So continuing from Part 1 to Part 2

 

#Seduction is not all bout approaching
Attracting women is really a side effect of having a nice life and a long process of self improvement.

 

#AA starts to be replaced by thrill and enjoyment
Approaching attractive women is like going to gym, first you cant see the big picture exactly and you are hesitant-anxious about every time you are doing it, even if you go out there do this everyday you cant really see the improvements really fast. But if you are committed and you know this is good for you, you go out there do it anyways, even on your bad days.
Then you start to get little gains, ncloses, kcloses, grinding etc… then you start to realize you actually like it, you know that AA wont go away ever but that 10-15 seconds of approaching to a stranger starts to give you a thrill and anxiety at the same time, you approach anyway. What ever the outcome is that thrill is can be your fuel if you learn how to use it. Before you know it you will have a lot of positive experience as well and before you approach next time you will think about those positive experiences which will boost your self esteem.

 

#Visualizing makes it easier
It is really important before you approach someone that you imagine them smiling, laughing or interaction going well, maybe you are going to meet an awesome person. Try to imagine a positive scene in your head before you approach, this boost your confidence and vibe.

 

#Fashion and Fitness boosts self confidence a lot
After doing crossfit for a long time, I got into shape and women’s look started to change on me, a lot of eye contacts in my daily life and when I go to the clubs-bars sometimes girls give me subtle signs like smiling or checking me out or keeping eye contact again. Also releasing endorphins daily thru my workouts keep my mood happy most of the time. For fashion, I try to look sharp, I follow couple of intagram accounts also when I see a good looking dude when I am out, if he is a similar built with good sense of fashion taste, I keep his outfit in mind and try it later. In my opinion most average guy in US, wearing a button down shirt and jeans making me a favor.. Because when I wear a nice blazer with a pocket square in it, dress shoes and nice pants-usually all of them bought from Zara-, I stand out a lot in the crowd, combine this my boosted self esteem, ladies check me out and it is my sign to approach them. I think it also gives that first impression that they can “carry” me around and wont hesitate me introducing to their friends. Fashion and Fitness is a nice head start, I highly recommend to improve this stuff a lot. Also fuck pea-cocking, I dont like walking like clown….

 

#Learning that rejections are not personal
No matter what you do some girls will reject you, there is no other way around, rejection reason could be anything, from race to height to social status or maybe she is really moody that day, world doesnt owe you anything, just because you are improving yourself and approaching women doenst mean that they have to like you, if you accept the truth you wont hang on rejections too much. After all, there is a better looking girl around the corner who may like you, why to care about someone, if that someone cant see who you really are because of your approach… It is their lose move on to the next one. Most of the time when you do multiple approaches it is amazing to see that some women will cringe by your approach , then same day, same clothes, same approach and similar talk but another woman will fall in love with you. If you got rejected just turn around and approach someone else.

 

#N-Close Rejections
Most good looking girls are raised nice and happy, and they protect this status by not being too harsh to other people’s faces. Overtime women learn that guys will go away if they tell them they have boyfriends… So honest women will tell you either that they are not interested or they have boyfriends… This type of hot women actually are rare… Most attractive women develop this strategy to make people happy and not to see them sad. Especially because of their father, ex-boyfriends, superficial-friends… they dont wanna make other people sad… So most times when they feel something and if it is not strong enough and when you ask for a number, they will feel validated and good, they will give you their numbers but they know they are not going to answer you anyways… So again often numbers doesnt mean anything…

 

#Women act with their emotions
Women act with their emotions, not their logic. Logic rarely kicks in. As long as they are emotionally connected to you, they will attracted to you and follow your lead.

