What sorts of traits do you desire in a woman, and how do you qualify and screen for them?

2012-11-02T15:59:34+00:00

When I'm being qualified the inevitable question comes up and I just flat out tell them that the Sensei sparky operating manual is exactly 3 instructions....feed me, fuck me, love me. Step up or move on.

JohnC53 · 2012-11-02T15:26:00+00:00

Funny. Sarcastic. Independent. Not codependent. Not needy. Funny. In shape. Takes care of her body. Not ignorant to world issues. Heart of gold. Deep eyes I can fall into. Fun, creative, and eager in the sack. Is over the concept of slut shaming.

puaCurveBall · 2012-11-02T16:31:31+00:00

Are you the Jealous type?
So what kind of girls do you like?
What are your favorite toys in the bedroom?
Favorite starship captain?
Best trip in last 2 years?
Craziest place you've had sex?

AquaEights · 2012-11-02T17:24:03+00:00

Usually I make sure they're a girl, if they are we have a winner.

Wrekt_Em · 2012-11-02T15:57:00+00:00

IMO things i desire in a woman are conversational skills, sense of humor, a healthy sexual appetite. Also i love a woman with her on opinions on things, we don't have to agree on 100% everything, I dont need a yes woman. I'd like some pushback so we explore thing further in the conversation. Which leads me to point

1, conversation skills. If We can't talk about things this isnt going to last long. I was dating this girl a few months ago and her response to everything was literally "hahaha yeah!" or "I don't know". It was like talking to a mirror, for christ's sake please bring something to the conversation.

2, girls who have a sense of humor/aren't overly sensitive. I'd say i have a pretty dark sense of humor, probably from all the years of listening to louis ck in high school and i love a girl who can appreciate a joke for a joke and can throw them back at me and make me laugh.

#3 healthy sexual appetite/sexual compatibility. People tend not to put enough emphasis on this but if were not sexually compatible this isn't going to fair well. I like a girl who's sexually adventurous and willing to try new things and likes having lots of sex. I don't wanna feel like I'm forcing her to do things I want a girl who's super enthusiastic about it. Overall for a long term relationship I'm looking for a girl who can be my best friend in and out of the bedroom. Someone who I can laugh with, have fun with, love, and someone who compliments me and makes me a better person. IMO no matter what you're looking for specifically we're all looking for that in the end, a partner for life.

Deathmelody · 2012-11-02T15:25:36+00:00

For me it's similar hobbies being number #1. I love to play sports and I would really want a girl who would do activities with me such as play tennis, bowling and golfing. This way you will always have fun together and you can start joining co-ed or couples leagues and enjoy each other's company.

frogma · 2012-11-02T15:50:55+00:00

I gauge their sense of humor by teasing them. If they respond well to a harsh tease (by either laughing or getting me back by teasing me), I know they're on my level. If they don't respond well, it's either because I took it too far, or because they couldn't read between the lines and realize I wasn't being serious. When that happens, it's usually game over. I don't take life very seriously (especially not social life), so I know I won't mesh well with someone who does.

In terms of interests, I don't care too much. The best girlfriend I ever had was a conservative Christian, while I was a staunch atheist. We had almost nothing "in common." But we vibed really well together, so it worked.

In general though, I'm looking for girls who have a similar sense of humor. When they do, that usually means we share some other beliefs as well.

In terms of what you mentioned (trustworthiness, stability, loyalty), talking a bit about past relationships would be the best way to gauge that -- or just talking about friendships and shit. Those are things you usually shouldn't talk about at first, but you can make some random remark about a past girlfriend and just see how she responds. Or make a remark that pertains to a past girlfriend, but pretend you're referring to someone else.

I just gauge the general way she talks/acts. If I like it, I have sex with her. I'm not thinking of the girl I just met as a future girlfriend -- I think of her as a girl I just met. I don't start relationships without getting to know the person. I'll see them many times before that happens, and in that time, we'll have more conversations about random shit, so I'll be able to gauge that stuff.

