Am I alpha...or just Asperger's?

lm_Brian · 2014-11-18T11:12:56+00:00

The flipside is, I'm not charismatic and I'm basically just as unable to influence others as they are to influence me.

Best guess is this is caused by lack of practice, Do you get out much? Sounds like you're a stubborn introvert, which is basically the textbook definition of asperger's.

Apanthropos · 2014-11-18T12:36:27+00:00

Your post gives the impression that you are trying to make yourself feel special. However, by posting it here, you are doubting yourself, contradicting how you describe yourself in the post.

What do you really want to get after this post?

qwerty_asd · 2014-11-18T13:22:27+00:00

Alphaburgers

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SisypheanSavior · 2014-11-18T17:12:27+00:00

I have aspergers and I could definitely sum up the experience as being immune to outside influence but incapable of influencing others.

You are already half-way there. Work on reading body language cues and predicting how people will act.

ibuprofiend · 2014-11-18T15:24:43+00:00

Good lord... the kind of people who are attracted to this sub.

I have a kind of superpower.

Lol no you don't.

Why would I ever listen to their shit?

So you have money to buy your fucking lattes? lol

Perhaps I'm sociopathic or pyschopathic

People need to stop acting like mental illness is a good thing.

Finally, from the rules on the sidebar:

Avoid asking questions like "is this alpha" or "is this beta?" Instead focus on asking whether or not your actions were congruent with your goals.

You need to stop trying to put yourself into a box and seeking approval from people on the Internet. It sounds like you have trouble relating to people which is generally a very BAD thing. Social skills are the most important factor in getting a good job, getting a girl, and tons of other things in life. You need to work on your social skills, and no, pretending to be Hannibal Lecter is not the way to develop your social skills, despite all the Dark Triad bullshit that gets thrown around here.

I too am quite awkward and generally feel distant from people, to the extent that some have suggested I might have Asperger's (which btw isn't actually a disorder anymore), but I've improved quite a bit. "Fake it till you make it" will be your friend here. Also read Dale Carnegie... it's still the gold standard. Also, develop some confidence so you don't find yourself asking a bunch of Internet strangers if you fit their "alpha" label... that's about the least alpha thing you can do.

kingofpoplives · 2014-11-18T12:47:51+00:00

You definitely are not alpha. You may be sigma:

http://voxday.blogspot.com/2010/05/explaining-sigma-again.html

Johnny10toes · 2014-11-18T13:23:29+00:00

I did an eye test once where you read the emotions in peoples eyes. They asked if I had aspergers I did so poorly. I doubt this is my case, I don't look people in the eye often enough to develop this better but what about you?

Ermgotthis · 2014-11-18T13:40:35+00:00

You need to read this, OP : www.ribbonfarm.com/the-gervais-principle/

littledazed · 2014-11-18T16:28:39+00:00

You know there's a study which shows that people who like lattes are indecisive?

Misteralcala · 2014-11-18T16:36:08+00:00

Having Ass Burgers (that's what I call it) isn't a bad thing at all. It could actually be a benefit to you if you work hard and develop social skills to compliment your IDGAF attitude.

LeGrandDiableBlanc · 2014-11-18T16:42:52+00:00

Alpha in a social and sexual context refers to your ability to lead others/influence them to want your goals.

favours_of_the_moon · 2014-11-18T20:29:50+00:00

Asperger's is a cop out.

You can get better at that shit, if you want to.

newlifeasredpill · 2014-11-18T23:33:30+00:00

You can meet with a doctor and find out. Neuropsyche exam.

That way you can get best treatment

cray-cray-cray · 2014-11-19T02:04:23+00:00

Based on your self-description, you sound like an INTJ or INTP, with weak social skills.

I'm basically just as unable to influence others as they are to influence me.

Unable because you lack skill in doing so, or unable because you lack substance?

oldredder · 2014-11-19T07:13:59+00:00

Maybe asperger's, maybe an entitled child who has some special financial protection so you can afford to just quit jobs with no worries.

Given your lack of problem with impulse control, in your words, I'd say not Asperger's, except your description of just quitting a job is a problem with impulse control because it's an impulse to quit with a serious consequence for doing so (poverty), unless you're protected by some unmentioned wealth you won't earn, didn't earn.

Being a stubborn introvert is not an aspect of Asperger's - the other commenter saying this is flat out wrong.

suck4aBuck · 2014-11-18T15:52:43+00:00

this is one of those posts that I wish was accompanied by a picture of OP

Title	Am I alpha...or just Asperger's?
Author	rpsavant198
Upvotes	16
Comments	42
Date	November 18, 2014 11:00 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/2mnlme/am_i_alphaor_just_aspergers/
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