How to get back or is it over?

HS-Thompson · 2014-11-12T21:03:52+00:00

You say you have "become RP with her" but you're not specific.

I have been answering a lot of questions in AskTRP and I have noticed a pretty serious trend of guys saying they "are red pill" but upon closer inspection it doesn't seem that way at all. Being red pill is about being a leader, about being charismatic and self assured and independent and strong. And also funny and graceful and fun to be around. A lot of guys think that reading the sidebar and going to the gym a couple times then becoming kind of a judgemental asshole makes them "red pill."

It doesn't.

I can't judge you as you havent been even a little specific, but there's a tone of bitterness and entitlement in your story that makes me wonder. What exactly have you done to change your relationship with her? What do you have to offer her? What goals have you achieved on your path to "becoming red pill"?

favours_of_the_moon · 2014-11-12T21:08:43+00:00

If she leaves, I will not have her rent contributing. If she stays, I wont have sex.

Doesn't sound like you're outcome independent to me.

tombreck2 · 2014-11-12T20:12:05+00:00

Married Man Sex Life primer might be able to help you out.

Also,

http://heartiste.wordpress.com/the-sixteen-commandments-of-poon/

FrenchMaybe · 2014-11-12T20:12:14+00:00

I started with the whole "Babe, I want you" etc. That didn't work. A few days after that I started with the "open communication" shit. She was still not responding.

Do you know what dread game is? Us the search bar on the normal TRP site and read 4-5 top posts on the topic.

If she leaves, I will not have her rent contributing. If she stays, I wont have sex.

Honestly the rent contributing part isn't too bad, you can survive. It's just money. Now I'm not going to sit here from behind a computer screen and tell you to "dump the bitch" but clearly something needs to be done and you can't logically talk to a girl. Start going out to bars with friends, go lift + exercise more, and give her a taste of you leaving. If you think the relationship is on the downward spiral towards it's termination then you be the one to end it - and if she ends it, take it like a man. You're right, she's about to hit the wall at 25, but you know there's a sea of thirsty betas out there, she'll be wifed up in a year or two. If you think this girl "is the one" then work this out, if you think she's not worthy of your affection then hasta la vista, baby.

kingofpoplives · 2014-11-12T20:14:06+00:00

I think this is the end of our relationship.

Yea...it's not looking good. Once the sex dries up, the writing is on the wall. Maybe try some dread? If that doesn't work it's definitely over.

Did things going downhill coincide with moving in together?

If you decide things are not salvageable you should end it ASAP. Dragging it out will just torture both of you.

bicepsblastingstud · 2014-11-12T21:16:15+00:00

The moment I started being outcome independent with her

What exactly do you mean by this?

I have always been RP with her, always held frame and never failed a shit test.

Provide examples, and be as honest as possible. You can say the words, but I want to see what you're talking about.

wallaby007 · 2014-11-12T21:57:31+00:00

How are you going to call the girl you have been in a relationship for five years a bitch? It sounds like your being bitter, and if you're already resenting her maybe it's best to leave the relationship.

NeedRPadvice · 2014-11-13T01:19:53+00:00

These days, this bitch is being unreasonable and being too up -tight. She refuses to have sex, and she works late almost every night. Sometimes she doesn't come home until 10-11pm. I know she is at work, and I keep close tabs on her while she is at work.

Why do you even want to continue a relationship like this. It sounds terrible.

Listen to yourself

InflatableRaft · 2014-11-13T04:41:57+00:00

The relationship has been over for while. Kick her arse out on the street.

If the mortgage repayments are too much, move to a sharehouse. You can either rent your place out to someone who can afford it or sell it.

Epicureanist · 2014-11-13T06:39:56+00:00

Realize how many women there are. How many women do you think you have to meet until you find someone better than or equal to her?

I would dump her and start meeting women.

mister_barfly75 · 2014-11-13T12:02:35+00:00

piece of shit

this bitch

If that's all she is to you, quit it. If she's about to hit the wall and wants the whole family/kids thing before it's too late, why should those kids have to grow up in a household where their dad thinks that mom is a piece of shit bitch? You'll only be contributing to a new generation of feminazis or misogynists AND set yourself up for a good old fashioned divorce rape.

FrameWalker · 2014-11-13T15:52:08+00:00

all effort is on you. you are your own girlfriend and she is just side action.

intelcorei5 · 2014-11-14T05:43:12+00:00

Once I was RP she started responding, but now, she doesn't even care anymore.

Now that I am RP

I don't believe you. Maybe that's my problem, maybe it's yours. In either case, I recommend reading it more.

I started with the whole "Babe, I want you" etc. That didn't work.
Good start, but I don't know what "etc." is here. Spell it out.

A few days after that I started with the "open communication" shit. She was still not responding.
Open communication is not sexy.

OscarWhisky · 2014-11-12T23:05:08+00:00

You sound like a clown.

Title	How to get back or is it over?
Author	ifuckeduponce
Upvotes	4
Comments	18
Date	November 12, 2014 7:54 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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