Edit: Something should be noted about this guide. This guide is everchanging until the day I can't edit this post anymore. This so I can be open to suggestions, add things I forgot, or add things that I learn along the way. This is aimed to be my ultimate guide, and I hope it helps you as well.

When going about the day

Walk with a purpose. Feel like you have a purpose in everything that you're doing. Walking, talking, running, fucking. Put your whole body and mind behind it. Women will see when he has his shit together, even when just walking. It's the aura you eminate - it's real.

Enjoy being out of the comfort zone. Just as with stress, reacting to these situations as if they were enjoyable/helpful actually make yourself a lot readier for growth. The next time you're facing a situation that's unknown and would push you into uncomfortability, just think to yourself "Man I'd love to do something new now - where I have no shitting clue on what to do, I'm sure I'll gain experience and learn more about myself."

Live in the present. You can only control the Now, worrying about the past (that is done) and the future (that may never be) is futile. If you approach a girl and she turns you down, then that moment is already gone because the Now takes it over. She could give you her number and you could start to date and create new Now experiences together. You will never know if you fear approaching her because of an irrational future that may or may not happen.

Even if it does happen, within seconds a new Now replaces it and in days it is forgotten. Living in the present is basically about understanding that life is here and now. Not tomorrow. Not yesterday. Not in 10 seconds. Not in 0.000001 seconds. Right now. Always. The 2 main sources I can recommend for mindfulness is meditation & the book "The Power of Now." In my opinion, if you have mastered mindfulness, you have mastered Inner Game. https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/10kvh6/your_thoughts_are_not_you_or_stop_listening_to/?st=iqtfe4s9&sh=d97cd30f /u/archaicfrost has a nice write-up on this topic

Be grateful (about everything).

"If the only prayer you ever say in your entire life is thank you, it will be enough."

It's been scientifically proven that regularly being grateful increases your happiness by a lot. Funny enough, other people will also be happier if you thank them for something that they did. Appreciation is beautiful, both for yourself and for the other person. Do it often and to everyone. This is a currency much alike love that you get back more of the more you spend it. Be grateful about that tree outside your bathroom window, that you look at when you take a shit. Be grateful about your brother still helping to deal with your shit. Be grateful about peaches. Be grateful about your past self working on your body. Be grateful for that girl in class who smiled at you when you looked at her. Be grateful for that fuzzy feeling you get when you compliment other people and see them smile afterwards.

In the same vein whenever something bad happens, it's easy to focus so much on the negative side that you consume yourself in misery and self-pity. For example you opened up a set, created a good vibe, did some kino but you didn't have the balls to ask her out on a date. You can be angry about yourself for not asking her out on date for the rest of the day, or you can just be grateful that you approached in the first place. Be grateful about the fact that you even managed to kino and you both had a good time. Learn from your mistake, but do not give it more attention than it needs.

Always look on the positive side of things (Or: Frame the situation in a way that it's beneficial for your growth). Here's a great video on what this entails: https://youtu.be/OXuxJaYsIvs?t=1m3s (Don't prejudice just because it's from nigahiga. It's more about the meaning behind it.). TL;DW "I found out my girlfriend's been cheating on me" --> "Great, now I don't have to worry about whether she was the one or not." or "Wow she rejected me so rudely" --> "Good, one less bitch I'll have to deal with. I'm glad I polarized quickly to weed out the ones incompatible with me. Also, I'm glad I'm now able to not get offended as easily as I used to be." You get what I mean. Focusing on the negative things is detrimental to your growth, since this means you get stuck in past mistakes, a fake world that you can't relive anymore. Stop hoping for a better past, move on.

Be high energy! Pump yourself up with that good music, smile at the birds chirping, scream "you're the man!" into the mirror, laugh for no fucking reason, just get your energy up! You're much more likely to enjoy your day this way, and positive vibes are contagious!

