[FR] First time approaching at a club

Okay so this FR probably won't interest the more experienced PUAs here, but newbies and people just starting out on r/seduction should keep reading.

I used to have really bad AA and social anxiety in general. I still do, but it used to be way worse, and I've broken out of it quite a bit. I mentioned it a bit in my last post. but I didn't really delve deep into it. Basically two years ago I would never even dream of going into a club. I was terrified of any social interaction, so letting people see me dance in a large crowded room was out of the question. I only went to my first club back in August, and I was the guy in the corner bobbing my head with my hands in my pockets. Terrible terrible. But I've been steadily going to clubs now and I've managed to break out of my shell enough to dance on stage! FUCK YES. But I still haven't approached or danced with any girls yet.

Last night I started to approach. I didn't go to the club with the mentality that I had to approach a certain number of girls or whatever, I only had two rules: have fun and progress further than I did last time. I ended up opening three sets, which is a huge success for me. In my last FR I opened three sets during the day, but this was different for me. I'd never opened up anyone in a loud environment like a club, so it was new and exciting. And nerve wrecking. But I was more prepared this time. I've read The Power of Now, some of Awaken the Giant Within, started meditating, and watched a shit load of RSD videos. I must say, being present to the moment and meditating was the biggest help, and I recommend every new sedditor to start. I used to get stuck in my head like CRAZY, but understanding how to stay rooted in the present moment and not dwell on the past or constantly think about the future (is she gonna reject me if I approach, etc etc) honestly changes your mindset and outcomes so much.

Anyways so we get to the club (Me and 4 other people, two of which are also sedditors), which is actually a bar/club. There seem to be a lot of underage girls there, but whatever, anyone is good to approach when first starting out. After getting a drink and some food, I see a cute HB7 with a wicked arm tattoo. She looked a bit older so I decided to approach her. I then started to get into my head a bit about what to say (even though I had the perfect opener with her tattoo) and waiting around for a minute. Applied some techniques I've learned recently to stay focused in the present and I walk up to her.

Me: Hey, I like your tattoo

HB7: Thanks!

Me: What's it of?

HB7: Oh it's my grandma

That was the end of the conversation. She went back to dancing and I just walked over to my friends. Success or failure? SUCCESS! I've never approached a girl in a club before, so this was progress. And it was just a warmup so it didn't matter if I crashed and burned. Fuck it, on to the next one. I was more in state now and ready to do another approach immediately.

I walked over to my group of friends and went over my first approach a little bit. Not something I really recommend doing (cause I found myself getting a bit into my head) but whatever. I saw this HB8 sitting on this stool staring out at the dance floor looking really bored. I was in mid sentence with a buddy but I was like "fuck it, three second rule!" and walked over to her.

Me: Hey, you look bored.

HB8: Nah I'm okay

Me: (pointing to the guy beside her) Is this your boyfriend?

HB8: Nope I just met him tonight

Me: What's your name?

HB8: What's your name?

Me: Almost_A_PUA

HB8: Chantel shakes hand

Me: Chantel, I like that name.

HB8: You come here a lot?

Me: Nope this is my first time. My buddy won the free entrance + drinks contest

HB8: Oh yeah me too!

Me: You know what? I have a theory: I bet they search all the people who enter the contest on facebook or whatever and chose the most attractive ones to win so they can fill this club up with good looking people. (Unintentional compliment, my buddy came up with this theory earlier in the night ;)

HB8: Eh maybe, I'm pretty sure they just pick out of a hat though

Me: Yeah probably, but it doesn't make sense business wise, no?

HB8: Yeah I guess

And that I was the end of the conversation. It probably wasn't a good idea to ask about a boyfriend right away (I should have let her tell me she had one if she did) but whatever, lesson learned.

Went back to the bar for another drink, noticed tattooed HB7 from before leaning against the bar looking across the dancefloor. REENGAGE!

Me: So how many tattoos do you have?

HB7: 4

Me: What's this one on your wrist of? (initiating some light kino)

HB7: It a heart

Me: Oh true. Which one would you say hurt the most?

HB7: Oh definitely on my ribs, fucking killed cause of all the nerves and shit there

Me: Yeah I've heard places with a lot of nerves and on the bones hurt. For me though, it's either I get a shit load of tattoos or none at all

HB7: Yeah true. They're actually really addicting to get

Me: Yeah that's what I've heard

End of conversation. Met up with my friends again and checked out the upstairs section, where it seemed all the older, mature people were. Chatted a bit about seddit and potential joke pickup lines and then noticed a cute girl leaning over the edge looking at the dance floor below, decided to approach. As I was walking up, some guy swoops in and shakes her hand. Gotta respect the guy, he got there first. Walk back to my friend and a few moments later I notice she's alone again. Start walking up to her and she immediately darts into the girl's washroom. NOT following her in there lol. Lesson learned? Even the three second rule doesn't work 100% of the time.

I go back to my friend and shoot the shit a bit, and notice another cute girl in almost the exact same spot. Approach time!

Me: Are you just standing here watching people dance?

HB7.5: Haha no I'm waiting for someone.

Person she's waiting for comes over

Girl: Heyyy!

HB7.5: We're actually lesbians

Me: Prove it

friend tries to give her a kiss, HB7.5 denies

Me: Bullshit! I didn't believe that for one second!

HB7.5: Haha nah we're actually sisters. Guess which one is older.

Me: Ummm definitely her.

HB7.5: Nope! I'm older!

Me: Bullshit! How much older?

HB7.5: I'm 21 and she's 19.

Me: See I would have guessed the exact opposite

Suddenly some guy swoops in and puts his arm around them and says "You ready to go?" and they're gone. I'm just standing there dumbfounded and glance over at my friend, he's giving me a WTF just happened look. I just started laughing. That's all you could do really!

Later on we went to a club next door but I started to get into my head a lot and didn't feel like doing any approaches and then we left.

So the lesson I leaned last night was to GET OUT OF MY HEAD. If approach anxiety is your biggest problem, learning to get out of your head space and live in the present moment helps so much with your game. Alcohol helps too, but I try not to rely on it too much. Don't think about your previous approaches tonight, don't think about approaches at all. Just do it. You'll have plenty of time to analyze your night after it's over, doing so any other time just inhibits your game. I'm a newbie at this pick up stuff, so any little progression forward really helps. Thanks for reading!