The more I get rejected/ignored the less I give a shit...

crawleydown · 2017-02-07T09:14:48+00:00

I found that initially my skin started to feel thicker after rejection as I became more used too it, but at a certain point (maybe after say 3 months of approaching with either outright rejections or interactions that fizzled out due to the girl not being interested) that it's started to actually hit my self esteem and I feel like a gargoyle, lol.

I'm not sure how healthy constant rejection really is! I'm close to a year of it now! lol

FRMax1 · 2017-02-07T13:53:39+00:00

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santereality · 2017-02-07T18:21:44+00:00

I don't really like the whole "numb yourself to the pain" approach. As a rule, I care very much that people like me. That said, I don't get all bent out of shape whenever a woman won't make time for me because at any given moment there are about a thousand reasons she may not feel like getting hit on right then and there.

Maybe it's useful to be rejected enough that it's not so hard to muster the courage to go up and talk to a stranger, but as soon as you get to that point then your goal should be to get a yes every time. Otherwise, why bother?

xrispy7 · 2017-02-07T20:56:12+00:00

This is the only way how to get over approach anxiety! Throw yourself in more and more socially awkward and full of anxiety moments. There is actually science behind this as well. Just Google it or Try it! One day saying hi to a stranger will scare you, the next bore you. Then Getting a girls number will scare you, then bore you. Then Pulling girls home will scare you, then bore you ;). The key is to normalize the rate of action. It does not matter where you are currently just identify what you are uncomfortable with and try it! "Do something that SCARES you everyday"

YippyKayYay · 2017-02-07T10:31:43+00:00

"Remember that often the way people interact with you has more to do with how they feel about themselves than it does with how they feel about you."

Think of that next time you get rejected, it really helps you come back to neutral. :)

Sad_Sleeper · 2017-02-07T09:41:08+00:00

Well i got different type of experience with rejection. The Past 2-3 months i've been looking for a job. And i've been rejected 7-8 times so far. The first 1-2 times was awful, but now it's just meh.

About women i don't have that much experience, i tried one girl after i've started improving myself and she liked me, though after new year we've stopped seeing each other. The thing is that wasn't even that much into her and the split was easy. I still don't know why she got mad at me. Have to see her soon at least to figure this out.

TheXXL · 2017-02-07T05:45:02+00:00

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NeverGonnaKnowMe1 · 2017-02-07T06:33:24+00:00

I've gotten rejected one too many times and now I'm too afraid to ask a girl I like out. I always take rejections really hard

Title	The more I get rejected/ignored the less I give a shit...
Author	gtrman571
Upvotes	50
Comments	30
Date	February 7, 2017 5:22 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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