Take control. Be a leader. You do not need permission from anyone. If you wish to do something, you do it. Don't be a pussy. After that, trust yourself - you're a LOT smarter than you think. Women will wet their panties for a dude who knows what's up, knows what he wants and is not afraid to show it. Often you'll be given choices, and often you fear the consequences and responsibilities on your shoulders, however big it may be. In those cases you just choose something, stop tip-toeing around the issue and tell her in the face where you're taking her on a date. It doesn't so much matter where you actually take her, it matters that you took the lead.

About yourself

Be Confident. Just check out /r/seduction's top posts.

Confidence is not "She will like me." Confidence is "I'll be fine whether she likes me or not."

https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/qneee/sometimed_btards_give_the_best_advice_got_this/

You are not perfect. Embrace this fact. Be comfortable in your own skin. Women don't seek the "perfect" person, they look for someone they can relate to and connect with. Seeking perfection is NOT the way, it's a weakness. Women seek a CONFIDENT dude, who's okay with himself, not in a slacker kind of way, but in a "damn I'm awesome, and if there are things I can't change about myself that I don't like, then let that be that" kind of way. Aim to be better than yourself, not others. In the end, there will always be someone else who's better than you at something. But your goal in life is not to be better than the rest, it's to be the best version of yourself. Cheesy as it sounds, you are unique and the world needs your uniqueness. https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/4a62yv/i_transformed_my_entire_life_in_7_months_heres_my/?st=iqtf0gk8&sh=41e79b4f read /u/jimmiereese3327's inspiring story for more on those 2 points.

Forgive yourself. This is a big one. Ever messed up a set so bad you beat yourself over it so much, your mood is ruined for you and your buddies for the rest of the night? Now, we've all been there, but we all have to understand that this is really unnecessary. Give yourself permission to forgive yourself. Only if you forgive yourself, you can lift up all the pressure you had from messing up. This also leads to forgiving other people much easier.

Don't care about what other people think of you. This is so fucking important. It is both the simplest, yet the hardest to execute advice. But once you figured it out, you will be Superman 2.0. Ever felt like standing up and screaming around in a cafe to commit to a joke, but were afraid to embarrass your friend? Wanna dance in public to your jam, but don't want to look like a weirdo in public? Have that warm feeling in your stomach about that really funny punchline that could be offensive, so as not to appear like an ignorant person, you don't want to say it out loud? Well fuck that guys. If you want to be a free person, express yourself 100%, live life on your own accord, there is no way around it. Simply don't give a fuck. It's simple. You're having excuses right now. I don't know what your excuse is. Maybe you're having a moment of enlightenment, and that's good. To those who don't, I'll say this again: Simply. Do. Not. Give. A. Shit. About what other people think of you.

"Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind."

Consciously catch yourself when you're having that speck of a doubt. Choose to push through despite it and do whatever the fuck it is that you wanted to do, no matter what other people could think about you. Either the reaction is different from what you expected (probably much better than you thought), or they simply don't fit your style and you don't really have to care about that. I could say more about this topic, but I'll choose not to. You will notice that once you reach 100% authenticity, you will magically draw people to you. You'll just be so real. Like you're their best friend and they want to open themselves up to you because you're just yourself, and so you make other people feel like they can just be themselves around you as well. https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/3sz05w/why_is_not_giving_a_fuck_so_attractive/ /u/stephen-silver had a great story about this.

Let go of your persona. This goes in the same vein as "do not care about what other people think about you", but it goes a level deeper. Often times, when you're out with friends OR you just met a new group of friends, you will tend to act one way rather than the other, even though you don't want to. For example, you're out with a friend who never knew you did pickup, yet there's that really hot girl you want to talk to in a café. Chances are, you'll think to yourself "Oh man, he doesn't even know yet. If I surprise him here out of nowhere and I fail it's going to be embarrassing as fuck!" OR maybe you just 'feel like you shouldn't do it in front of him, because X.'

