A little context (you can jump to the next paragraph if you’re lazy): I’m quite new (I decided to go out and stop being shy like 2 months ago), I go out on my own every Saturday in a place where people dance (traditional dances, so it’s easy).

I have more success than I thought would ever have, some girls even come talk to me on their own, I #-closed a few times and I even bed-closed two times (was virgin 2 months ago). Girls seem enthusiast at first, they talk to me, they sometimes give me their number without me asking, they seem to enjoy being with me (hell, why would they invite me into their apartment otherwise?), etc.

Now I can’t seem to make them remain enthusiast. Two examples:

  • after a whole week end with a girl (after the first night she proposed to do that again the next day, so she apparently didn’t dislike it), she asks if I want to see her again, she tells me “probably at the end of the month, I’ll call you”. She never did. Later I send her some text telling her that I’m near where she lives for the week end, she doesn’t respond.

  • I met a girl one night, we go back to her place, the next morning she asks if I would like to come back and see her again, I say yes, she tells me “Ok, tomorrow, I’ll call to tell you when I’m free”, she actually called me to tell me she had something else to do. We post-pone to the next day: she calls me again to tell me she’d prefer we remain friends (using the excuse of “I don’t want a serious relationship”, but I don’t want one either, so that doesn’t make any sense. What the actual fuck… she’s supposed to be 24, not 14…).

I don’t want a long term relationship, I just want a casual relationship (everything, not just sex), with no commitment. It seems to me that these girls changed their mind (“What am I doing sleeping with some guy without being in a relationship with him… That’s not what good girls do, I should stop”), OR they just figured out I’m boring after all… I don’t know…

Do you have any tips to avoid that in the future? What should I do the next morning to make sure we actually see each other again? Do you think we should have “the relationship conversation” where I clearly explain what I want with her? What do I do to make her interested in seeing me again, should I text her a few hours later with some kinds of “Had a great time with you, have a good day” or something?