Tips on escalating.

Venenarium · 2015-02-06T18:29:46+00:00

About kino:

The dicarlo escalation ladder is good stuff, so read it unless you did already :) Other than that: this thing is mostly learned in the field. I used to have huge problems with kino myself - just touching the girl was a big deal for me. How did I get over it? Well, ultimately, I got to the point when I just said to myself: "fuck it, I'm going to try to kino this girl right now and see what happens" - and what happened is that I realized that girls don't bite. This realization shifted something in my mind and my life has been much easier ever since. But you'll have to take the leap of faith yourself eventually. So just don't worry about it, get the "fuck it" attitude and go for it! Good luck :)

Negging:

A lot has been written about this, but if you feel uncomfortable doing it, just kno that you can go a long way without any negging at all. Just remember to not tolerate any behavior that you would not be tolerating in someone whose face isn't so pretty. Don't laugh at her jokes if they aren't funny, don't continue the conversation in a topic you think is stupid/boring, don't be afraid to disagree with her and avoid the "me too" attitude.

Giving compliments:

Simple, don't give any :) They don't raise her attraction nor your value. Save them to when you're already dating.

TheUnicornDinosaur · 2015-02-06T18:25:24+00:00

I talked to a girl the other week and grabbed her hand and brought it up to my eye level to look at her ring (not wedding ring) I complimented her on her pretty ring, said it matched her eyes, etc.. she got the look in her eyes like she was ready for a kiss so I went for it and was successful. Hope this helps.

Geekitgood · 2015-02-06T18:28:07+00:00

Effective Physical Escalation Techniques. Hope this helps!

nobasics · 2015-02-06T19:01:02+00:00

I have this all the time, we can have a great conversation about the universe and everything inbetween or something as random as a piece of fruit laying on the table. But making the conversation sexual or atleast show interest is really hard.

You've diagnosed the problem yourself. It sounds like you're great at having interesting, engaging conversation but if you want more from these girls you're gonna have to make it more flirtatious both in terms of conversation and body language.

It comes up time and time again but eye contact is key and suggestive facial expressions help too. Lead conversation the way of what they consider fun and exciting, past relationships, what they look for in a mate. It's pretty basic but it's a reliable way of gauging interest and if you can crack some jokes and be funny throughout you'll find it a lot easier to escalate into sexual stuff . Once you've kissed and you're secure and on a date or something, THEN start busting out the universe crap.

Apologies if I'm wrong, but my intuition is that girls are just seeing you as this interesting guy who is great to talk to rather than a dangerous, exciting sexy guy.

Jaereth · 2015-02-06T22:57:12+00:00

we can have a great conversation about the universe and everything inbetween

I don't know about that... Maybe more serious topics.

But making the conversation sexual or atleast show interest is really hard.

I guess you just learn this as you go. I always find a change of venue/scenery helps. Tell her to come somewhere else with you. Usually if she does she's with it and if she doesn't just move on to the next girl. Assuming she does follow you sometimes you can just go for a kiss and sometimes just start doing small kino things.

It's probably the most important thing though, make sure she knows what you want.

smokeit2957 · 2015-02-07T18:31:18+00:00

Okay maybe as a woman I don't belong here if you would like me to piss off please say so. I have 0 clue as to what kino or begging is. I will tell you this confidence will make any woman want you, don't be cocky though. If you don't have it learn to fake it. Easier said than done I know but it really is key for getting women to do what you want. Compliment her but just lightly and use creative adjectives when doing so we women eat that shit up. Holding eye contact for a second d too long and a simple touch of the hand can go along way too. Good luck.

Title	Tips on escalating.
Author	Ridley_Confirmed
Upvotes	92
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Date	February 6, 2015 5:05 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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