AndrewtheAbbot · 2012-11-02T17:41:06+00:00

Intelligent. I had to turn down an hb9 because she spelled "ware woof"

Evolve_GS · 2012-11-02T17:37:42+00:00

Sure thing!

Here's a list of qualification routines that could help you out:

Room Full of You's Routine

Beauty is Common

Bait, Hook, Reel, Release

And for more on qualification in general: Be Interested: Qualification

Cheers, Evolve

2012-11-02T17:51:26+00:00

Physical appearances: must be FIT, possibly 5'5" or shorter, visibly younger than I, and pretty without too much make up.
Attitude: not a princess, not a snob, not the female equivalent of a player. Down to Earth, capable of holding a conversation on a variety of topics.
Personality: someone who has real interests in life, I don't consider fashion, money, gossiping and drinking real interets. I like creative people.
Miscellaneous: I am usually turned off by people who don't have a college degree, or that went through college without learning anything; and usually I have the best times with people who have multiple degrees (without being snobs) this is just something that I have noticed about me, from my past experiences. Must have a social life of their own, not women who defined themselves by the partner that they are with.
Sex: must be open minded about sex, and adventurous.

That is in broad strokes someone who is compatible with my personality. Now, look yourself in mirror, think about your past experiences dealing with people (male or female.. this is not a sexual thing) with whom you got along with. Those traits are the people what you get along with. Take the female population from with those traits, add the physical characteristics that you like, add some other relationship-related items: that's your type.

backtothegame · 2012-11-02T20:24:25+00:00

For me starts with super smart, without that I'm not interested at all. Next style and fashion, I'm very well put together, they need to be too, need to know how to walk in heels. Third is body and overall attractiveness, I tend to like dark hair and anything unique. Could be odd color eyes, freckles. Dated a girl who had a small streak of white in her hair genetically, I found it fucking hot, she hated it. Finally they need to be cool with getting kinky/crazy in the bedroom.

You should just look through the OKC questions, those have all been field tested incredibly well.

Questions I like:

Talk about whatever incredible shit Elon Musk is doing this week, if they're like "who?" I'm out, I want women who pay attention to the world. How many closets do you have for clothes and shoes? Or Didn't I just see you on shoe hoarders? What's the most unique thing about you? What's your favorite flavor of ice cream to eat in bed? (kinky girls get this one, non-kinky girls are just like: cherry garcia silly) Ever been to the armory? Or Ever been on folsom st in the fall?

hobodick · 2012-11-02T16:39:23+00:00

I like a woman with a strong sense of self that doesn't put up with peoples shit. If she responds positively to negging: NOPE. If she responds positively to guys making other guys look bad: NOPE. If she responds positively to guys who are all ego: NOPE. If she responds positively to someone trying to illicit psychological responses through subjective means: NOPE. If she plays games like giving me shit tests or trying to get a sense of how alpha I am: NOPE. If she expects me to compete for her affection with a guy who is an obvious tool: NOPE. If she treats me like I am inferior: NOPE. If she treats me like I am superior: NOPE.

kurtgodelisdead · 2012-11-02T15:40:45+00:00

... and how do you qualify and screen for them?

Talk to them.

cma6250 · 2012-11-02T16:21:12+00:00

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squarehouse · 2012-11-02T16:48:35+00:00

I suggest the book "Please Understand Me II". This book has actually helped me out mainly in qualifying women, but I'm sure there're other uses too. I've found that I want to be with women who communicate abstractly, who have a tolerance, or even enjoy, ideas for their own sake.

And that is it. The problem is that this is a rare quality, and I'll even sacrifice in terms of looks for this quality. I simply vibe better with women like this, and want a companion. That's why I'm in seduction for.

