The power of eye contact!

desertroot · 2018-06-10T11:08:34+00:00

I'd like to share some experiences I have regarding eye-contact and how powerful it really is, both for seduction and power. Eye contact should never be underestimated, a lot of emotion can be conveyed in a single 'glance of the eye.'

Years ago I went to a String Cheese Incident concert in Central Park. It was right after the Phish band on 'hiatus' and there was this roving band of hippies looking to connect to the next party band. When I got to the show, I realized the hippies latched on this band and there were a bunch of them with their drums and spinning in circles. As I was navigating the crowd with my friends I passed this one spinning girl and she bumped into me, looked up and we locked eyes. For a split second I felt like she jumped into my soul. It was the weirdest and most powerful feeling that I ever felt at that time. I was NOT prepared for it and quickly left but I can remember that event to this day, how much it impacted my life.

After that incident I started to get interested in how eye-contact can affect people, for good or bad. I read a great article (can't remember the URL) that talked about this journalists journey into using eye-contact in all kinds of daily interactions. He was really scared of eye-contact as most of people are. His method was to make it point to look into the other persons eyes just long enough to figure out what color their eyes are. That was long enough to make an impact. Once he started doing that, he noticed his service at restaurants or the bagel shop was better. At work, his contributions were acknowledged more (he would lock eyes on his manager), etc.

Think about how you use your eyes for flirting? Or in anger? It's a huge body language indicator and you should really spend some time studying this.

Rick-Morty · 2018-06-10T09:44:56+00:00

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Aristox · 2018-06-10T12:48:24+00:00

I can tell most of the time if a girl is interested in me just by eye contact alone. Most of the time I don't act on it however since my confidence is 0 >.> Also when their pupils dilate does that mean it's an IOI? I've only seen it once or twice but I know it's a sign of interest.

hunterpua · 2018-06-10T17:08:09+00:00

Completely agree.

My cousin once brought his girlfriend to a family reunion and I thought she was hot as fuck. Stealing girls from family members is kinda off limits to my personal morals but I had already made it a habit to make deep eye contact and project my intent with any girl that I'm attracted to so whenever I talked to her that's what I did. And I guess I also did it to relieve the "craving" I had for her a little bit.

Anyway, we had this moment where I got inside my aunt's house where the reunion was being held and she comes in shortly after, asking me where the toilet is. I look over to her and hold deep eye contact while I'm feeling like fucking her brains out deep inside. There was a long pause between us, the kind of pause where you only notice there was a pause when you look back in hindsight because we were "lost in each other's eyes". (I know its cheezy but thats the best way I can describe it.) After that pause, I just made a simple joke about how she isn't allowed to use the toilet then she giggled and I told her where it is.

We didn't see each other again until the next day.

Next day comes around and she is flirting with me hard. When I got to my aunt's house to have lunch with the relatives, she calls me over to sit across her, while having lunch she constantly tries to get my attention making comments about my sunglasses and other random stuff, this was making me really uncomfortable because her boyfriend, my cousin was sitting right next to her while she was doing this. Later in the day she comes up to me out of nowhere and says, "Hey, we haven't had our photo taken yet." then sits beside me and gets really close to take the photo. Then later on that night while I was singing karaoke with a bunch of relatives, she comes over and says she wants to do a duet with me. Finally, really late in the night she invited me to her hotel for an "after party".

I'm against stealing a girl from a cousin but stealing a girl from a cousin with a high likelihood of getting caught in the act?? Hell no.

Once the reunion was over all of us went back to the cities we lived in then a few days later I get a notification that she tagged me in a post on Facebook. It was the photo of me and her. It was the only photo she posted from the reunion. There were a bunch of comments asking, "Hey, who's that guy?" She responded to one of those comments saying, "Mark. Hahaha."

Mark is my cousin's name

yamehameha · 2018-06-10T11:03:52+00:00

Wtf where do you live there is no way this would happen here in France

Rick-Morty · 2018-06-10T15:09:36+00:00

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vesselofmadness · 2018-06-10T14:21:34+00:00

jus this weekend that happend. after locking on i gave her a light smirk. she proceeded to move tables to get closer, and was sitting next to me 5 mins later. i dont actively seek for eye contact i jus notice their attention is in my direction. im pretty average on the looks department. too. its akin to an inside joke with a freind. someone mentions that thing and you both look at each other just know.

2018-06-10T17:38:07+00:00

I had an experience like this I work as a receptionist behind a desk and this hot milf came up to the desk to ask a question and as I looked at her dead in the eyes I had smirk on my face and that moment was so intense its like just by the look on her face it telegraphed what a thousand words can't get across. As I was look her in the eyes she looked me in the eyes with this very suggestive smile. I swear I felt like if I were to get up and make out with her right there and then I would have gotten away with it.

DrizzyDavePG · 2018-06-10T13:20:44+00:00

r/Thathappened

SpicyFetus · 2018-06-10T23:32:47+00:00

Yea this post is bragging but it does have a good message. Eye contact makes a difference

Xanarxses · 2018-06-13T02:03:46+00:00

Wtf is wrong with like 20% of you?

Part is mad that they don't get any action or attention.

The other part is so uptight that they treat this whole pickup thing like it's flipping burgers at McDonald's.

canarywocoalmine · 2018-06-10T14:04:11+00:00

I did an exercise as part of a workshop that involved stopping a woman walking and staring into her eyes without saying anything for as long as she would stand there and then when she started walking away, stopping her again. These interactions literally lasted 90 seconds with only eye contact. It was completely insane, but as said, eye contact is very powerful.

zbf · 2018-06-10T14:02:46+00:00

This is how the step 1 be attractive meme was formed btw. Posts that offer no value but try to explain random encounters (which could not happen to everyone) with some random strategy or thing you think you did.

Dont go off on me saying looks dont matter, they do to an extent and im not arguing it.

Cant wait to use more eye contact and get called sexy by random girls who are with their boyfriends!! Thanks OP

PlayLikeNeverB4 · 2018-06-10T20:12:58+00:00

Or maybe you're just sexy?

2018-06-10T21:23:23+00:00

Cool story

LimitedContributor · 2018-06-10T22:32:34+00:00

Good for you, man.

Rick-Morty · 2018-06-11T20:01:58+00:00

Was she a 6 or 7? I'd believe it if she was below 8.

ToxicRocketry · 2018-06-12T03:53:31+00:00

Yeah, eye contact is a definite winner. Losing it is also a good way to dodge unwanted attention. Happened to me once with a girlfriend of a relative. I was really just being friendly and my usual self until she started getting a bit TOO friendly and I spent the rest of the evening avoiding her gaze. At most, half a second of acknowledgement just out of common courtesy. It’s a nice way of easing the tension in a polite manner.

Rick-Morty · 2018-06-12T15:22:12+00:00

Can't believe I never knew the power of it before

JuiceGasLean · 2018-06-17T19:24:45+00:00

Lol this guys really full of himself wtf

Title	The power of eye contact!
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Date	June 10, 2018 6:27 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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