Talk to girls like humans...people like you, with life goals and hobbies.

Adventurous_N_Smart · 2018-09-14T05:13:39+00:00

Agreed! The humanity point of it is awesome.

Though, at the same time, I think there is a difference between friendly communication and sexual/romantic communication. I know I've personally made the mistake of just having friendly communication. Then, the girl just wants to be a friend. So, I think the real challenge is mixing the friendly communication and adding bits of sexual/romantic advances.

ImJustSo · 2018-09-14T12:31:19+00:00

The only good take away here is to treat women like human beings.

You should definitely think about having sex with them though, and you should also act like that's what you want, or you'll always be just a friend.

The difference between friendship and an intimate physical relationship is....physical intimacy. So you can act like a friend, but you need to be a friend that wants to touch and does try to touch. Once your touch is rejected outright, you stop making physical advances and you remain a friend.

If your physical touch is accepted, you touch more intimately, you rinse and repeat until you reach sexual intimacy. If you don't, then you're a friend. You can choose to avoid physical intimacy, or she can, but if you don't want to be just friends, then don't act like just a friend.

AdorableStrategy · 2018-09-14T03:13:51+00:00

This is the first thing I teach my fellow bros. Women are people, not just walking pieces of meat. I once had a guy ask me how to get laid without having to socialize or do any of the work. I said “Wtf?” I’m sure he’s still jerking off into McDonalds cups.

One_Insanity · 2018-09-14T14:19:38+00:00

I hope you all get laid this September

Nice sentiment but that shit ain't happening fam 🤣

A solid 5% of this sub will get laid this September. And it's mostly dudes that were getting laid August, July, June and on and on.

But like I said. Nice sentiment.

WhiteningMcClean · 2018-09-14T13:31:29+00:00

First you have to find single women who actually have hobbies.

skepticscorner · 2018-09-14T15:43:44+00:00

But I was told that women are agents of chaos, and that if I just clean my room and eat nothing but meat, salt and water then the women will come to me.

/S

nasty_nater · 2018-09-14T22:19:19+00:00

One thing I've noticed that helps to get some sexual tension or at least get the ball rolling towards more sexual tension is to just talk about sex.

For example if you're on the topic of craziest things you do or have done, segue into a topic like "So what about in bed? I bet you like getting your hair pulled." etc. etc. obviously teasing while doing it.

I've been on dates where this was essentially a replacement for actually kissing her or doing a lot of kino before getting back to my place, then back at my place it just happens. Really gets people in the mood!

MiZiSTiK · 2018-09-14T08:55:52+00:00

Instagram likes is a hobby I guess?

yaboimissesezlayups · 2018-09-14T15:38:26+00:00

It’s Haaaaaard

Purplelmist · 2018-09-14T07:41:45+00:00

Struggling with this as a junior in high school. Got any advice for where I could start treating them like people? Lol

goron24 · 2018-09-14T15:34:47+00:00

As good as this is, note that this doesn't work on dating sites.

OwnedByOwn · 2018-09-14T19:41:26+00:00

This you call.. A nice guy trait. How to be different?

caesarfecit · 2018-09-14T19:44:19+00:00

Most guys are bad with women because they don't understand women and don't understand that their emotional needs and responses vary from person to person, as well as context and time.

What works like a charm with one woman may fall flat with another, or what worked before might lose its effectiveness.

Talking to a woman like a friend is just one move to make, one tool in the arsenal. That move alone won't work with any girl unless she's basically seducing you.

It's most effective when you have already established sexual tension and need to build rapport. Like comfort phase in classic Mystery Method. These two elements of seduction need to stay in loose equilibrium. Too much rapport and she'll either lose interest because you're not escalating or attracting or she'll start thinking about turning you into an orbiter. Too much sexual tension and she'll start acting flaky, weird, and shit testing, trying to seize control of the interaction. Or she'll just bounce out of fear of doing something impulsive.

Point is, use platonic conversation as a way to ease the tension or hedge against her insecurities. Just don't overdo it otherwise she'll take you for granted or get bored.

NervousFace · 2018-09-14T20:19:15+00:00

Well I also work with a lot of girls. I have social anxiety tho and get nervous. Then get nervous face and scare girl away. It's gotten to the point at my work place, I have a whole department not talking to me.

Title	Talk to girls like humans...people like you, with life goals and hobbies.
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