What are some good ways to sexualize the conversation?

2011-11-05T01:50:34+00:00

Connecting: Qualify deeper. If she tells you she's majoring in political science, don't just be like "Oh that's interesting," probe deeper, be like "Really? What made you want to get into that?" Really get her talking. Sexualizing: Slow everything down. Talk slow, REALLY look at her eyes and lips. At more intimate stages I like to run my hands through her hair and things like that.

mucguy123 · 2011-11-05T12:38:36+00:00

In 2004 I remember hanging out with Xaneus from RSD in Sydney. I was already having success of my own, but I wanted to know if I was doing things efficiently, so I asked him: How do you sexualise the interaction?

He came closer, looked in my eyes while talking, and dropping his voice making it a little quieter and slower, saying "This is how." Super gay, LOL - that's the kind of in-joke fun we had back then.

I don't talk about relationships or us having sex in set (there might be spur of the moment exceptions if something came up and we discussed sexual topics, but that would be different and carefully abstracted).

What makes the interaction sexual is looking into each others eyes, having your bodies close together and doing bedroom talk, by which I mean the way people converse whilst laying in bed having had sex (not the topic).

I later further fine tuned it, amping it quickly by whispering things directly into their ears, and breathing on their neck. Neil was really ahead of the pack with his Evolution routine and I used to use that a lot, for kissing anyway, but also for an excuse to get in close, or later during escalation to sex in the bedroom.

Hope that helps.

thistooshallparse · 2011-11-05T00:17:54+00:00

Creative misinterpretation. Interpret things she says as a double-entendre. Make out like she is trying to get YOU into bed. Announce early in the date that you there will be no sex tonight because you don't go to bed on the first date. From there on, make out that she is trying to seduce YOU.

RZA1M · 2011-11-05T00:21:09+00:00

Planting a seed tends to work. Use certain words and phrases that suggest what you want to talk about. Also, being direct doesn't hurt. If anything she may see it as a sign of confidence.

puaCurveBall · 2011-11-05T21:01:59+00:00

Well, first reframe your question. You don't want to know how to segue without making it awkward, you want to ask "Why do I feel awkward when making that segue", when it shouldn't be awkward at all.

Have it on your mind, and then any number of things can lead to it. Maybe you see another couple, maybe she says something about loyalty or jealousy or whatever, and you use that to talk about what you can't stand (or really like) about good relationships.

Tell a funny story or use a canned one about either an ex or friend and their SO. Hell even classic stuff like "Love Potion" from MM guys, could lead into discussion of really quick passion or what you value in a relationship.

Connecting better is what the game is all about, but first realize even the perfect woman might have had a bad day or week and might just not be in the mood to meet someone, so you can't expect fireworks every time. Put forth the effort into the conversation and see if it leads anywhere even if slow at first.

I would look into some of the "Advanced Speed Seduction" stuff, I don't agree with everything, and I don't take it as Dogma (especially the "patterns" stuff), but it does offer a way to get into deeper discussions quickly. It is a combination of finding the underlying triggers / emotions / desires / values out of everyday stuff. Even if you don't use anything from it (I use maybe 5%), it might help to reframe things in your head about what you can comfortably talk about with a stranger.

2011-11-05T03:18:16+00:00

"hey, you seem like a good fuck. What's your favorite position?"

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