I'm sure we have all gotten the number of a girl, having high expectations of connecting for a day 2, but only to have no response from the number. Here are some tips for helping you increase your success with a successful number close and to have her respond.

  1. ABC - Always be closing - If you don't ask for the number, well you can't get any further than this. This trumps all the other tips, it doesn't hurt to ask and even if you are breaking all the other tips, don't EVER chicken out asking for a number.

  2. Don't ask too early - If you have not built up enough attraction and comfort in the girl you are increasing the chances of her giving you a fake number, rejection, or no responses. A good time to ask once you are in a set for about 15 to 20 minutes. Best is if you have iso'ed her from her friends. This doesn't mean you have to have her physically away from her friends, but you are in your own conversation with this girl. If she asks you "What for?" when you ask for her number, you asked wayyy too early.

  3. Don't ask too late - I see this mistake ALL the time on FR's. You ask the girl right before you are about to eject or about to part ways. I would ONLY do this if you don't have 15 minutes to invest or if something crazy comes up. Best time to ask is 15 minutes to 20 minutes in, then STAY and talk to her for 5-10 more minutes. It gives the girls a feeling that you aren't there just for her number, and you are actually interested in HER.

  4. Arrange a phone/text DATE - After you get the number actually tell her you will be calling her / texting her the next day. If you know what time you want to do it, tell her the time. Just so you know when you have to call/text, and she will know it too, so it won't be a surprise.

  5. Text early - If you get the number early, TEXT her while you are still in the conversation with her. If you have built up enough attraction and feel like she is in it too (you are both flirting), text something like: "Flirting with this cute girl, what do you think I should say?" or some variation like "Your shoulders shake when you laught :-P, so cute". It gets her get used to texting with you and increases the chance that she will respond to you the next day. If you meet this girl at a club/bar, DON'T wait too long to text her. Best is right away, longest you should wait is next day. 2 days after number is already pretty stale.

  6. Give nicknames - Give her a nickname or pick on her about something. That way when you text her back, you can use that name and bring her back into the "moment" when you were talking to her.

  7. Trade phones when you enter in numbers - Tell her to name her something from tonight that you'll remember her by. This is great if she asked you what you do. Remember the first time, always give something outrageous...like Illusionist, or lion tamer, etc. Don't lie just throw it out as a joke. Then when you are entering your name, use Bob Liontamer. or something like that. Once again, a good joke, brings her back to the moment you met.

  8. Text > Call - Do not hate on texting, it isn't the cowardly way to use the number. Texting is a low investment way of initiating contact. If she is having lunch/dinner/with friends when you call, most likely she won't pick up. And 80% of the time won't call you back. Also she doesn't know you that well, what if you get her on the phone and keep her on for 10-15 minutes? Thats a pretty long conversation on top of what she is doing at that time. A text is a very low investment way for both you and her to start a conversation.

  9. Know the right times to call - Don't call late on weekends, unless you guys are already texting back and forth at that time. Don't call during hours when she will most likely be eating/sleeping/with friends. You'll just end up with voicemail.

  10. Never leave a message - she won't call back unless you guys already have talked on the phone. And even then there probably won't be a call back. Just don't leave a message.

  11. Text to set up a call - If you know when you want to call her, and have a pretty steady text conversations going on with her, text her when you are going to call her. It lowers the chance of her not picking up, or in case she will be doing something at that time when she will WANT to pick up but can't.

Hope this helped. Good luck and good hunting.