I rarely ever show interest in a girl until I know she is interested in me. This narrows down my options; any advice on showing interest/ initiating relationships?

redankulous · 2016-02-20T18:35:46+00:00

I think you said exactly what you need to do: show interest. Make eye contact when you talk to her. Smile a lot. Look at her like you wanna fuck her.

Invite her to do stuff with you (ask her out).

ACT INTERESTED IF YOU ARE INTERESTED.

fredialim · 2016-02-20T19:28:03+00:00

AAA: Always Assume Attraction

almondbutter1 · 2016-02-20T22:46:41+00:00

be swift as a coursing river
be strong as a great typhoon
be forceful as a raging fire
be mysterious as the dark side of the moon

PaintTheStarsGold · 2016-02-20T20:22:33+00:00

Watch californication

puabookworm · 2016-02-20T20:01:47+00:00

Do you do that because you're scared of rejection? Get rejected a few times and you'll start to realize it's not a big deal unless you let it be.

altiuscitiusfortius · 2016-02-20T20:09:37+00:00

Man up. Stop being afraid of rejection. Show interest in everyone, even people you aren't interest in. Its called flirting. Its social skills.

_kang18 · 2016-02-21T01:48:45+00:00

Ask yourself why you do not feel the need to show interest.

Is it your ego (ie. you feel women should be approaching you as you are the man).
Do you lack confidence (ie. you feel nervous when trying to engage with women).
Are you socially enept (ie. you can approach women but find it hard to keep conversation flowing).

^ Find out the core reason to what's preventing you from it and then set up some goals and work on that.

Cynical_Doggie · 2016-02-21T00:18:16+00:00

Instead of complaining about the world, and waiting for it to change, you can change yourself and get after what you want.

saulisdating · 2016-02-21T00:36:20+00:00

The problem with that. How will you KNOW that she is showing interest in you? A lot of the girls show it incredibly SUBTLY and many guys don't pick up on those queues. So you are wasting a ton of potential and missed opportunities being in that mindset.

Why would you work against yourself?

69petra · 2016-02-21T09:57:59+00:00

I believe it is lack of confidence that is causing this - a fear of rejection. I had a similar problem in my younger years. Before the time of internet and social media. I needed to practice more on how to talk to a girl. So I used to reply to the ads in newspapers. There I would get the phone number and would chat with them. This way if I got rejected, I would not feel bad as she would not know me by face. Gradually I got better and better and was able to overcome the fear of rejection. Something similar maybe available these days as well. Try that out.

nefosjb · 2016-02-21T13:49:13+00:00

"I rarely ever show interest in a girl until i know she is interested in me " this is just completely wrong :\ you gotta act first man

drummmmmergeorge · 2016-02-20T23:56:57+00:00

I used to only date one type of women: Orienental. After I spent around $500 on them, I gave up and went on to other women. Sure, it was fun, but they weren't at my level. Now I go for any girl besides black. Every girl my other head tells me to talk to I talk to. I am the man in the relantionship, I start everything, kissing, holding hands, and of course the naughty. I am a psycholgoist (in 2020) so social interation is easy, plus I'm good looking so It's really easy for me to waste my time on women. That being said you got to go balls deep 100% of the time, if not your wasting your $/T

Also, you need to show your balls to them, let them know you want them, and then they will play the game of sex with you.

Title	I rarely ever show interest in a girl until I know she is interested in me. This narrows down my options; any advice on showing interest/ initiating relationships?
Author	fiuryyg
Upvotes	217
Comments	55
Date	February 20, 2016 5:58 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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