Protip: Practice being comfortable with yourself in every situation. Its not them, its you. You dont have to do shit, just be comfortable in every situation and the rest will follow.

hindrough · 2012-11-15T02:31:33+00:00

Awesome advice. I'm doing that tonight!! I go out on the regular but have a hard time solo and going to 'low volume' venues. My only criteria is to go in and not give a fuck. No looking to see if it's good just going the fuck in, take 3 conscious breaths, and run the fuck out!! Really builds those willpower muscle and just realizing no on gives a fuck and it's all in your head.

mylittlehokage · 2012-11-15T05:34:23+00:00

As someone with bad anxiety issues, I wish it was that easy.

Adrxone · 2012-11-15T06:48:03+00:00

This is good advice fellas. I'm usually always relaxed, even in times that would be considered by most as awkward silence. Let go of the urge to fill the void of silence and if you get called out on it like they say "haha you're weird/awkward" or "well, this is weird/awkward." Just respond by saying "For you maybe. I'm just chilling" or "It's only weird/awkward if you make it/think it is."

ChaoticHavok · 2012-11-15T15:48:05+00:00

I always thought that children live by this daily. They always do what they want and say what they want. They aren't hindered by society's expectation of self restraint. Sometimes being who you are is the most liberating and most comfortable, which is why I live a life of an "adult-child." I say and do what I want (and follow through to it to the end) and the rest will follow.

topdev · 2012-11-15T16:59:38+00:00

This is true

larrydick · 2012-11-15T04:02:40+00:00

Cool... Any advice on how to get comfortable in a potentially uncomfortable or overwhelming situation?

kid-vicious · 2012-11-15T06:34:56+00:00

I seem to have trouble with this at work. I strive and strive to be more outgoing, but having to talk to people all day every day just gets exhausting after long. To the point where I'm beat and any human interaction is forced.

Any advice on how to help ?

sharperguy · 2012-11-15T12:13:57+00:00

I don't find this works. If I relax and feel comfortable I just slip into my usual pattern of being friendly an joking around and having fun. "What's wrong with that?" you might ask. Well in this mode I'm not thinking about any motives or goals, and so I never try to escalate, ask for numbers or flirt. Why? Because that's not what I do when I'm relaxed and not giving a damn around people.

On the other hand if I try to force it and cause myself to do these things, then I become nervous and I stop being relaxed and not caring. Seems like a catch 22 situation...

pickup_sticks · 2012-11-15T23:59:18+00:00

Here's a fun way to challenge yourself. Go to the gym. Afterwards, take a shower. When you get out, towel off, then stand in front of the mirror naked fixing your hair, putting on deodorant, shaving, whatever. Don't put the towel back on.

After a while you start to not give a fuck, even when standing around naked, and it carries over into the real world. feelsgoodman.jpg

jewiger · 2012-11-15T17:47:42+00:00

Just go bang hella girls ... you don't really have to know how. Just do it.

Cool tip bro - why don't you actually post something useful and with substance instead of throwing out an affirmation.

JonnyAtlas · 2012-11-15T05:02:36+00:00

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