At those times it becomes apparent that you have created a certain "persona" of yourself, an "identity." And to an extent, you want to keep up that persona in front of your friends. Maybe you even have slightly altered personas between different people in your circle of friends. Well I'll tell you what, people don't have identities. You are you. Be you. Nothing else. YOU have no persona, because YOU ARE, and that's it. Never forget to express YOURSELF 100%, (almost) no matter the cost. It's more important to keep integrity and be true to yourself than follow up on a self-persona that only exists in your mind. Yes, maybe people will be surprised if you suddenly show a different side of yourself, maybe something you're embarrassed about - but the more embarrassed/defensive you get about it, the more it means something to you because that just shows how much you don't want to get attacked for something that you love.

If you don't let go, you will get exhausted, both mentally and physically. Let go!

Don't take yourself too serious. Lighten up, bro. Don't take offense to every little thing, makes you hard to be around. If you don't take yourself serious, making jokes and making others and yourself laugh gets a lot easier. Plus you don't get offended as easy and people will see you're a chill dude. Makes you a lot more likeable and makes life a whole lot easier. If you're stuck up and angry at everything that's being thrown at you, shit gets tiring, real quick.

https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1yd1df/principles_to_live_by/ Here are a lot of great points regarding not giving a fuck & stoicism by /u/randianhero

Don't compare yourself to other people. This is a really basic tip, and you've probably heard it a lot - doesn't mean it's unimportant. If you're too busy comparing your [insert external/materialistic measure of success here] to someone else, you'll always be lacking SOMETHING. Happiness and inner peace comes from within. Most importantly, however, taking yourself too serious and comparing yourself to others makes you a dick who can't appreciate good things. You wouldn't be able to be happy about your friends' or other peoples' success. You would see other people being successful as a projection of you being unsuccessful. Oh and also, don't compare yourself to feel better about yourself. That's a short-lived, twisted, unhealthy & needy way of feeling good about yourself. Grow up. Don't be that guy. Relaaaaax bro. Have fun. Spread love.

Learn to be funny. I learned the easiest way to become funny is not to by becoming the wittiest dude on the planet a lá Conan O'Brien. Simply commit to your jokes, don't take yourself too serious and most importantly, make yourself laugh. Learn which type of humor presses your buttons. If you manage to do those things, the girl will laugh whether she actually finds your antics funny or not, the whole energy behind it will make her laugh without her knowing why.

Smile.

During a Conversation (With a Girl)

Smile from the inside. Genuinely smile on the outside. Like you love life and mean it!

Be vulnerable. 100% brutal honesty. You probably heard this about a thousand times. Whenever you have an opinion on or have a feeling about something, don't be afraid to say it out loud. You will feel vulnerable because what you would say is your 100% real self, and if the other person disrespects that, it'll feel like they directly attacked you - that's why you shy away from it. Don't. Remember about that thing I said with being authentic and perfection? Girls love it when you're vulnerable. It shows that you are not afraid to say what's on your mind. That's sexy as fuck. Read "Models" by Mark Manson for more about vulnerability. https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/43vldz/what_is_vulnerability_and_why_it_works/ read /u/mi5ery's write up on vulnerability (who also recommends Mark Manson's "Models.")

LISTEN. Genuinely listen to what the other person has to say. The easiest way to make another person interested in you is to be interested in that person yourself. Ever have the feeling of not knowing what to say? You can initiate a conversation by asking an open-ended question, but ask too many and the conversation turns into a weird interview. To avoid this, listen to what the other person has to say. Don't go "Oh that's cool" and ask the next question or think about what you're going to say next. The other person will notice - either from your words, or your eyes, or your choice of topic. A girl leaves a lot of "hooks" onto which you can latch yourself on. These include "Observations" - what she wears, her hair, her way of X (talking, walking, dressing) or her "Sentences" themselves. For example "I returned from LA last week, when I came home I saw my dog with a bow tie, what the hell! My mom think's she's so funny smiles." There are a LOT of hooks that you can latch onto: Her returning from LA ("Where were you before returning from LA?" or "Last time I was there, I met a buddy who..."). Her dog ("Why did you choose that dog and not another one?" or "I've always wanted a Corgi, I saw some videos where.."). Her mom ("Does she often prank you? You seem to get along with your mom really well, I know that my mom would ..."). https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/4seyc9/never_run_out_of_things_to_say_to_womenkeep_the/?st=iqtfo9rg&sh=278afb04 here's a cool write-up from /u/aswjacob if you want more tips on "Never Running Out Of Things To Say." https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/3ly30k/lpt_stop_making_awkward_small_talk_by_focusing_on/?st=iqtfhq8l&sh=44a245a6 Also interesting and helpful is /u/everyseventeenyears's "Rhythm of Speech"

