Give her an experience, not just a date

bulldog_in_the_dream · 2018-12-09T19:08:32+00:00

First dates are for getting a feel for whether you are compatible or not. I think they should be low stake and easy to retreat from — as much for your own sake as for the girl's. Having a coffee, grabbing a beer or just going for a walk in the park are good activites for this.

Also, you should not try to impress the girl with the date by selecting a fancy location or going to an expensive restaurant. Comes off as needy. Why would you want to impress a person you don't really know yet? For all you know she might turn out to be a neo-nazi and the money you spent on that expensive meal will be lost forever.

alwaysalmostnever70 · 2018-12-10T00:21:07+00:00

You guys are over thinking this. Invite her over to your place, leave together in your car, grab a bite and a drink at your favorite place then go back to your house, put on a movie then make a move and she’s going to go for it because she would t be on a date with you if she wasn’t into it. Save the fancy shit for when your trying to be in a relationship with her

dontaskforthewifi · 2018-12-10T01:19:25+00:00

Went on a first date for the first time in a year. We decided to go to the movies. BIG MISTAKE. I felt like we only talked for 15 mins and then watched the movie and went home. Don’t go on a movie date unless it’s at the end of a dinner date or something more fun. In my opinion, bowling is the best first date. Fun, flirty, competitive, and you aren’t sitting in front of them feeling forced to talk like on a dinner date. Bowl, talk bowl, talk

ExtraCheesePlease88 · 2018-12-09T18:45:44+00:00

Skimmed through really quick, but I’ve always told my friend, if you want to impress a girl, take her to places she’s never bee , good never tried, or wanted to. Don’t ever bring her to boring places like movies on first date.

mrrooftops · 2018-12-09T19:19:07+00:00

Basically like throwing a kids party.

quinnmcd · 2018-12-09T19:27:26+00:00

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BreadSquare · 2018-12-10T16:23:23+00:00

Very strongly disagree, a first date has an extremely simple purpose which is very easy to carry out, just talk and get to know each other. All you need is a setting to talk. You're two strangers, you can easily talk. You don't need frills or experiences or activities. Some women ask for that and I associate them with girls who look for high income chumps who give out free dinners and entertainment.

bostezo22 · 2018-12-09T18:57:04+00:00

The best experiencie you can bring to her is to make her squirt several times. "He's not like the others!"

Flintblood · 2018-12-10T13:01:19+00:00

TL;DR - Do all the work to entertain her. The success or failure of a date is all on the male - in a cisgender hetero date.

jachcemmatnickspace · 2018-12-10T02:36:40+00:00

I cant stress this out more. I am in a happy relationship with a fucking 9,5 rn that 10 random horny guys are texting to everyday because of this.

We started as friends so I knew her a bit.

I know she is adventurous, so I planned we'd just go to do some urban exploration and end up on the roof of an old hospital, watching the sunset. I brought some wine and music, but in the morning. I knew that's cool, but what would make that shit memorable for her? I already did more than anyone but I needed to underline it.

That morning, I saw a her IG story that was a screenshot of some shitty IG post about black roses, how they only grow and are available in Israel or where the fuck. She wrote how fucking cool they are, and I know she really liked it, it matched her lifestyle, hard to explain. I bought one rose, bought graffiti spray and went to hide it in the hospital. When we went there later on the evening, we chatted, it was going great.

Then I went back and when she wasnt looking, I got the rose and the spray. I brought the rose up before her and sprayed it to black, she fucking cried, cried.

WASNT ENOUGH TO GET ME THERE. But built something special, she couldnt lose me, but didnt want me I guess.

One week later, we talked that we are always stoned and we should just hang out in some coffee place clean haha. So I said ok. Before she came, I went to McDonalds, bought her favourite vanilla latte and went to get her. We went through a bridge when I suddenly pointed to a bench and told her to sit. I pulled 2 coffee cups from my backpack and poured the coffee there. There was a beautiful view to a castle. Then there was wine (yes I had wine glasses too).

Coming back to our rented place (we went to a concert and rented it for 1 night), I had one more thing ready. You know these plasma balls with the electricity beams(google it)? It's pretty common but she didnt know that and one time, when we facetimed, she showed me some encyclopedia book that had it pictured on cover and she was like whatthefuck is this, it's so cool.

I had it all set up. I only covered her eyes and brought her to the table, put her hands on it. She cried so fucking much.

Went to a concert, slept together, now we are happily together and she loves me like noone.

It took me 2 months of these dates, was like 6 of them. But I gave her something that noone can, adventure, stories she can tell to her friends... While also being higher value and somehow hiding that I like her.

So yes. Be creative, make her every minute with you fucking worth it. Every girl needs adventure and stories she can tell to her stupid friends.

canyousmellechidna · 2018-12-10T04:01:26+00:00

I like the way you think OP, but a lot of men don’t do this anymore. I enjoy fun and memorable dates myself, but modern men would rather watch netflix at home than go out and have fun.

I like that you brought up mini golf, mini golf parks with rides are so much fun!!

greenlion98 · 2018-12-10T04:42:39+00:00

Idk if you don't know her that well I'd say that getting coffee is the move so you can get a better idea of whether or not you two are even compatible.

FeelTheLove- · 2018-12-10T19:26:29+00:00

As a great recommendation is to give a person something that he/she will remember, experiences are the best ways to remember things.... for example last week I took a girl that I´m hanging out to Yosemite park and its so much better to take her to movies or dinner.... you need to take it out and try new things instead of doing the same everyday

Title	Give her an experience, not just a date
Author	quinnmcd
Upvotes	205
Comments	39
Date	December 9, 2018 4:55 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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