This also helps in qualifying women. Women get a sense that you're genuinely interested in her, and you're willing to break rapport if you get the sense that she doesn't have your kind of personality. It's also a kind of compliance test: If she starts melding herself to the personality you're looking for, then you basically know she's attracted to you.

vom1tcom1t · 2012-11-02T20:19:37+00:00

Personality.Hands down

Cruithne · 2012-11-03T00:25:56+00:00

Depth, intelligence, compassion, humour.

She needs to have the Dich.

2012-11-03T12:41:10+00:00

Here are some stock qualifiers:

Are you friendly? are you adventurous? Are you spontaneous? Are you a good friend?

What do you for fun? any questions or Statements relating to: Books,movies,tv,sports etc I love a girl who can read, whats your favorite book of all time?

do you believe in anything some people might consider strange? What's something you havent done that you've always wanted to do? If you could do one thing without any chance of failure what would it be? If you could have one superpower what would it be? What's the craziest thing you've ever done? If everyone here looked exactly the same, how would you stand out? If you could wake up tomorrow in any place in the world, where would it be? if you had to eat one food for the rest of your life what would it be?

What would you say is your best quality? why are you special? Why should i want to get to know you? What are your three best qualities?

lisan_al_gaib · 2012-11-02T18:32:59+00:00

Ass and titties.

They all look the same in the dark.

etcomro · 2012-11-02T17:06:02+00:00

This may sound a little offbeat but I learned to read people's MBTI from cues in an interaction.(I think the book that helped was "The Art of Speedreading People" or something). I'm ENFP and my best relationships have been with INFJs and INTJs so I look for girls that are a little bit "aloof" but really brainy. Of course, after initial attraction.

javavixen · 2012-11-02T20:32:28+00:00

My boyfriend lent me the movie Serenity before we started dating.

yehsomethinglikethat · 2012-11-02T14:58:06+00:00

Ok this might sound weird but I don't have stuff I look for in a woman, I have stuff I do not like in a woman. So basically any new woman has 100% score, and for every thing I do not like i take some of that score away. Once it drops to 0% it's buh bye.

For example being stuck up stupid bitch is worth 100% but being stuck up stupid slut only 95%. ;)

Briliance of this technique is that the women screen themselves. I don't even have to do. Drawback? Sometimes it takes a while to realise she really is not worth it.

2012-11-02T18:25:11+00:00

2 tits, a hole, and a heartbeat

slaur · 2012-11-02T20:54:44+00:00

Bruenette with blue eyes.

Thiickshake · 2012-11-03T05:48:26+00:00

I don't care about personality there's so many variables to do with person.laity that i just don't bother lol. looks on the other hand i seem to have a thing for red hair and freckles cause there the only women i bring home to meet the folks lol. to easily scan for personality traits you like try bringing them up in a conversation. perhaps. On my phone sorry for the mess haha

MarkyBhoy101 · 2012-11-02T22:36:06+00:00

Slim waist, big tits, thick arse, long legs, perfect skin, long hair, pretty face, wears just enough make up to bring out her natural beauty, wears dresses and skirts more than trousers but not exclusively, demure, nurturing, not clingy but not too independent, doesn't talk too much but still good with her mouth and a good cook.

How do I screen for her? Well the looks are easy I just use my eyes but the rest I can find out later.

wh1tegirl-wast3d · 2012-11-02T21:02:23+00:00

boobs

Title	What sorts of traits do you desire in a woman, and how do you qualify and screen for them?
Author	MZOe
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Date	November 2, 2012 2:34 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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1, conversation skills. If We can't talk about things this isnt going to last long. I was dating this girl a few months ago and her response to everything was literally "hahaha yeah!" or "I don't know". It was like talking to a mirror, for christ's sake please bring something to the conversation.

2, girls who have a sense of humor/aren't overly sensitive. I'd say i have a pretty dark sense of humor, probably from all the years of listening to louis ck in high school and i love a girl who can appreciate a joke for a joke and can throw them back at me and make me laugh.