I don't try because I know I'll have nothing in common with the girl. Is there a way around this?

Tamazin_ · 2016-01-04T13:34:13+00:00

Everyone has sex in common id' say?

OdinNueve · 2016-01-04T11:53:33+00:00

Aside from needing a little confidence, I would just say stop making it about you and what you have in common with her.

Just get to know her and find out why does she like the things she likes. When you can just talk and not worry about would this be an easy target cause of common ground, at least for me, it becomes a natural to find the common interest or create the idea of wanting to learn the new hobby you enjoy or music to listen.

But when it's all said and done you need to approach and get out of your own head lol hope that helps a little abd good luck!

Wildwildwes17 · 2016-01-04T17:46:46+00:00

People who are good at seduction are the ones who can find connections by just talking and discussing opinions and learning from one another while dropping sexual clues every once in a while. If you are telling yourself before you even talk to her that you don't have anything in common you are psyching yourself out.

Try convincing yourself that it's a challenge to find one thing in common. This will require intellect to read clues and make connections about the person you are talking with. The better you get at reading people the easier this will become because you will notice that you will get a feel for the type of person.

Also practice letting things go. In order to learn you are going to have to let yourself fail. We are all humans, we all experience emotions, every single person has felt the same way you have felt at some point in your life. If you get rejected or laughed at or whatever just understand that there are a million reasons why and its not up to you to figure out why. Let it go. You will learn from it without trying to learn from it.

HellhoundsOnMyTrail · 2016-01-04T14:49:28+00:00

What to do when you feel like you have nothing in common/talk to about with a girl?

Be interested. Ask them questions. Bonus points for open ended questions. You don't have to of had the same life and listen to the same music/whatever to relate. And regardless you'll find stuff the more you ask and dig.

Also, have an opinion.

Lastly, realize you're not looking to get laid. If ejaculation is this only thing that's important you can just stay inside and feed the geese all day. You're looking for the connection that comes with it.

disturbing_nickname · 2016-01-04T19:14:44+00:00

You almost always have life itself in common. Living, experiencing, food, doing interesting stuff, whatever. Ive been able to connect with even the blondest bimbo because of this outlook.

Be a storyteller. Encourage her to tell stories about her life. Getting bored? Make a move. Tell another story. Announce that youre making another move within 5 minutes. Tell a story. Let her start telling a story. Go for the kiss. Etc

Purecorrupt · 2016-01-04T23:37:39+00:00

You're both nuthin' but mammals baby.

Lmanzie · 2016-01-04T18:27:15+00:00

'He I dont know the girl, lets find out what she likes' is what I would think

RoccoF · 2016-01-04T15:19:59+00:00

If you are human you have an innumerable amount of things in common. Just look at the human genome. I don't know the exact number but its a very high number (around 90 something%?) which every single human has in common. Its the minority percentage, (4 or 5%?) which seperates us (look, attitude, etc.). So it's not that there's nothing they can relate to you about, its you aren't seeing it. Once you approach and start conversing, you will realize this. Don't forget, women aren't some far away aliens, they are humans too. I think you need to first just approach women as friends, not looking at them as lovers and you will be good.

letsgocrazy · 2016-01-04T16:19:19+00:00

If you have nothing in common then why waste your time? Is your time worth so little that you want to spend it people you don't even like?

Just look for people you have something in common with.

No girl wants to be used as a flashlight.

kazing · 2016-01-04T12:18:38+00:00

When I read the title I thought you were gonna be a pick who thinks he is too interesting for girls to have something in common with them and I was gonna say that you shouldn't asume that girls are boring cause I find a local of girls with very diverse interests.

But to your problem I would say that you should work on your confidence first because that seems to be the root issue here.

Another thing is that you should actually work on being an interesting person. Read, get a hobby, get a skill, travel.

Pick up has become much easier since I moved to a different country to train jiu jitsu full time and started reading at least a book a week.

Title	I don't try because I know I'll have nothing in common with the girl. Is there a way around this?
Author	BewBies472
Upvotes	18
Comments	17
Date	January 4, 2016 11:42 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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