Gifts are a reward, not a pre-payment for time or sexual activities.

Activities

It took me a while to realise some things. I love being romantic but I also don't want to be a pussy.

Turns out I can be romantic and also alpha.

The rules to being alpha are fairly simple.

You be confident in your decisions. You lead often while taking into consideration the wants of others at times but you mostly lead with what you want.

If a woman enjoys your company then she will enjoy your company. It is about that simple. However you should be awesome or they won't enjoy your company. Remember that.

Being romantic is about thinking of a woman and what will inspire her emotions and make you seem very loving.

Now take those romantic thoughts you have in your mind and remove all the self doubt. Now remove the neediness from it. If you do that you will end up with a very alpha yet romantic situation.

For example, I took my woman out to do some putt putt golf the other night. I had never done it, she had never done it, and it was a fun activities for two people to do together.

Romantic things are generally two people activities that allows bonding on deep level while also being fun and silly. Doing it because you like the person is what makes it romantic.

So during the putt putt there could have been many times where I could have been needy or self doubting. Honestly being needy and self doubting are almost conjoined at the hip. I could have told her she could redo her hits until she was perfect and then let myself fail. I could have jumped in the pond to grab her ball when she dunked it. I basically could have been her overexcited lap dog. Fuck that. I laughed at her fuck ups but still helped her get her shit when I could reasonably do so. Being reasonable is a huge part about being alpha. It isn't about being unreasonably unhelpful and isn't about being unreasonably helpful and self depricating either.

Financials / Physical Gifts

When it comes to flowers, jewelry, etc. you want to remember that it is unreasonable to give people gifts when they are not invested enough. They must be as invested in you as you are into them. Women are allowed to be more invested in a man than a man is invested into a woman. This allows the man to stay in a leading position. This is ok. It is nature.

So no physical gifts should be given to a woman until she has shown she is invested enough.

Going on a date is not enough investment to buy flowers. Hell you should not have paid for her things on the first date anyhow.

Women should pay for their own shit on a date. A date is just an opportunity for two people to get to know each other. If the first date goes well then you could pay for a small date the next time if she has invested herself enough. Like you had sex with her. This still may not even be enough.

After some dating has occurred and physical activities have been partaken in then you can get her some flowers. Only do this if she has done something really awesome. Like you two had a great time on some date or something. Jewelry should not be for a woman unless she is in a commited relationship with you. You could be in a commited open relationship if you would like but she should have enough investment.

This is similar to why a woman only gets a ring when she is going to marry you. That or some other special exception.

Earings are nice on anniversaries, or if you have had a partically nice stretch of a relationship. Like no arguements, lots of great sex and awesome dates, etc. for couple months.

Basically you can be romantic, just don't be needy about it.

  • Gifts are to be for exceptional relationships and good behaviour, not in hopes you will get sex, a relationship, or good behaviour. Gifts are a reward, not a pre-payment.

Enjoy being confident yet romantic :)