I've been told that I come off has being too serious or even intimidating. How do I chill the fuck out?

AttractandSeduce · 2016-02-09T17:04:38+00:00

Thanks for sharing man.

Here are some action steps for you:

Get in the habit of smiling more. Since your in the marines, it can be hard to smile often because your peers may look down on it. Smiling makes a big difference though. Smiling in general makes you come across as more approachable and attractive.
Get in the habit of teasing and bantering everyone around you. Make this your default mode. People will feel much more at ease around you this way. They will not take you as seriously. Teasing builds attraction as well so people (especially girls) will naturally be more attracted to you.
Get in the habit of talking to everyone that your curious about. Your social skills are a skill. Use your social skills and you will keep them fresh and you will keep growing. Hardly use your social skills and you will get the opposite results. Build more of a friendship with that guy or girl that is naturally more of a "social butterfly".

Like I always recommend. Start out small.

Smile to 1 person a day. Tease 1 person a day. Talk to 1 new person a day.

Create a routine that works for you, mine is just an example. As long as your working towards making it a habit, slowly but surly you will start doing these things naturally. The result will be that you naturally will come off as more attractive right off the bat because of your smile and sense of humor. Everybody loves a guy or girl with a sense of humor. You will be making friends everywhere you go which makes you even more attractive because you will be talking to everyone that your curious about.

richiehustle · 2016-02-09T13:41:27+00:00

I can relate myself to your type of personality: taking everything seriously and diligently. And sometimes this habit plays me

yenners · 2016-02-09T16:15:06+00:00

Smile more or either use it to your advantage. Not everyone has to be the happy go lucky type. Some chicks dig the serious brooding type.

juloxx · 2016-02-09T16:13:19+00:00

acid tends to help people learn to take themselves (and life) a lot less seriously. Strange suggestion, but hey seen it work on myself and a lot of others, so might as well throw it out there

Overnight_Delivery · 2016-02-09T13:56:14+00:00

I'm known as one of the most consistently serious persons people I know have met. I guess if a particular girl lightens you up and makes you happy then just make sure to keep it up with her and stay persistent. Happiness is the biggest attraction feature in any gender, so just do your best to keep that up (and it's appearance) at least with just the girl you are going for. Ultimately serious and unhappy seeming people are at a MAJOR disadvantage.

Also always being serious has it's advantages. It means when you are after a girl you are serious about it and you're making a serious effort. They pick up on that and a lot of girls will open up when they wouldn't to just someone who had good game.

Big_TX · 2016-02-09T18:20:46+00:00

Hang out with different people. Try to spend as much time with the people who let lose and don't take stuff so sersioisly. And minimize time with super serious people. watch TV shows where the charities are not serious don't watch shows where they are. A good recommendation is Archer. (Obvsiously don't be him) watching shows will permeate your attitude and what not. What you put in to your mind is what you get out. You can watch RSD In field footage. It's helarsious and has the right vibe.

When you get drunk listen to fun music. Not like "oh this is really complex or deep" but fun music and try and embody it and "feel" the music. I always hated that phrase but I can do t when I'm drunk.

Electricshephard · 2016-02-10T00:10:48+00:00

I can relate a lot to this. I have a very serious nature; what drives me is a Kantian sense of responsibility.

I've solved it by accepting that there is serious time and not serious time. Smiling, joking and acting without thinking can be very liberating! You can also learn to switch rather quickly from serious mode to funny mode, mainly through a "I don't give a fuck attitude". And I've made the experience that it's a very attractive quality.

To give the impression that you know what your place is in the universe, that you have very tangible goals in front of you seems to be pretty attractive as well. Like, everyone deep down is wrecked by something, be it economic issues, illness in the family or existential questions. Being someone who stands firm is good. At least, it works for me.

Also it's worth adding that rarely somebody cares about what you say if you're confident and smiling, bonus if in good shape.

opelmanz · 2016-02-10T15:07:33+00:00

Your inner voice is telling you something in situations when you might be likely to relax, like when out with friends at a bar. Listen carefully next time you're in a situation where it seems appropriate to have "fun" and try to figure out what you are telling yourself.

Murfdigidy · 2016-02-09T16:12:19+00:00

This is gonna sound really simple because it is.... Smile and have fun. Have you ever heard the song "girls just wanna have fun" this is more true than the air you breathe. Life's too short to be so serious, you let go a little , stop worrying about what other people think and have fun.

Let me ask you this, do you dance, even if you're horrible, are you comfortable enough to dance in a group? If you don't it means you're insecure, you're worried people won't think you're as tough as you think you are, as bad ass as you want to project, but guys that dance get more pussy than guys that don't it's just a fact.

Girls LOVE when guys dance, let loose, have fun, just don't give a fuck what other guys think cause those same guys will be jealous of all the pussy you attract dancing.

I only give you this example because you take me as someone that doesn't let loose, just go out and not give a fuck and have fun. Cause when you do that, you become a girl magnet, not like the losers in the corner watching the girls dance the night away

Title	I've been told that I come off has being too serious or even intimidating. How do I chill the fuck out?
Author	p00nbrigade
Upvotes	13
Comments	20
Date	February 9, 2016 1:04 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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