How do you handle girls who reject you initially, then months later after they find out your "worth" want you?

shoganaiyo · 2015-12-22T03:37:56+00:00

Teach her what lesson, exactly? If it's just for not showing interest to you, it makes you look worse than her. I thought this sub was about teaching people to handle with rejection with class, not punish others for it.

If all you want is vindication, just call her out on it. When the topic comes up, put her on the ropes and let her work her way out of it.

"You didn't seem very interested in me when we met."
"Yeah, I was interested before but you seemed more interested in my friend."
"You weren't that interested in me before. What changed?"

Turn the tables on her and she'll start demonstrating worth to you and you don't lose appeal by appearing petty.

enkae7317 · 2015-12-22T01:53:09+00:00

This is tricky situation. And it depends on what kind of person you are. Typically if you are twisted you can just use your status to one night stand her then drop her like a sack of potatoes.

Psynaut · 2015-12-22T04:52:45+00:00

I am a fan of this sub, in general, but what I don't understand is why guys expect women to want to date losers. If she met you for a short time, and all she has to judge you on is your shabby clothes, worn out demeanor, and exhausted personality, why the fuck would she want to go out with you.

More importantly, why would you want to date a girl with no standards?

Do you expect her to be able to peer magically into your soul and instantly recognize your worth?

Ffs, giver her a little bit of slack. She found out you weren't the loser you came off as in your first meeting and now she wants to go out with you. What is so wrong with that?

MonoXideAtWork · 2015-12-22T03:04:02+00:00

That's super low-value thinking. If you want her to learn a lesson, then perhaps "One shouldn't judge a book by its cover," is applicable.

Although, if you're considering toying with her, perhaps she made the right choice initially.

Kubi74 · 2015-12-22T03:32:11+00:00

You want her to learn her lesson for not liking you? dude grow the fuck up.

TheMinistryOfAwesome · 2015-12-22T09:22:11+00:00

plenty of comment suggesting that people here are assholes.

For the record she didn't do anything wrong and there is no lesson to learn. She just went with the information she had

azrise · 2015-12-22T03:52:09+00:00

Women have different evolutionary mechanisms of attraction. Whereas men are attracted to beauty, women are attracted to status, money, strength, etc. So it's natural for her to have changed her mind. She can't help it. You'd be a hypocrite to blame her for it.

Would you feel attracted to her if she was not pretty? Then why blame her for not feeling attracted to you when you failed to show value?

V4refugee · 2015-12-22T02:15:48+00:00

Sure if it makes you feel better. Do you think she should have fallen only for your looks or personality? If you were a girl would you have been attracted to yourself that night?

cea2015 · 2015-12-22T02:06:46+00:00

do her once, ignore for 2 weeks. this piece of shit kind of woman will probably desire you even more if you do that. then do her again, go mute for 2 weeks. she should be willing to give you her best at this point. so do her in the ass, and only then you decide if you wanna keep doing her.

waynerooney501 · 2015-12-22T02:48:09+00:00

Pump her. Then dump her.

You know she's not long term relationship material anyways.

penis_sosmall · 2015-12-22T05:15:11+00:00

...What do you have to lose by going?

What lesson are you going to teach her?

Don't miss out on something that could end up working out for you... because maybe you weren't that attractive stud that you are on that particular day. Go with an open mind, but keep it in the back of your mind too.

trail22 · 2015-12-22T10:00:40+00:00

Was she rude or unfriendly; or was she simply not interested in dating until she knew you better?

JakeApproaches · 2015-12-23T19:32:17+00:00

You're judging a past version of yourself and her.

What if you met the same girl in a bar, without your history?

joshsway · 2015-12-22T01:59:25+00:00

So you are willing to suffer to teach this girl a lesson? Seems idiotic. Why not do what makes you happy? And, if you really want to be an asshole, sleeping with her then not calling her again is much worse than not sleeping with her. Just fyi.

Tjodleik · 2015-12-22T04:14:16+00:00

Am I nuts?

Nah. To be honest I'd probably feel the same way, and tell her to fuck off just for good mesure. If I felt particularly malevolent I might take her out, show her my very best side, then take her home and be just flirty enough to get her hopes up, before casually mentioning that I think this could be the start of a great friendship and send her home at the end of the night. If she objects then hey, I didn't say this was gonna be a date, did I? And I certainly can't be held responsible for whatever anticipations she may have for the night.

2015-12-22T14:27:41+00:00

I understand what you're going through: you were displaying your personality (maybe you were tired out, etc), she showed no interest. Suddenly she learns about your job and how much money you make, your external social status, and now she's saying she's interested. I wouldn't be interested either: I want someone who is interested in ME for me, not for my job/status/etc.

This is actually a textbook MASSIVE failure on her part to qualify you. She clearly disdained you when you had no status/money, but now she realizes you do, and she's interested. You are clearly aware she is interested in you because of your money/status as opposed to your personality/"who you are", so you're revolted and feel like you're being played (and you are). This is what its like when a guy starts hitting on a girl / displays interest right away based on only her looks (ie without qualifying her): a feeling of being used, except a much more extreme version. It would be like a guy disdaining a woman over the phone and then suddenly asking for a date on seeing her face/body... awful game.

I wouldn't be interested in her either, to be be honest. Obviously women like money/status, but if that's clearly the only thing they are interested in from me...

PS Better game her would have been for her to stage a meeting between you do (alone or in a group), have her not display interest until she qualifies you (get you to talk about yourself, your personality, what you like to do, not status/money/job stuff) and then have her display interest in those qualities you reveal. That's qualification. The target - yourself - does not feel like you are wanted just for your money/status. This is all in the Mystery Method, btw.

ihallisey96 · 2015-12-22T01:36:25+00:00

You can't put a price on good pussy.

circlhat · 2015-12-22T15:09:35+00:00

Ignore the other comments you are being yourself and expression your true feelings, the feeling you have is defining yourself what others and woman think.

This isn't a safe space, this seems to be a sub where we have just enough "Bad boy" to get women to like us, but underneath we are pure at heart.

Part of me wants her to learn her lesson

No you want to teach yourself a lesson, you have a insecurity that requires mediation to see your true motives, do not suppress this feeling.

Well she found out what I do for a living and that I make pretty good money, have pretty good social status in the town I live in,

Deep down inside you know you are still beta bucks with a few alpha traits, you seen glimpses of the truth, but you aren't able to formalize , you want to prove to yourself you are worth something without the social status and the money, if you can convince her of that than you can finally love yourself.

You have a long road ahead of you, until you sleep with at least 50 women and understand them completely no words can help you, At this point all you can do is fake it until you make it, one day you will realize she isn't worth anything above a place to put your dick and see shouldn't be taken seriously.

deatheej · 2015-12-22T03:17:31+00:00

I wouldn't bother with her

Title	How do you handle girls who reject you initially, then months later after they find out your "worth" want you?
Author	alwayslastplace
Upvotes	22
Comments	30
Date	December 22, 2015 1:21 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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