Why do girls only call me `cute’ and `handsome’ and rarely `sexy’.

pchulbul619 · 2023-08-12T10:26:07+00:00

That’s your concern? Seriously?! Majority men don’t ever get a compliment their entire life, and here is your concern. Wow!

intjdad · 2023-08-12T10:28:43+00:00

Girls rarely use sexually charged words. Cute and handsome are real compliments as far as girls go. You want sexy you gotta either be jason momoa and over the top in an almost campy way or you have to be actively sexual behaviorly

throwawayobvi10 · 2023-08-12T10:25:43+00:00

Because those are generally words girls use to describe guys when they aren’t around. Girls don’t want to come off looking too easy and many of them feel that calling a guy hot or sexy to his face is like putting up a sign that says “If you play your cards right I’ll let you fuck me, the deck is stacked in your favor.” The only times girls have called me hot is after we’ve slept together. They feel more comfortable using those words once they feel like they’re not being “slutty” by saying it

TheReal_TribalChief · 2023-08-12T11:24:25+00:00

Seriously? I can count on 1 hand the number of compliments I get from women throughout my life, and you are complaining that these women aren't directly saying they want to fuck you? Here let me play you the world's smallest violin 🎻

redwastebear · 2023-08-12T10:44:16+00:00

Girls don’t want to objectify you to your face. Cute can means they think you’re attractive, either physically or your personality. Handsome is purely physical, but a classy way of saying it. Either way, if a girl compliments you that means you have good qualities.

STCLS · 2023-08-12T10:56:50+00:00

Well I’ve been called sexy quite a few times, but never have I been called handsome, so, there you go. TBH, my new GF says I’m the most handsome man in the world, but she’s the only one to ever tell me that, and I’m 40, so, I have no idea my brother.

Regardless, cute and handsome is quite the resume, don’t read too much into it, IMO, some dudes don’t get adjectives, AT ALL, so learn to appreciate the positive ones I guess :)

Ironvendetta355 · 2023-08-12T11:27:43+00:00

I'm so sorry but it's cause we ain't sexy. You gotta change it. March I was a size 22, now I'm a 14 ... I've barely eaten in 6 months and I'm still not hot. You gotta work.

tspice1 · 2023-08-12T12:45:14+00:00

Add muscle mass, it will enhance your masculinity. Had it happen back in high school. Same face but started to lift weights and got big. Senior year same chicks were throwing it at me. Fast forward to adulthood they love the physique. Oh yeah and dress very good, after the muscle get fit clothes. It will go from handsome to "he can get it".

xJohnThe1 · 2023-08-12T15:45:56+00:00

Listen, I know all these guys are saying women don't call men sexy, but that's bullshit. Women refer to guys as "hot" or "sexy" all the time.

If you're not hearing that you're sexy; it's because you're probably not that "sexy", even if you are attractive otherwise. Yes, attractiveness does not = sexiness. Let me explain.

I found this out because I had the same issue myself. Women would find me physically attractive, but they'd always say I was "cute" or "handsome" at most. Eventually I started taking an interest in growing my facial hair, which lead me to discover the concept of sex appeal, and holy shit it changed my whole view. Being cute and handsome means you're genetically gifted, but being sexy means you look like a dominant badass who could fuck them. It's just like when you see a modestly dressed beautiful woman, versus a girl in her crop top and mini skirt. The first one could be a genetically gifted 9, and you'll say she's more attractive, but the one you'll think about putting your penis in more is the one in the mini skirt, even if you wouldn't stick around long term. She has sex appeal. You see her as the slut you want to fuck, and the modest girl as the girl you want to wife. That's how women see us too, they see cute and handsome as "potential boyfriend material" while they see hot and sexy men as "I want to fuck him right now".

Women refer to Joe Goldberg as "handsome", while women refer to Jason Momoa as "sexy". Mike Ross from Suits is handsome, while Luci from Lucifer is sexy. You could be uglier than someone else, but be way sexier than them, and the girl would want to fuck you more.

Easy ways to increase sex appeal):

Universal Sex Appeal 1. Build muscle. The most obvious and most effective one.

