2011-04-14T00:25:05+00:00

Kiss and rub her pussy. Slip in your finger and bang her a little. Then, go down on her first and get her off. Just lick and play with everything and then zero in on her clit. She'll come and then after a minute or two you can put your condom on and stick it in. It'll probably be over quickly but it won't matter (as much) cause she already got hers. This is a good start. Good luck.

p.s. I told the girl I lost my virginity to that I was a virgin just before I carried her to the bedroom. No big deal really but she was madly in love with me so it didn't matter (2nd date). She was very experienced, too. She was cool about it. I think it's kinda fun and an honor for them to devirginize you so I doubt she would care.

2011-04-14T03:43:36+00:00

If you want nothing from her except a one time bang why would you tell her? Just bang her, get it over with and then get rid of her. I would recommend a decent buzz too because it will make it harder to cum.

If you want something more then I would probably tell her.

chumpta · 2011-04-14T04:05:03+00:00

nope.

think of it as a fun experiment. can she tell? i bet she can't. man i am awesome.

abstractelevator · 2011-04-15T02:29:55+00:00

We as human beings are wired for sex. You'll figure it out, trust me.

daygamer · 2011-04-14T00:06:01+00:00

No, don't tell her.

Wouldn't she'd be able to tell that I'm not very experienced?

I'm not hung up on this HB and don't necessarily want a relationship out of this, or even another date.

If you just want to lose your virginity and just want another date, who cares if you're shit in bed? By the time she realises you'll already have achieved your goal.

Telling her this will communicate insecurity on your part which could blow it for you. There are no positives in telling her.

Considering how we ended it last time, I think there's a good chance of this date leading to sex if I game her right.

Her actions in the last FR indicate she has already accepted you as a future sexual partner. This means no more gaming is really required. Just put in some time talking to her (a couple of hours should be fine), then get her to a suitable location for sex and get to it. Get out of the mind set that you need to game this chick to get the lay.

aaronob · 2011-04-14T03:54:49+00:00

Hmmm... what if he told her afterward? What does everyone think? I see that turning out well because if she is mature she may like that and come back for more. It could tell her hey, I'm not shitty, I'm just inexperienced but could get better.

Nexism · 2011-04-14T11:14:54+00:00

If she asks, you're better off not denying it.

Else, don't mention it.

sockthepuppetry · 2011-04-14T11:39:47+00:00

I was late in getting laid. When I told the first girl right beforehand that I was a virgin, she aggrandized it into a big thing. She felt shy about "deflowering" me. Fortunately, I managed to convince her that it wasn't a big deal and we did it anyway. (I wasn't going to try explaining to her that it's the day guys free themselves from a huge weight, rather than the day we lose a magnanimous opportunity).

FYI: A muon decays in about 10^-6 seconds. You will last about this long the first time.

2011-04-14T17:05:54+00:00

I'd wait until after the sex to tell her. It really isn't that difficult to figure out the basic mechanics of sex, so I doubt she'll know your a virgin, but I highly recommend reading up on some sex tips and female anatomy so the experience isn't to embarrassing.

SilverBack_Ace · 2011-04-14T22:06:12+00:00

Entirely up to you man.

There is a chance that if she only wants sex your out of luck if you tell her your a virgin BUT thats only a problem if you only want sex too.

If you just want sex, don't tell her because she wants to have sex with you (I think this is wrong btw but I'm on your side)

If you want a relationship tell her, but own it she'll respect you for it, might feel special for it, could possibly get scared of it but you know the game and if you own it she doesn't have to be scared.

ArtigianoDelCorpo · 2011-04-15T18:00:31+00:00

Don't tell her until after you've fucked a couple times. This way you're not making a big deal out of your first coupling.

Mid-coitus:

"By the way, you were my first."

Title	Should I tell her I'm a virgin or not?
Author	herculean_exemplar
Upvotes	2
Comments	23
Date	April 13, 2011 11:02 PM UTC (15 years ago)
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