What would you do if the girl regrets the sex the next morning?

The_Decoy · 2011-05-08T20:11:11+00:00

this is precisely why i don't have sex with women who are very drunk...

AMerrickanGirl · 2011-05-08T17:12:33+00:00

If you like her at all, call her and ask her for a real date. At least that way she'll think you didn't just use her for sex and she'll be less likely to accuse you of something you didn't do.

Next time, don't ever bang a drunk girl that you don't know well.

ThrowawayPUA · 2011-05-08T17:24:39+00:00

This is called "buyer's remorse," it is caused by inadequate comfort building. Nothing you can do now, just resolve to do better next time.

l3fth4nd · 2011-05-09T01:31:10+00:00

What the fuck dude, don't have sex with girls that are insanely fucked up. If you get her to your place and she can't cogently answer the question "Are you totally sure that you won't regret this in the morning?" then save yourself the grief and get her home. I've had a friend do this same shit and get expelled for it, that was an idiotic decision. While I don't think you should suffer punishment for it, you probably will. The best thing you can do is try to make friends with her and her friends so she doesn't attempt to press charges.

Also, I'm willing to bet that part of the reason she regretted it so much was that you acted really beta after the fact. I'm sorry but it's a fact of life, food for thought. I've heard plenty of stories of frat dudes who will roofy a girl, but because he's alpha the girls will backwards rationalise that he just really liked her and it was fun.

PositiveDude · 2011-05-08T17:14:19+00:00

She's mad at herself, not at you, so you don't need to justify yourself too much. I'd still tell her that she was very nice and cute, that it's okay, and that it's not like she's a slut or something. Trying to comfort her, essentially. You can't do much about it, seriously.

_quickdrawmcgraw_ · 2011-05-08T19:00:53+00:00

I am lollin' at the 2XC folks in this thread.

ladywonderlux · 2011-05-09T11:16:09+00:00

You had sex with a wasted girl. A girl who, even though she is throwing herself at you, is not legally able to give consent. That is rape.

Just like if I found a wasted guy on a bed and decided to fuck him, even if he was slurring "yes"'s at me, that would be rape.

You date-raped a woman.

MitchsLoveSmilyFaces · 2011-05-08T17:52:35+00:00

Sounds like she's the one with the problem.

philosarapter · 2011-05-09T14:26:59+00:00

Shit happens. If I could count the number of times I've woken up in someone else's bed not knowing who I just had sex with...

Next time, don't be the creeper who picks up drunk girls while sober.

And don't be so desperate as to go for the easiest option.

bobafett573 · 2011-05-08T17:33:18+00:00

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frogma · 2011-05-09T02:36:48+00:00

The usual way you deal with it is build enough comfort to begin with and then also make sure they're comfortable the next day.

As you now know OP, be wary when the girl's really drunk at least. Some people's responses here would be different if you happened to be drunk as well- which is part of the reason why I think that law is retarded except in cases where the guy literally takes advantage of the girl. It's like "But officer, I was drunk too! She was all over me- if anything, she took advantage of me!" and the officer's like "Nope- you're a guy, so you're automatically guilty of rape." I'm all for feminism, and I think they should apply the same feminist principles to situations like this- both parties are responsible for drunken hookups, not just the guy because he's a guy.

Anyway, legally it's more complicated than just being "illegal." Assuming she tried to get you charged in the first place (probably won't happen), both of you would then have to deal with the police and prosecutor(s)- the case might be done after some back and forth between those guys, and you wouldn't even go to court. But assuming they brought charges, they'd bring you to court, and believe it or not, judges and juries are people too- they don't just look at the fact that she was drunk and yell "Guilty!" Many other factors play into it.

Anyway, I wouldn't worry about it too much- if you're my age, drunken hookups are also known as "college." If you meet a girl in a bar, she's probably been drinking. So you're either gonna spend all night trying to find a girl who's completely sober (and then go home disappointed) or you're gonna have some sex because that's what people do in college (and outside of college, but college especially).

Just remember to build up more comfort if you ever find yourself in a similar situation again, and don't fuck chicks who are significantly less sober than you.

Edit: You can also look up the law if you want- AFAIK, it varies by state- the guy usually has plenty of leeway. Just because a girl has alcohol in her system doesn't mean she can't give legal consent. Also, verbal consent is not needed- I don't know where the fuck people get that idea. Maybe it's a law, but in real-life situations it's not very important. What's more important is that she didn't say "No" or "Stop"- the term often used is "active and willing participant." So the main question is, did the amount of alcohol in her system truly prevent her from being an "active and willing participant"? Other important factors are the fact that she "threw herself at" you, and the fact that she regretted it afterward. All of those things, taken together, would be scrutinized. The girl would also be asked how many drinks she had, over how long of a time-span, and chances are, she can't prove any of that. A good lawyer will know how to handle it. You shouldn't be too worried about any of this shit happening, but just remember to be more careful and make solid judgment calls in the future.

jaybird125 · 2011-05-10T05:00:41+00:00

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Bobekistan · 2011-05-09T11:59:50+00:00

Wow, you are a massive fucking idiot.

If I was a friend of this girl, I'd probably be slamming your head into a wall until your brains start spurting out of your ears, eyes, nostrils, and mouth. I sincerely hope she presses charges, so your stupidity doesn't infect the rest of us.

cssvt · 2011-05-08T23:38:50+00:00

Take it back? :)

etherspirit · 2011-05-09T06:39:52+00:00

This is slightly unrelated, but slightly related. I'm putting my MR hat on.... If you were drunk and she was not, would she be in remotely any trouble for taking advantage of you? This is a double standard, one that everyone should be aware of, and in no way am I suggesting that what the OP did was in any way okay.

wherestheoption · 2011-05-08T20:12:26+00:00

hahahahahha, alcohol.

robotdetective · 2011-05-09T04:42:06+00:00

why so serious?

PersuasiveMind · 2011-05-09T22:06:02+00:00

Maybe she cheated on someone and neglected to mention. Shit happens. So does sex! Ziiing!

Title	What would you do if the girl regrets the sex the next morning?
Author	uhohcrap
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Date	May 8, 2011 5:06 PM UTC (15 years ago)
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