Facial hair. 100% easiest and 2nd most effective way (debatably best way tbh) every guy before minoxidil has said it was a night and day difference with women. A well groomed full beard/stubble versus clean shaven can add 10 years and a shit ton of sexiness to any man.
Dress in sexy clothing that makes you look fit. Can do research on that.
Clear skin. Retinol & tretnoin almost guarantee clear skin to anyone who uses it.

Badboy Sex Appeal 1. Get a different hairstyle than the default afro. Something more "badboy" like twists, dreads, cornrows etc. Default afro is "handsome" but it doesn't say "sex", I've been there, trust me.

Jewelery such as chains and rings have always been and will always be sexy
Tattoos. Need I say more?
Piercings

Mature grown man sex appeal 1. Your dress clothing & suits etc must fit your frame. You cannot be fat for this to work.

A watch will always be sexy and sophisticated
Be well groomed regarding your hair and beard

Anything that makes you look either more "hard & badboy" or more "mature & grown/classy" will make you sexier. HOWEVER

do NOT go too far on the badboy spectrum as since we are black men, if we go too far down the badboy lane, it can make random women intimidated by us in person, despite finding us sexy had they seen us on social media or something.

Adding the classier elements like a nice chain, masculine watch, sexy clothing, and well groomed facial hair with some earrings should be more than enough, as you already have the height going for you.

And I know there's always gonna be that 1 dumbfuck responding to my post "Oh none of this works, genetics mean everything blah blay blah!!!"

that's what happens when you're locked behind a screen with no real world experience. There are plenty of ugly gangsters in every hood, and if you think they get 0 pussy, you've neither never seen the world or are fuckin delusional.

I started applying these things 4 months ago, and I watched the way my female friends & love interests complimented me change in real time. It was almost hilarious to me how our human brains work, and perceive someone completely different based on a few changes.

If you don't believe what I say, go to any woman you know in your life, and ask her about these things, and what she says will back me up tenfold.

And if you don't want to do that, or can't do that, then that's your business. Those who will listen, will know. Good day.

Upbeat-Chain-3494 · 2023-08-12T11:25:13+00:00

Any compliment is a good thing brother... as long as they are not saying "you're a nice guy" then you're straight.

DaygameCode · 2023-08-12T15:00:12+00:00

Because women don’t typically use those words. Specially if they still haven’t slept with you first. Sexually charged compliments make them feel easy, and cheap. So they’d rather play it off with something more subtle.

According-Ad-2367 · 2023-08-12T20:22:16+00:00

Cute and Handsome are words for your appearance, you need to talk seductively if you want to be called sexy. A lot of people here in the comments think that you should just be happy with that but the truth is everyone is worthy of improvement. Work on your game and how you use your words in a seductive manner and you'll find yourself being called sexy in no time.

Badguy60 · 2023-08-12T10:54:03+00:00

I get called cute and handsome by women at least 1 time every 2 or 3 months. It just means they find you attractive it's a good thing.

FriendlyRedditor23 · 2023-08-12T11:25:16+00:00

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Rhinosaur666 · 2023-08-12T11:37:16+00:00

Would you rather men call you that?

Ironvendetta355 · 2023-08-12T11:29:47+00:00

Quick scroll ... all the other advice on here is shit. He'll yea I make sure to tell the man in my life he's fking amazing, perfect, hot, sexy, handsome and I'm his cute little spikey haired special baby .... ya no I'm sorry everyone but it's really as simple as losing weight, finding a hobby to be passionate about and trying to be positive

jiva_maya · 2023-08-12T16:03:42+00:00

Because they think you're cute. Instead of framing it as an insult frame it as an opening. Something like "after a couple drinks I think you might find me a bit more than 'cute'". OPENINGS guys. Quit the bitching and moaning and take your openings.

A7Xnikko · 2023-08-12T16:28:07+00:00

Try talking to an adult woman. I heard they give adult compliments.

pluggdrip · 2023-08-12T18:50:14+00:00

handsome = sexy

Title	Why do girls only call me `cute’ and `handsome’ and rarely `sexy’.
Author	External_Lifeguard49
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Date	August 12, 2023 9:59 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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