 

#Outcome independent - Less investment strategy
I have most of my success at the nights that I just went out to enjoy with my friends, or the nights I didnt care that anything happens. Also most of my same night lays happened when I dont ask for their phone numbers during the interaction and I pushed as further as I could… I guess sexual tension that caused by maybe not able to see each other again in the feature caused them to sleep with me…

 

#Demographics
Demographics makes huge difference when it comes to finding women that are attracted to you. You need to find your strong suit. For me high-end clubs, hip rooftop bars and streets in business districts working well. Demographics also helps you to eliminate certain types of people, I dont like college girls, I like people who got shit their together and confident about what they do in life… So I feel more confident and interested around those type of women…

 

#Direct vs Indirect Game
For a long time I sticked with indirect approaches, then after I started to approaching in day time, I figured out how powerful direct approach actually is when used right. Then I start to use direct stuffs in both day and night time. So my calibration is when a woman has the option to walk away and she is not under pressure I use direct, but lets say she is sitting in a coffee shop direct might be too much to handle for her. In bars - clubs I would go cocky funny direct openers While smirking I may say “I have policy to hit on tallest girl in the club, so whats your name?” , around my 400th set I realized what I say really doesn’t matter.

 

#What you say doesnt really matter
Realizing this, was huge for me, sure the way you approach matters but usually women are socially calibrated and they are aware of why you are talking to them. As long as you are confident, witty and have a genuine interest in them, you can almost say anything and still keep them attracted to you. That’s is where I understood that canned stuff is a no go for me.

 

#Power of the eye contact
Try to keep eye contact with her, until she shows IOIs, this will improve your interaction drastically in most cases.

 

#90% of the conversation needs to be about them
It is true that everyone’s favorite topic is themselves. It is not a good idea to tell too many dhv stories. Rest 10 person should be about you but you need to give valuable dhv info to them so when they get back home they shouldnt say “who was that guy?”

 

#Flakes; Attraction-Rapport calibration
A lot of people including me, skips attraction phase pretty quickly, they start to ask friendly questions and it builds rapport. Attraction is a must! Do whatever you like push-pull, tease, challenge, tell dhv stories, travel buddies etc… but make sure you built enough attraction before making an emotional connection with her. For me most women flake because either I didnt built enough attraction or built too much rapport.

 

#Less investment
No brainer; you shouldn’t invest in a girl that you just got a number from or who may flake or she is not sure about you. What is the point of chasing a girl who is not sure about you. Self-respect is important. Investing too much equals to trying hard and when women realize this, it will turn them off.

 

#Blind spots; get an objective opinion from other people
Sometimes you cant see you flaws or your behaviors that are wrong, they are like blind spots. In that case dont hesitate to ask other people about your approaches or interactions and dont get offended by their analysis, especially experienced guys will give you solid feedbacks. This happened to me, I was smiling too much while teasing girls or challenging them, never occurred to me until other people pointed it out.

 

#Detecting your own mistakes
If you can tell your weaknesses or mistakes after a decent/bad conversation, that means you are learning from your mistakes. However dont forget to give yourself a treat or an emotional break when you did good as well… Because that was also one of my blind spots. I was too harsh on myself. Looking for mistakes after every interaction.

 

#Confidence
Sometimes having a confident vibe is just enough.

 

Special FR to motivate you guys to show what is possible: This is not a trophy FR, I really debated myself to post this or not, I may take down this any second, if I change my mind.
One day recently, I was in a high-end club, a blondie walked by and I raised my glass to her and winked. She told me “Do you think you can impress me by winking”, I told her while smirking “You are already impressed”, I was looking her in the eye , I paused for a second then continued ”you must be one of those girls my mom warned me about!”, she started laughing, I was still keeping the eye contact, she was standing 4-5 inches away from my face, I put my arm around her waist, after 30 seconds of greeting she told me I smell good, I leaned on her ear told her “How bad do you wanna kiss me right now?” pause a second but before she deflected my question I looked her in the eye raised her chin little bit and I went for the kiss, she was all over me. I know she was dtf, the way she touched me was really intense. I told her to come with me to the quite end of the bar, hold her hand and leaded her there, started making out heavily I slipped my fingers thru her panties under bar making sure nobody could see it, she was not removing hand, I whispered her ear “I want you to swallow, right here in the club”, she says okay, I try to lead her to bathroom but it is full, bouncer didnt let us to the kitchen area then I told her we can find a private spot around the club outside, her logic starts to kick in, but me being confident and leading her, she just wanted to experience her limits.

 

She did also kept her promise about swallowing too… Blurred her face and arms and almost everything, nsfw pic

 

Part 3 coming next week because it is almost weekend and I am busy ;)
In Part 3: final part; the bigger picture, and what all of this comes down to….