I should start this off by saying I don't frequently go out and approach random women as it isn't my priority right now. I want to focus on my own career and continue investing in myself before anything which in my industry tends to take up all my time.

On Thursday I started feeling pretty lonely as I hadn't been focusing on girls and hadn't busted a nut in about 3 weeks so I was looking through my contacts to find someone to go out with for a night and found the contact to a girl I met at a party a couple months ago but never followed up with. Let's just call her E.

I sent E a message asking if she remembered who I was and what she's been up to. No doubt she remembered me and she told me how she was suppose to have a cooking date with him tonight but the guy made up some bullshit excuse and cancelled on her at the last minute. She was really bummed out about it and I took the chance to ask her to cook with me instead tomorrow. She was down.

The next day, E says she forgot she had made plans to meet up with friends at a bar but I was free to join. My BS meter was going off the charts; I figured she either wanted to friendzone me or well, we only met once at a party and she didn't trust me yet. Either way I took it as a challenge upon myself to see how good at gaming I really was (or how rusty I was lul)

8pm rolls around and I tell her I'm close, she says she's running behind schedule and would meet me there. Not sure why but I've always disliked being the first one to show up at an event so I told her I'd go get a coffee and come over when she was at the bar. Coffee turned into food... and I ended up coming 30 minutes after she got there and she kept calling me and texting me but I was eating so I didn't respond.

Instead I just walked over at my leisure and took her by surprise. The first thing she does is stick her hand out for a handshake and doesn't even bother to stand up off the couch. I was a little cheesed but I knew this was gonna be a challenge and I was excited. I'm introduced to all her friends but only other one you should give a fuck about is a girl I'll call H. At this point the first thing I need to do is get her more engaged in me than she is her other friends so I just start talking about random shit that was going through my head and telling her weird facts/stories/whatever to get her more interested in what I was saying and judging by her reaction she wasn't too happy with me showing up late and was being overly critical about my jokes. So I decide to disengage a bit and start talking to her friends about whatever the fuck they were talking about and sort of leaving E out of the conversation.

I wanted to show her that: Yes, I am here for you but if you're gonna be a prude I'll just hangout with your friends instead. eventually H and E go off to do something and I follow along and as I'm trying to contribute they aren't really paying attention to me... so I just walk away and go talk to some other guys at the bar about their night and what do you know E and H are following right behind me shortly after. We all move back to the couch when I realize OH FUCK WHERE'S MY WALLET.

So I'm searching up and down the bar looking for it and when I go back to the couch where E and H are sitting. It's in E's hand I was relived until I found out she took out $10 from it before deciding she was going to give it to the bar and she admitted to it. Now I'm ready to leave and I'm giving her the hard cold shoulder and sit next to H.

H and I really start going at it talking about a TV show we both really like and when I move closer to her on the couch I think E started to feel the pressure. As soon as H got up to go to the bathroom E was all over me, seems she realized I had some self respect and started giving a fuck about whatever I was talking about.

Shortly after we go to another bar I'm cracking a couple jokes here and there but despite how much I CAN talk I can also choose to be really quiet and not say much. So I don't really say anything of importance or make any moves till we got to the other bar.

Once we sit down things are flowing a lot easier, I start doing some escalation, making jokes, powerful eye contact, and absorbing all her attention. I'm pretty sure I talked to her friends more than she did from that point on. I had her hooked on me. I pull back my kino a bit whenever I start losing interest in what she's saying and eventually she starts trying to escalate on me. I found this really amusing. Keep in mind at this point in the night I've already decided I don't want to see her again but I wanted to see where this night took me so I stuck around.

We pay our part of the bill and suddenly she just gets up and starts leaving without saying anything (????) Unsure what was going on for a few seconds she says she's going home and I guess I'm going with her. The rest you can prolly imagine but continue talking bullshit I start getting philosophical about life which I don't she was really following what i was saying but it doesn't matter. Once we get to transit for the first time I kiss her, I like leaving the kiss off as long as possible cause it drives girls crazy and gives me more control.

It wasn't clear that I was going back to her place right now so by kissing her which lead instantly to making out. I asked her if she wanted to chill longer and I could come back to her place. Just so it was verbalized that that's what was happening and so we did.

After everything was done and we were just laying in bed she was just feeding my ego a bit telling me how nervous I made her, how I'm one of the few actual confident men she's met, called me cute, etc.

I've been thinking a lot about how I made her nervous?

Was it a result of my powerful eye contact? Yes.

Did I make her feel like I had other options and wasn't invested in her? Oh yeah.

And the real driving force was my choice of when to speak. I'm perfectly comfortable in silence and I made that apparent. Which made her uncomfortable (in a good way, for me anyway).

My biggest improvement from last night was the fact that over the course of the entire night I didn't have a single drop of alcohol and was able to get her from friendzone to parading me with compliments something I previously hadn't done much or had as much success with.

Thanks for reading :)