How to do i get confidence?

Sir_Psycho_Sexy_ · 2014-07-09T02:13:15+00:00

It comes automatically if you treat your body and mind well.

Dont focus on others but on your personal success.
Work out, 3 times a week minimum
stop eating unhealthy
get enough sleep
dont get drunk
make a list of whats important to you and what you want to achieve, and work in babysteps towards that goal
in order to be confident you need to first be somebody you like yourself, so frist order of business is trying to be happy on your own

that's it, there is no trick, get your body in the right state, and you'll automatically start to be happy, if you're happy it will reflect on other people and you will automatically start to feel more confident due to the reaction of your enviroment.

Good luck.

2014-07-09T02:33:56+00:00

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DaveO1337 · 2014-07-09T00:17:14+00:00

Change your name to the Yolo Swaggins

sedditforthewin · 2014-07-09T01:46:11+00:00

Do awesome shit

or

gain social momentum.

FashionableFaggot · 2014-07-09T02:15:35+00:00

If you don't already, start lifting. Choose a program and stick to it. You might get addicted. I can't wait to get into the gym tomorrow I'm fucking excited for it.

Dress better. MFA has good stuff start there. Doesn't have to be fancy just make sure it fits well.

These are two basic tips to gain confidence. Nothing really groundbreaking here. You don't just flip a switch to become confident, you build it over time.

JesterTime · 2014-07-09T03:51:43+00:00

Honestly I've been going through some issues with confidence myself lately. My fiance of 4 years and I broke up a couple weeks ago and I've been trying to hang out with some friends and asked one of my good friends to hook me up with someone. I find it's easier to just push myself to seem confident in what I'm doing when things first start out. A friend of his was going out with him one night and she had a friend that was coming too so he invited me alone, the two of us started out kinda shy by I pushed myself a bit outside my comfort zone and after things started going well with her I felt the confidence I was sort of faking at the start. She was really pretty and I thought she was out of my league until she started holding my hand and hugging me. None of us were drinking or anything we just hung out after the fireworks on the forth and hit things off. I'm far more confident now. The only advice I can really give is to maybe try what worked for me. I feel much better after that night.

Phenxz · 2014-07-09T07:48:08+00:00

As dubknight pointed out, there's a big difference between having confidence and projecting it.

If you want an "easy" fix for projecting confidence check out Amy Cuddy's posture hack. This is a scientifically proven method of increasing the hormones of your body that increases the feelings of being dominant and feeling more self confident. I started out using this a few years back when I first learned about it. Not because of a lack of inner self confidence, but because I tended to get nervous in social settings, and thus project insecurity and handicapping my ability to talk to beautiful girls. For me, keeping a good and dominant posture worked to overcome that, so I highly recommend it.

This however is a superficial fix to self confidence. Self confidence comes from being happy with yourself as a person, and having an underlying perception of yourself as being someone you like, and someone others like (depending on how much you care about the opinions of your peers).

Seeing as real self confidence isn't just something you can fix by going to the gym for a week, I recommend starting to employ good and dominant postures to help yourself right away, and if you don't already have inner self confidence naturally, analyse your life and what you want for yourself, and start working on it one step at a time.

Also, if you have the money for it, a psychologist will be able to help analysing your progress and steer you right.

sweens90 · 2014-07-09T14:25:08+00:00

Fake it till you make it.

Fake confidence, not your personality.

2311777 · 2014-07-09T02:10:46+00:00

Just be yourself

CaelenM · 2014-07-09T07:52:42+00:00

In short, fake it. Amy Cuddy does a great TED Talk on this very subject. If you've got 20 minutes to kill and are serious on becoming more confident, highly recommend you watch this.

rangamatchstick · 2014-07-09T11:40:18+00:00

Power pose, fake it till you make it, improve yourself ect

PlayerVII · 2014-07-09T20:29:08+00:00

Get a new hair cut, and dress one level up from where you are at.

Then like everyone said FAKE IT. Remember people don't know you lack confidence they just see how you act so imagine how you want to be and be that way eventually it will become natural.

mc_thrower · 2014-07-10T21:56:58+00:00

Win at what you want to do.

The only way you can ever loose something, is to get into the mindset you can't get it back.

sicknick · 2014-07-09T01:27:42+00:00

Dude, you gotta go to the confidence store...Isle 2 next to the self respect.

dubknight · 2014-07-09T02:53:54+00:00

There is a big difference between having confidence and projecting confidence, and projecting confidence is much more important than actually having confidence.

destiny24 · 2014-07-09T01:44:49+00:00

Think they got some on sale at Forever 21.

Indianbro · 2014-07-09T04:19:55+00:00

What...how is this getting upvoted? 1) Read sidebar 2) post specific questions in /r/askseddit 3)stop upvoting useless post

Title	How to do i get confidence?
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Date	July 9, 2014 12:15 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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