This technique is a fundamental staple to my game and I wanted to share it with you all, as I've had the most success with it. I'm sure it has a more technical name, but I like to call it "The Option". I rate the level of difficulty for implementing this technique as Beginner-Intermediate. But it can be implemented in advanced ways.

 

When having an interaction with a girl, and you are going for the close with her, always: blatantly give her the option to leave or not continue with the interaction.

 

A good example of this would be asking a girl for her number. "Hey, so it's been pretty fun just talking you seem pretty cool, to be honest. Do you want to trade numbers?" She replies with, "I don't know" or "Ehhh". This usually signals she's unsure about whether she should continue and/or feels pressured to respond. I would respond with, "Alright how about this, I'll hand you my number shoot me a text if you want to. You don't have to though, totally up to you. I just figured it'd be pretty dope to hang out etc. etc."

 

The bolded phrase is giving her the option this is the key point, and It does two things:

  • First, it takes the pressure off of her because "Purportedly the phrase weakens the target’s perception that her or his freedom to say ‘‘no’’ is being threatened" (Carpenter, 2013)
  • Secondly, it shows your comfortable with yourself, and that not committed to any sort of outcome (or maintaining your outcome independance)

 

This method works when applied correctly and I've used it with probably 80-90% of my approaches if not all of them. From my experience, most women love when things happen organically since romanticism is so prevalent in the U.S. many have the idea that romantic interactions should happen much like a movie script. Where the guy is cool and calm and confident, this technique definitely gives you that sort of aura. Also, I want to mention that the exact wording can be varied you don't have to say EXACTLY one phrase.

 

"the exact wording of the technique has varied, but it always emphasizes the targets right to say ‘‘no.’’ For example, Gue´guen et al. (2011) found the phrase ‘‘But obviously do not feel obliged’’ (p. 36) is just as effective as the standard ‘‘but you are free.’’ The studies that have varied the phrasing but consistently emphasized the target’s freedom have uncovered no substantial differences in the technique’s effectiveness across the variations in wording." (Carpenter, 2013)

 

Most recently I've had a girl tell me this:

  Her: "You know, when first meeting you I wasn't really sure if I should hang out with you or not it was a little forward but you said something that really stuck out."

  Me: "What?"

  Her: "You said that I could text your or not, you gave me the option to leave, a lot of guys are controlling or power hungry so they don't do that but you, you're different.

  Me: (Fuck yeah)

  Her: "What was that?"

  Me: Nothing I just had a seizure don't worry about it, wanna hit the hot tubs?

  (End Scene)

 

All in all, this tactic can be applied in all walks of life. In a business transaction for example, when a buyer seems interested and then starts to walk away, the seller will chase the buyer hoping to not lose the sale. More importantly to us, I find it most useful when you're getting "frozen out" or when you're trying to have sex with a girl and she's not having. It might be slightly more advanced but you can say something like this: "It'd be cool if we fucked (or had sex), but if not the doors right there, you can leave when you want, or we can just hang out and not fuck too. Play some video games, snuggle. Whatever you wanna do."

 

Women love this shit sometimes. Sometimes they want you to take control and say "no let's fuck right now." But most of the time they want the option on the table, here's the thing though they want the option they don't necessarily want the activity.

 

I hope this helped you guys out if you didn't know this, and if you did know this I'm glad I could remind you about it! I love game and seduction and I think attraction is extremely important when trying to get any goal your after when it comes to seduction. Whether that be a relationship, casual sex, a cougar, or whatever you're into. Whatever it is you must know how to attract the other person it is a fundamental part of relationship psychology. Feel free to message me anytime you have any questions I'd love to help!

 

Caio Bellas,

  Fear

 

Side Note: /u/Innergamedude posted a really great meta-analysis study that talks about this technique in terms of communication and is centered simply around gaining compliance. I wanted to highlight this study just for your reading. I recommend reading this if you have the time, but of course, you are free not to read it.

Link to the article

  Link to the research paper

 

Edit: I've made a ton of edits and I'm gonna make a ton more probably, also added some evidence from a meta-analysis

  Wow upvoted to #2 in r/seduction! Thank you guys I appreciate all the support :)