Be outcome independent. When talking to a girl, just have fun in the interaction itself. Remember all the things with being vulnerable, living in the present, not giving a fuck. Those are all means so you can just have fun. Tell inappropriate jokes that you find funny, do stuff that makes you laugh and enjoy yourself. This endless source of fun is contagious and draws others to you - girls also just want to have fun! Without judgement from anyone else, without worrying about weird looks from others, without being afraid of offending anyone. If they see you as an inspiration, it'll be much easier from them to have just as much as fun if they hang around you. This way, you'll support each other in an upward spiral of shits 'n giggles. And if it's time to go slower and sexual, do it in the same playful way. If it doesn't work, there's enough fish in the sea - as cliché as this sounds. Find someone that matches your energy. Go into an interaction only wanting to express yourself, and if the girl loves that, then they love you. If they don't, don't beat yourself up over it. Life goes on and you don't have to exhaust yourself with unnecessary, negative thoughts.

Be okay with your sexuality. Show desire. The biggest weakness in guys is having no faith in their sexuality. They feel like they just can't get sexual with a women, no matter how well the conversation goes. They say "I don't know how, what do I have to say?" And they'll get tips like "Slow down your voice, talk slower, physically escalate, look at them like you wanna fuck them on the sink right now." But when they try they fail, get creeped out looks and are left with a big fat question mark. The main point is your Inner Game. If you talk slower, deeper, with stronger eye contact and with more physical touch, but you don't believe in what you're doing, then you're not congruent. Not congruent means your inner belief system and your outer actions don't match each other. This results in inauthenticity, creepiness and rejections. The trick is to be okay with being a man. It's in your DNA to want and fuck a women. Then be okay with this fact. You want a girl, and there's nothing wrong with it. In fact, this just makes you more of a man - more attractive. In fact, women are much much naughtier than you might think. You see all those erotica novels? How they consume sex scenes like it's chocolate? While we men are like "Oh shit she's got hot pants on, look at those legs." Women talk about "He really knew how to work his dick omg I wanna fuck him right now." All. The fucking. Time. They live on their horny side, it's just that society has slut shamed them to death so they hide it. But oh, you know nothing. Be sexual with them - they LOVE it. So be okay with it.

Don't put her on a pedestal. I think this is self-explanatory. Don't see the world and other people in scales of value. See them as other human beings that have just as many weaknesses and insecurities that you have who take shits, probably vomited a few times for being too drunk, laugh like a hyena, dance alone in their bathroom, have the worst voice when singing in the shower, say dumb shit like 1 + 1 = 3 once in a while. Don't filter or change yourself in an attempt to woo the woman, it's not gonna happen, it's not worth it and she'll see right through it. Stop unnecessarily pressuring yourself.

Rejection is fine. Sometimes you do everything right, perfect kino, perfect vibe, but they still don't want anything to do with you. This can have multiple reasons, most of which you can't influence (like location). Or maybe they just straight up reject you. This is good, invited even. If it wasn't going to work out anyway, then be grateful there weren't any more games played and the interaction is over sooner rather than later. This will give you more time to try out new things and new women. In the first place, the image of rejection being bad and the fear of failure is something that's wrongly taught to us. We all have to fail or we won't grow. Be happy about being rejected, not because you got rejected, but because you had the courage to try and have gained new experiences to use for next time.