Insults and being an AMOG

Apex_of_Attraction · 2014-03-17T14:23:45+00:00

AMOGing back is definitely not the behaviour of a superior man. Once you adopt that mindset, you will see every AMOG's unsuitable behaviour as needy and attention seeking.

Recognize that most anger expressed is coming from a place of fear. If someone makes fun on you, ask yourself what they are so fearful of that would provoke them to bring down other people to their level.

There is nothing manly about making fun of other people if it is done in a malicious way. Reframe their attacks as a reflection of their insecurity.

In practical terms, if you literally ignore what they say, and keep layering conversation over their insult, it will show your girl who the true man is. By ignoring their attempts to provoke you, you shine a light on how immature they are.

Finally, learn to welcome them. Every attack is an opportunity for you to demonstrate your emotional strength. By demonstrating your comfort with adversity you will be even more attractive to your girl.

If you can remember any specific examples though, let me know. Sometimes it's appropriate to put people in their place.

Congratulations on being depression free. It's something I've also struggled with in the past so I'm really happy for you.

To keep it to the point, there are no books that you need to read in order to get good with girls. It all comes from practice. My suggestion is to go out and introduce yourself to 10 girls. Just say hi and ask their name. Nothing fancy.

If you're sticking point is that you are too nervous to talk to them, then that's what you need to work on. I can suggest exercises for that. If you're fine with starting conversation, but run out of things to say, work on that. By going out and interacting with women, the area that you need to work on most will become evident. Working on whatever this is as it continually evolves will get you results.

Don't get lost in reading. It's a perfect way to procrastinate and not take action. Let me know what you're sticking point is, and I will help you every step of the way.

When you read this, leave your house and go say hi to strangers. There is no substitute for this. Build momentum with it, and it will get much easier over time.

Darragh, Apex of Attraction http://apexofattraction.weebly.com/

Zack_Fair_ · 2014-03-17T15:18:54+00:00

you let it slide off of you like water. Don't react negatively; you don't care that some try-hard is trying to amog you because your state of true alpha is unaffected. Crack a smile, laugh at yourself, say " good one" with a hint of condescension. you don't need to bring others down to feel good about yourself, you're better than that and you already won if you have this mindset.

an example : by far the insult/diss i get the most is that " I'm gay " . okay, fine. I just chuckle and say " oh yeah, I totally love dicks in my ass on the regular " or something like that in a sarcastic/joking tone . usually that will do, sometimes the person insulting you will take it further and then I just keep reply with increasingly sarcastic confirmations, until like the fourth joke where everyone feels he is getting pathetic and I self-assuredly claim to the group " This guy is retarded " . works like a charm , AAF .

If the girl asks me if I really am , or some other nonsense about it I launch the "secure about my sexuality" routine.

foolproof

RandianHero · 2014-03-17T23:14:05+00:00

Think about it this way: at the end of the day, does anything anyone says truly change who you are on the inside? Are you any less you when someone insults you, or teases you, or tries to knock you down a peg?

Being insulted is a choice. If you know yourself, and you know your quality, other people's insults are just words. They only affect you insofar as you let them.

Rx_Love · 2014-03-17T16:02:17+00:00

AMOG with insults < AMOG who makes those around him better.

The latter is a very potent force

Djmeansdjk · 2014-03-17T17:45:59+00:00

I either ignore the comments, or banter back. Also, I tend to slow my reaction times down for everything; about 2 or 3 seconds.

Remember, be outcome independent. If someone AMOG's you to get a reaction; play along. Most of the time, if you reply with something witty, you can notice a slight smirk from them.

Go out to have fun, be awkward during pauses just for shits and giggles sometimes. Just don't take what people say so seriously sometimes. You know your flaws, who cares what anyone else thinks.

slykethephoxenix · 2014-03-17T20:53:09+00:00

If it's funny and a good call, just laugh with them. If it's immature or anger provoking, just ignore them - it will show their immaturity and your strength. If they keep at it, embarrass them or something, just don't be too direct to look like your desperate or that they hurt your pride or something, but rather that they are annoying.

tonylstewart · 2014-03-17T22:40:01+00:00

Laugh about it.

For them to take time to insult you means they feel threatened by you.

If you want to fight back, try to make them mad while you keep a smile on your face. Do you remember any specific insults?

I'm slim so when other guys bring up that fact I go into sarcastic mode "I workout everyday, bro, you know? Hashtag fitfam. I can't fucking stand skinny guys, like you didn't even have to work for that six pack, it's like a fat girl with tits. I worked really really hard EVERY day to look like this. I mean, who needs a girlfriend when you have biceps?"

Most of the time, the girls are cracking up at the end and the guys just have a "fuck you" look on their face.

2014-03-17T20:09:05+00:00

To those saying "real alphas don't fight back," that's because they choose not to but CAN. You cannot choose to not defend yourself if you are incapable of defending yourself in the first place - you are simply taking the only option, not defending yourself.

You need to learn to tool guys. Learn to bury them verbally, embarrass them. Do that at a magnitude appropriate to the situation: if they are making fun of you lightly, make fun of them a bit more. Do so in a way that makes them feel worse than they made you feel. If they are insulting you, embarrass them in front of the group. Don't go after guys (aggression), but learn to actively defend yourself by making them feel bad / look bad when they try to do that to you. That's level one.

Once you feel capable that you CAN fight and win, you'll be able to choose not to fight. Until then all this "just talk over them, ignore them" stuff is coming from a place of weakness, fear, and incompetence. It's also VERY EASY for everyone to tell when you're shaken up by TRYING to ignore someone despite them having hit a nerve and when you actively DON'T CARE because you feel above them. You can't just flip a switch and "not care", your mind isn't like that: confidence comes from competence and knowing you can handle yourself if needed, but are choosing not to. At that point you can genuinely not care, but not before that.

PS If you want to see a guy who is AMAZING at handling other guys, and doesn't come off as vindictive or mean or hostile, check out Craig Ferguson. Watch his interviews with other men, especially alpha ones, and watch how he controls everything. When they go after him his tone and attitude complete changes, but only for a sentence or two: he punishes when they cross his boundaries, but in a slight way.

bl1y · 2014-03-17T19:49:25+00:00

You shouldn't be looking for responses, you should be asking why people insult you in the first place, and it's not because they're jealous.

Title	Insults and being an AMOG
Author	johnfk3
Upvotes	8
Comments	12
Date	March 17, 2014 1:18 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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