If you don't want to date girls at the moment, how do you improve yourself?

highjinx411 · 2018-09-20T20:51:37+00:00

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In-State · 2018-09-20T15:17:49+00:00

Make a list of a bunch of things that you are afraid to do even if you are afraid a little bit doing them but you want to do them and then make a plan for each thing on how to gradually achieve doing that. In other words be getting outside of your comfort zone in each area of your life everyday. I think this is one of the best ways to improve yourself and become powerful as a person and have more fun in general in your life.

Mr_Wasteed · 2018-09-20T16:47:46+00:00

TLDR: I read. Dont play video games and watch (recently been a little more) less TV/netflix/show. Explore ideas that fascinates me. I paint, play guitar, etc. I do go to the gym. Also, imo, Self improving yourself in different aspects you want or working on yourself is mutually exclusive of dating.

I am very very busy atm. I am a grad student and in suburbs. I am not that successful at dating because i cant find single girls that i enjoy conversation with. I do enjoy the conversations with friends and meet people socially but as friends. And mostly i girls meet them via apps which are just a means for me to try out dad jokes lmao.
Currently i am reading Models, meditation on first philosophy, the stranger (recently finished nausea), at the existentialist cafe. if that matters.

K3wp · 2018-09-20T16:20:00+00:00

I think of it as switching between active and passive mode for pick-up.

I'm in 'passive' mode right now, which means I'm focused on my keto diet, abstaining from booze, hitting my target weight, paying down debt and working on some career stuff. I'm still running my playbook any chance I get (i.e. "day game").

When I hit my target weight I'm going to setup tinder/bumble profiles, buy some new clothes and start drinking socially again. I'm too old for the 'club scene' (and never liked it to begin with), so I tend to stick to smaller venues, like speakeasies, wine and martini bars.

I don't even think of it as 'dating'. It's a lifestyle and it's just a matter of degree how focused I am at it.

bringbackthefax · 2018-09-20T22:31:19+00:00

If you don’t enjoy meeting new people, maybe just accept that about yourself? I mean there’s no rule you have to be a social butterfly. Be the strong and silent type.

Put yourself in positions where you are naturally around the type of women you want to meet. If you like slim and flexible women (hehe) perhaps get a yoga teaching certificate or whatever.

Especially Americans have this weird extroversion fetish. Introverts fuck too, you know?

NobleMinnesota · 2018-09-21T04:09:55+00:00

Go to museums. Listen to the great courses. Buy an old car and restore it. Find something you loved as a child and start doing that again. Recreate a movie with your friends and your cellphone camera. Play board games with friends. Learn to surf. Move somewhere else, like Vienna. Join meetup.com and do all the things in your area even if you're not sure you like some of the events. Create a project around learning something new. Build something.

I really enjoy illustrating. It's one of those things that I have to do, but I had to discover that along the way.

stime22 · 2018-09-20T16:04:13+00:00

Read books about spirituality. It helps to understand people and makes you stay over the common everyday drama

SoohillSud · 2018-09-20T20:50:39+00:00

Lift heavy weights.

piperson · 2018-09-20T23:00:56+00:00

Find something that you've always wanted to do or learn and aim to do that. I've been finding learning drums very rewarding. I play them every day and every day I find that I improve over the previous day. Not only does it give me a sense of satisfaction but it also makes me a lot more interesting because I can pull it out and impress people but the main reason I do it is for meditative purposes. When I drum, I aim to "zone out" and "go on automatic". This is the Eastern state of "no mind". When I'm stressed, I just bang all of my tension away.

Anyway, I believe that everyone should pursue a passion. If everyone did, not only would people be a lot more relaxed and have more self confidence, it would make the world 100 times more interesting than it is.

hoverBread · 2018-09-21T10:04:57+00:00

Pretty much what everyone already said. Pick something you're curious about and immerse yourself in it.

I would recommend that you don't overanalyze it too much. Sometimes the concept of "improving yourself" is a slippy one.

aiyy · 2018-09-20T18:13:32+00:00

I have been single for over two years now and the thing that I have loved doing the most is spending quality time with my friends. I’m a woman so I don’t know if this is a thing guys prioritize or if it would be seen as weird for you to do this, but I’ve loved taking day trips with my few close friends, maybe go to the beach or go camping, both fairly inexpensive activities. Being active with my friends, taking hikes going rock climbing, going to the pool or hot tub. Seeing movies or going to fun events like music festivals, karaoke nights, or theme parks.

Also it’s been fun to make additions to my personal appearance. A year ago I chopped all my hair off and loved it. Now I have it dyed platinum blonde. I got my first few tattoos this past summer and bought some clothes in a style I wouldn’t have typically worn. Changing up my appearance has been fun because I think it solidifies my character and the parts of me that are unchangeable. I learn what is a constant part of my personality and what is not.

You could also add extracurricular activities to your agenda :) I do club sports at my school. I’ve also done musical theater, and now I’m starting a volunteer job at a local cat shelter. There’s an endless amount of groups and events you can be a part of depending on your interests, and that’s also a GREAT way to make new friends!!

Hope this helps :)

Title	If you don't want to date girls at the moment, how do you improve yourself?
Author	aiyy
Upvotes	53
Comments	30
Date	September 20, 2018 3:07 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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